When is it time to call it quits ?

Question

I am 38, married 5 years. My 1st (10yrs long) and blessed with 2 kids. This is his 1st. I feel he has no clue on how to handle cues and signals in just about every area. I am always making efforts to improve our communication, and he sits in silence and doen't know where to begin. I read books and love to be improving all the time. I am tired of "rescueing" How do I keep looking at the bright side when I am always in the dark with him? When does enough become ENOUGH?

Answer 1

when you get tired you sit and talk about ...but if he clueless steel get out go live your life you`re Young

Answer 2

you married this man and now say they you have two children together and he does not communicate well with you at all , you knew whenyou married him that he had a problem with communicationg you must have known this before some people just dont like to talk all the time. if theres no bright side to this who are you blaming him instead of your self I am sure you played a part in this also. Sit down and at least try to get though before you end your relationship. Lets be real okay
best of luck

best of luck

Answer 3

No, it is not time to call it quits. He handles things different then you do. Most men are very different than women. Don't try to change him. You need to work on yourself. He sounds like the quit type and you are the outspoken one. If you are in the dark with him then everything is probably good to him. There might not be any problems and that is why he does not say anything. Don't give up. Marriage is until death do you part not until you hit hard times!

Answer 4

I have been with my partner for 29 years and we had counselling once because we were not talking or even interested in what the other was doing at the time we had two children. we were advised to talk to each other for 10 minutes a day, we were told not to interrupt, each other, and to just listen we had 10m each and had to talk for that duration, at first it was very hard and i did wounder what i would say for 10m then by day 4 we were talking for hours like we used to, it turned out that i thought he didn't care and he thought i had enough problems with 2 children and that i didn't need to know what he had been up to give it a try good luck.

Answer 5

First of all sounds like you expect him to read your mind. Is he Mr. Cleo... I bet he's not. Give him a break and enlighten him in whats up. Be truthful and say whats wrong.... Unless you voice you opions he'll never understand and you will leave this relationship unanswered. Unless you already made a new relationship and you are looking for an excuse to despose your husband. Think whats up with you????

Answer 6

What the hell are you talking about? Cue and signals? Why don't you just talk? Humans developed that communication skill for a reason.

Answer 7

It depends on what you think when enough is enough. Because you have to be happy in life also, and if you have to keep trying to save your marriage or communication it will be up to you only.

Answer 8

Enough is enough when you absolutely loathe the person, and they have treated you so badly that you cannot ever forgive them enough to want to be intimate with them anymore. Thats when you call it quits. Short of that though, work on things!

Answer 9

First, you need to stop dropping hints. Men don't get hints. You need to be direct and specific with what your wants and needs are...VERY specific.

If you tell him what you want and need in plain English and he still makes no effort to improve your relationship, then it's time to get out because you will never change him.

Answer 10

Don't end it yet. You owe it to your kids to try to improve this relationship and keep it together. Seek counselling together to get at the underlying issues.