Would you go to Thanksgiving dinner if a persons oven is broken?

Question

My aunt who i hardly know, invites me for thanksgivng. i hesitated but said ok because shes weird.
Then she calls and says oh my oven is broken, icant make a turkey so we have to settle for turkey breast.
I dont know, i think i rather do something else.
what do u think?

she never invited me for dinner ever, i feel it may be BS.
shes cheap, even though shes a millionaire.
Turkey is alot of work and costly.

sky i said shes weird, because i once thought i was bonding with her and took a vacation, she left me alone the whole time.

In no way am i bringing a turkey over, i have treated her for years, i live in a rented building walk-up, she owns 3 luxury homes

youd think a millionaire could buy a catered turkey?

I have cooked dinner for her about 30 times in the past

little im asking the question because its odd, this woman owns 3 luxury homes, has over a million bucks, i live paying paycheck to paycheck, have cooked dinner for her about 30 times, she never invited me to her house, or treated me ever.
Now this is the first time and her oven is broken?
why not get it fixed, i would
i hardly know her because she keeps distance and is not honest

Answer 1

unless you like sandwich run

Answer 2

You said you would attend Thanksgiving dinner at her house because she's weird or in spite of the fact she's weird? Not sure where you're com min' from dude. Ummm, you did say you would go so I would say you are committed. Go and make her feel special, my guess is if you see her as weird, others may also and she could probably use a friend. Here is another suggestion. Why don't you roast a turkey and bring it over as a surprise? It's so easy and even if it's your first time, there are directions on the back that tell you exactly how to do it. Also, take advantage of some of the phone centers that are set up by turkey distributors around the holiday. They will talk you through it! So, now you have done two great deeds. Spent the holiday with your "weird" aunt AND brought the turkey. You are well on your way to being one very cool and thoughtful individual. Good luck! ps, please don't bail on her...I have a strong feeling about this, OK?

Answer 3

First off, this sounds just ridiculous. To not go to a relatives house, cause the oven doesn't work, is just beyond me. Thanksgiving, and especially this time of year, is the time to spend with family. Whether or not you hardly know her, it's never too late to start a healthy relationship with your aunt. To get to know her.
Weather she is rich or not, is not the point. She's making an attempt to invite you over, weather it be Turkey, or tuna sandwiches, it's the quality time is what really counts. Ultimately, it's your choice whether or not you choose to go.
If things are as bad as you make it seem to be, then by all means, don't go, and make other plans. But If I were you, I'd call her up, explain to her why your not coming, how your feel from situations in the past, and either get it resolved, or move on.

Answer 4

It sounds as though your aunt is a sandwich short of a picnic. How is she planning to cook this turkey breast? By holding it over a candle? This is what I would do: investigate other activities & decide what you'll do afterwards. Have a late breakfast/lunch so you won't be hungry if the cupboard is bare. Do not be emotionally blackmailed into cooking this dinner under any circumstances!

Bring a box of cookies. Set a limit of one hour ( to yourself). If she pulls one of her usual stunts, you can stay for a few cookies & tea (or water, if she doesn't have tea). Should there be nothing to eat when you get there, you're covered. Stay the hour, thank her for her hospitality & leave. (Do not mention eating ahead of time. If she wails about being hungry, smile and say that you hope she'll manage, meanwhile, let's have some cookies. Do not, under any circumstances, offer to take her out or take her back to your place for dinner).

She cannot complain that you didn't show up; if she does, she will have to admit that she invited you under false pretenses. She offered you a holiday dinner, didn't ante up; you stayed for the dessert that you brought (noble soul that you are) and politely moved on.

Meanwhile, you will have moved on -to something you enjoy without guilt. If you continue to follow my suggestions whenever this aunt tries her mascinations, she will get the message that you are not there for her convenience. Of course, should she break her pattern & actually have prepared dinner, be gracious & enjoy! Happy Thanksgiving!

Answer 5

I'm a vegetarian, so if there wasn't going to be a turkey then I'd be thankful and go.

You could always volunteer to cook up a turkey yourself and bring it over.

Tell her if she buys the turkey and brings it over then you'll cook it and bring it when you drop by.

And having good relations with a person has to start somewhere, so what has gone before shouldn't prevent them from ever occurring.

Answer 6

The best turkey I have ever eaten was slow cooked over charcoal. They injected it with garlic, liquid smoke and other seasonings along with olive oil inside and out. It was tender juicy, yum! This was at the home of a dear family friend who does not have an oven, ever. Everything was delicious and I brought the pie.
If she still comes up with another excuse after you offer this solution, you know something else is up and can ask her about it.

Answer 7

Your aunt is trryyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyying that is the important part. But if you don't feel comfortable about the situation, I do have to admit it is really weird that she should call you back with the my oven is broken bit, call her up and say "Aunt___, I just don't feel comfortable with going over there now that you've told me that your oven is broken, I will just make other plans for the holiday, thank you for letting me know; if you didn't really want me to come to begin with all you would have had to do is say so and not make up some excuse." If she doesn't like it guess what?: that's HER issue.

Answer 8

I would go somewhere so you can have a real turkey dinner with all that stuff. Me I choose to work this year cuz I don't care for thanksgiving anymore cuz my family is too split up.

Answer 9

I'm not sure why you keep bringing her finances up.

You said you'd go, so go! You hardly know her so this is your chance to get acquainted.

And turkeys really aren't that expense or hard to make.

Answer 10

Uh, what do you think is the point of Thanksgiving? If it is all about the turkey, then by all means skip it. If you think it is more about spending time with your extended family then go.

Answer 11

it is still turkey and family. i think maybe she is lonely so you should go then maybe do something else later on. alot of people go two or three places for the holidays. take care of family first.