All my life I've had people like and care about me but once I find that out I tend to avoid them. I realize the problem now, so what can I do to fix this issue?
2007-11-11 07:57:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
wow, dude you're really screwed up. the only way to fix that really is to be more excepting of other people. you have to be willing to let them care. but to get to that point you'll have to get there yourself.
2007-11-11 08:01:50 · answer #1 · answered by Ossren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate....you build walls to protect yourself, so noone can hurt you...I do that also, When people say they are my friend I let them know I have no friends and don't want any...that's really not true...but I just say that so when something does happen I am good to defend I have no friends... I tell them I have no heart, (It was ripped out a long time ago)...therefore I have no feelings...The ones that are your true friends they know you and understand why you are the way you are and they like you anyway...I too am working on a way to fix ...But honestly think about it, is there anything wrong with how we deal with issues from our past...I actually think it's a smart way to be ...we obviously have been hurt...in a big enough way that we have chosen to protect ourself from pain to the point of basically being a loner...someone once told me don't expect and you won't get hurt to most that sounds negative...it doesn't to me...I use that on a daily basis and it honestly helps you can use that in anything...If you don't expect then you don't worry about what you lost cause you didn't expect anything, anyway...I hope that makes sense to you...If you haven't seen the movie Good Will Hunting(one of my favorites)...check it out...Will is also like that he has his reasons as you have yours and I have mine...we all have a reason ..., I took psycology and learned alot of what I had gone through in life they taught in this class everything was quick learned because it was like my life, I got an A and realized for every action there is a reaction...your fine ... it doesn't matter what people think of the way we are...Perhaps they need to focus on themselves...thanks for the question...I like to help people understand things if I can and I hope this helped..
I posted this and saw something that bugged so I wanted to add this...The people that come on here and say Go see a doctor...God, they bother me...Perhaps they need to look at themselves and ask who is really the F*%cked up one....Go see a doctor yourself... Hope you don't mind I sayed my little piece to one of your answerers...Take Care....
2007-11-11 17:07:44 · answer #2 · answered by Trix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be an underlying issue here, did something happen to you in your past or childhood where you were hurt and felt you couldnt trust?
You need to see a counselor or a psychologist to get your problem straightened out- you're realizing that you have it but you obvioulsy don't know where it stemed from, so you can't fix it yourself. Trust me it'll help you a lot.
2007-11-11 16:26:23 · answer #3 · answered by maki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those who care about you have the power to hurt you in a way that a stranger never could, even with the most insidious device. A stranger can cut out your heart, but only one who loves you can truly break your heart.
Those who do not care about you do not see you, they see the mask you wear to hide your true face. You are not so afraid of what they may think of that mask, only of what they may think of what lies beneath it, and what YOU may have to face about yourself when the mask comes off.
How to "fix" it? I am sure it will be a long journey for you. Do some self searching, read some books, see a psychological or philosophical counselor. Hopefully you can remove your mask, gaze upon your own face in the mirror--and once you accept what you see, you can let others in.
2007-11-11 16:08:06 · answer #4 · answered by Hurkumer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I think that unless it is EXACTLY as you put it, there is nothing to really worry about.
To begin with, the question should be: What is YOUR attitude towards them? Do you care for them as much as they care for you?
If the experience is not reciprocal, then it is evident why you run from them: you feel intimidated as they are not respecting your own personal space.
If the experience IS indeed reciprocal, then it just means you are scared. I'm sure that when you meet someone REALLY special, you'll feel differently as she'll respect your timing and give you the confidence you need.
Good luck! :)
2007-11-11 16:19:19 · answer #5 · answered by elisatorres1978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a natural thing... don't worry about it.
It simply means that deep down inside you want to be independent and self-sufficient. It's a good thing. It's the natural evolution of every human to eventually want to be completely independent.
2007-11-11 16:06:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone to talk to. A counselor or a minister. you need to explore why you do it and how to change this.
2007-11-11 16:06:22 · answer #7 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is because you dont want them to get so close to you that you end up getting hurt a lot of people are this way... its ok you need to learn trust..
2007-11-11 16:05:59 · answer #8 · answered by Kieri Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go see a doctor
2007-11-11 16:06:03 · answer #9 · answered by sk939 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋