why date for two years, tell an 8 year old kid who lost his mom to call you mommy and get married then in 7 months say you didnt get what you wanted and you gave up on the marriage and bailed?
what kind of dirtbag does that?
i raised this kid on my own since birth, finding a wife to complete my family was important i am 29,, i didnt take anything for granite.
so why bail?
2007-11-11 06:59:20 · 9 answers · asked by amayseng 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
nope she just one day started saying she was unhappy, she hated her life, she didnt know if she wanted to be married to me or not...
but she started spending alot of time away from home..going to the gym 7 times a week
2007-11-11 07:04:26 · update #1
That is not a very nice woman at all. I hope you find true love and, a mother for your son. But, even if you don't that is ok also cause you are doing the best you can with him and I am sure he is going to be just fine.....Good luck and sorry
2007-11-11 07:05:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sympatize with you and feel bad for your little boy but instead of approaching this with anger take the time to heal from the inside, Dude while i do not support this woman, no one just bails from a marriage just like that, I think there might have being some problems that you are kinda in denial about, i think you two need to talk about what really happened ( for your own closure and for future relationships). Hey every dissapointment can turn into a blessing be thankful that at least she bailed early,. would you seriously wnat an unhappy woman as a wife, take your time learn from this relationship, forgive and move on.cheers
2007-11-11 07:28:06 · answer #2 · answered by Versacetica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she got to missing her life before she met you.If she's going to the gym that much and staying out so much.. its a good assumption she's going through some kind of emotional change.. trying to change how she looks and all that.
did she ever say what she wanted? I mean if you got kids.. the partying days are over for the most part.. kids come first.
I am stepmom to 3 children. I never asked them to call me mom. Because for one I didnt want them to feel I was replaceing their natural mom. But I did explain to them that even though I wasnt their birth mom.. I loved them like t hey was my own.. and all that sort of thing. and we all get along fine.
But its important if she would do it.. for her to sit down with you and tell you exactly whats in her heart and mind.. and why she feels so unhappy. I think until you do that.. things wont ever be right. maybe she felt like you were with her just to help you raise your kid. Sometimes frayed emotions get the best of us.. and all KINDS of stupid things go through our heads..when logically we know its not true.. emotionally its a train wreck.
But.. its not fair to you.. or your son. sometimes when a step parent goes into a relationship... their needs have to be put aside for the needs of the children involved. Thats what being a mom is all about.. I dont think she felt like she could handle it.. and got scared and left.
I could be wrong.. but thats what I gather from your post about the whole thing
2007-11-11 07:13:06 · answer #3 · answered by laylah1000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one can answer that except your wife.
Sometimes people enjoy the romance of dating, and have an idealized view of what marriage will be. They can be their best when they aren't dealing with a signif. other on a daily basis.
As soon as the ink is dry they feel trapped, or start to be over whelmed by the daily problems, the idea that it is forever, or the "sameness".
Maybe there were indications that this would happen, or maybe it was as much of a surprise to her as it was to you. We all have emotional issues to deal with both in and out of marriage. We sometimes don't realize this until it is too late, that is why the divorce rate is 60%.
Plus, some people aren't willing to work through the lows of marriage....and there will be many low points. They view it as a fairy tale, and it just isn't, it is real life. Best of luck to you.
2007-11-11 07:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is a good question. And the answer is that people all ways change their minds and the real fact is that people allways make stupid mistakes. If that were ever happen to me i would of coarse think about what i was doing in the first place and not make a rash decision. And if i did make a stupid miskake i would tell the person why i did it and hope he understands.
2007-11-11 07:19:19 · answer #5 · answered by ♥babygurl♥ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bravo, some people needs to hear something like that.
why get married if your gonna bail in 7 months?
In my opinion a lot of people now days just get married as a way out of something. These are people who don't value themselves, who think marriage is just a game.
And then, they come out blaming their own failure on the partner.
No values=no happiness.
2007-11-11 07:10:27 · answer #6 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like maybe she met someone else since she was going to the gym so much, and she must have thought that person could offer her more.
that is a real dirt bag is right - that is really a low thing to do especially to a kid.
to some people marrage is a game
the only one that can truly answer it is her and you and your child deserve an explanation - so if you have the chance i would certantly tell her how you feel and ask why ?
2007-11-11 07:18:43 · answer #7 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be a reason????
Anything happen between you two?
2007-11-11 07:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
relationship problems most likely?
2007-11-11 07:08:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋