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Long story but my Husband and I had seperated for about 2 months. We both were seeing other people before we decided to work it out. He was seeing this girl for 3 weeks and when he dumped her, she went crazy. She emailed him & ME trying to start problems. He told her that we were working it out. We blocked her... then she email's us from another email address. He and I just ignored her. She let us be for about 2 weeks almost and now she is texting him! He refuses to reply. He showed me the text messages and basiclly she was trying to turn him against me.

His plan is to ignore her. Do you think she will just eventually go away if he ignores her? Ive tried to tell her, he's tried to tell her and she just goes crazy!

2007-11-11 06:55:50 · 28 answers · asked by none-ya 2 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

28 answers

Hopefully your husband is right. Just let her go. But in the mean time maybe keep a record of what she is doing in case she tries to go a different route to get at you both....3 weeks in not that long she should have let go...sorry

2007-11-11 07:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

You may seriously have to get a restraining order against her. If you do and she contacts you guys you can have her butt locked up! Now a days courts are taking these restraining orders very, very seriously. She feels like a woman scorned and who knows how long she will be capable of this foolishness. YoU certainly don't want to end up like Fatal Attraction. Have her served with the restraining order, preferably at work so that there are witnesses to the fact that she had one served on her.Plus, they would probably constantly remind her to stay away from you guys. Let her know that this is a serious matter and YOU will not tolerate it one more time. I don't care how CRAZY she goes...........she her that she is not gonna mess with YOUR husband or YOU ever again! Good luck! Just don't take the law into your own hands. She isn't worth getting in trouble.

2007-11-11 07:49:06 · answer #2 · answered by whatshername 5 · 0 0

My fiance and I arent married yet, we still have about 9 months, but when we first got together Ihad the same exact problem with his ex. We had a roomate who was friends withher as well. She knew that we where living together and decided she was going to try to "hook up" with my fiances roomate. She was coming over, calling, and just doing little things to get me upset so I would leave him. Finally 2 years later she decided to give up. We both ignored her and if she showed up somehwere we where, we wouldnt even look her way. Keep trying to ignore her, I know its hard but its the righ thting to do at this point. If she does anything more drastic to get your or your husbands attention then go to the police and fillout a restraining order. Good Luck to you and your husband.

2007-11-11 07:15:20 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs Brown 8/2/08 3 · 0 0

This is why ya dont screw around on your spouse, even while seperated! Just because you seperate from your spouse doesnt mean its ok to go and mess around with another person, no, no! Your husband is the one who is to blame here, and I,ll tell ya another thing, it takes two to tango, Ive yet seen anyone male or female who just keeps coming around and texting another person if they didnt believe that they didnt have a chance with the other person, so if I were you ld make damn sure that your hubby isnt fueling this girls fire, I,ll break it down a bit more for you, just in case you didnt catch that little statement, I feel that your hubby may be leading this girl to believe that their may be a chance? I mean its possible? If your husband has the nerve to screw around he can also lie, so while in your hearts of hearts I know you dont want to believe its true, but I really feel that he might be playing both of you, If Im wrong, then sorry, but I feel theirs alot more going on then what you are seeing, men like to tell ya what you want to hear, so Im sure he,s telling you this girls bugging him and shes a pest blah, blah, blah! But, when you turn your back, you never know what he,s saying to her or the line of crap hes feeding her.

2007-11-11 07:28:13 · answer #4 · answered by penelope 5 · 0 0

Have him reply in front of you. If that does not work have him call in front of you. If that doesn't work maybe you should all 3 meet with a restraining order.

Chances are he may be telling her nothing behind your back. If he cheated he will lie.

I would not want to be with someone who has a stalker. Most likely in some way he is egging her on.

Think about it.. that is the same easy way out guys always use. Always blaming the woman saying she is crazy. Maybe he made her crazy.

2007-11-11 07:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by momoftwo 3 · 0 0

emotions can be difficult to deal with. I was in a similar situation. except it was an ex wife doing the same things.

it never stops if you ignore it. it will continue and get worse if the person does not show any kind of attention towards her. I wouldnt be surprised if she showed up at your home one of these days.
seriously I would go to the police and get a restraining order on her. then if she bothered you any more .. take out charges. Because its looking like you have a stalker on your hands.. and thats dangerous business.

2007-11-11 07:02:24 · answer #6 · answered by laylah1000 2 · 0 0

Have u tried letting your husband explain things to her==or you both sitting down and having a lengthy , bare all conversation with her? She might need confrontation for some closure. She might even think if she keeps contact with him he will leave you again. If this isnt an option then maybe a restraining order would help but that might just make her angrier and she might find more ways to keep bothering you. I think she just needs to be made to understand that it is over for them and she should move on===and i would do whatever it takes to make her see that.

2007-11-11 08:13:08 · answer #7 · answered by Southern Belle 2 · 0 0

I might think about getting a restraining order.....or have her snubbed. Juskidding. But in all seriousness, a protective order might be the way to go. A lot of times things that just seem like clinginess turn out to be something much much worse. Ignoring is what seems to make it worse. I've seen this happen with a friend of mine and it went from one of them being annoyed to one of them being fatally shot. So be careful. Best of luck to you love.

2007-11-11 07:01:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You don't go around dating people just because you've split up for a few weeks.....that's ridiculous. So ultimately the two of you brought this on yourselves.

Ignoring her is good. But I'd make a log of her calls/texts and take them to court and ask for a restraining order.

2007-11-11 06:59:40 · answer #9 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 1 0

get new cell number so she cant text him at all,, but my guess is that he is leading her on and that is why she is still trying to contact him. He has two women fighting over him now. I wouldnt pay any attention to it at all and tell him that it is his responsibilty to put an end to the relationship with her and continue on with your own relationship as a couple. You wont even know what she is saying if he doesnt bring it up to you and why would he want you to see those messages anyway? To prove what?

2007-11-11 07:01:35 · answer #10 · answered by kindfirez 3 · 0 0

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