my crush is one of the most popular guys in school. hes the star basketball player and he drinks...i lied and told him that i do too and he caught me in the lie and he texted me and said 'do you feel that you have to lie to impress me, cause i know you are' and i said whatever thats BS. but we have 3rd hour spanish together...i dont want to totally avoid him cause it would seem like i was lying but i dont want to be clingy...do you think i should come to class late to avoid talking to him at the beginning of class? we'll still talk at the middle and end..
is that okay?
and PLEASE dont say haha you lied this is what you get ANY advice would be helpful thanks
2007-11-11 06:48:50 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
im not going to text him for a while
2007-11-11 06:49:03 · update #1
thanks...im nervous hes like going to hate me...he CAN be a jerk you know
2007-11-11 06:53:51 · update #2
THE PROBLEM IS I TOLD HIM I WASNT LYING
2007-11-11 07:03:04 · update #3
You are "under the influence" of alcohol and you don't even drink! Rather than worry so much about this *guy*, take a good look at your feelings about alcohol.
2007-11-11 07:19:04 · answer #1 · answered by Socion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Nixbox....
Coming clean shows him that you're able to admit if you've made a mistake...He may even find it flattering that you wanted his approval so much...
It also may help him learn to stop drinking, because if he's doing it to fit in, and sees that you were willing to lie about something for the same reasons, and that you both are feeling the pressure of peers, then maybe the two of you can be allies in the fight to make your own choices for your own reasons, and not because your just following the crowd!
EDIT:
The deal is, If you go on with your lies and not come clean you'll lose him anyways, what kind of relationship is built on lies? And then there's the chance of backing yourself in a corner with your own lies and end up doing things that you may not want to do...Better to admit it, and apologize...then to keep going! Nothing good can come from continuing this. End the lying NOW, while it's still manageable!
2007-11-11 06:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by Mommacat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is angry because there is no need to lie. If he is ok with the fact that you dont drink then he is a cool guy if he tries to get you drink then he is not worth it because who knows what he will try and get you to do later. He seems like a nice guy because he is mad that you lied so that means he is ok with you not drinking. Just come clean and dont lie in the future because he may be like jeez if she lies about drinking who knows what she will lie about later.
2007-11-11 09:03:57 · answer #3 · answered by Jav 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay. so:
this sucks, but you have to handle it in the right way.
say:
"I've thought about this, and you know, I don't drink. but I don't have a problem with your drinking... I just didn't want you to judge me based on my being straight-edge. that's all"
btw, you may not know what "straight-edge" means... I just found out two days ago
=]
it means that you don't drink and/or do drugs
also, you don't have to say it in exactly that way, but those are the things that he needs to know. you can come late to class, but when you guys talk in the middle or the end, just make sure you get those points across
good luck!
=]
2007-11-11 07:00:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best advice, Fess up and say...Yes I did lie, to impress you. I thought it was a good idea at the time...but I realize it wasn't and I am sorry. Tell him it's just, you like him so much and sometimes peer pressure and the need to fit in, seems over whelming.
You may find him completely understanding, especially since his popularity may be the reason he does some of the things he does....
2007-11-11 06:52:33 · answer #5 · answered by nixbox4 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all- you shouldn't have lied, and if he asks you to drink to prove it then just come clean- don't be sucked into anything you don't want to do.
Second, if you want a relationship ever with this boy think about it- would you want him to lie to you about who he is? Just come clean. If he's worth it, he'll understand and maybe you guys will end up hooking up.
You don't want to be known as the girl who lied and kept it going do you?
2007-11-11 06:53:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
by lying to someone about yourself, you are putting yourself in a hole right away. he's either gonna like you or not. so if he's gonna like you, it should be for who you really are, not what you think he likes. he may like girls that drink but he may also think they are s l u t s ! he may like the fact that you don't drink, i mean who knows. either way its a compromising situation.
u either come out and just tell him look i lied, or stand pat and say hi in passing or ask how his day is going....wait and see if he brings it up.
2007-11-11 09:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain and tell him your sorry, and that you hope he can forgive you. I think coming late would work....as long as your teacher doesn't mind too much. Just act normal and then at the end YOU be the one to bring it up at the end of class. Don't worry, hun, you'll be fine! Let me know how it goes!!! <3
2007-11-11 06:54:08 · answer #8 · answered by mk 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I would come right out and admit I lied, actually. He'll probably respect you a whole lot more for being honest than he will if you pretend you didn't lie or ignore him. If he's any sort of respectable human being, he will forgive you for it and respect you for telling him. If he does't respect it and makes fun of you, he's not worth crushing over, now is he?
2007-11-11 06:53:55 · answer #9 · answered by ♫Joshua's~♥~Girl♫ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Firstly, DON'T go to class late or avoid talking to him, that would look like you're lying...just act normal and still chat to him and stuff...how did he find out you lied anyway???
2007-11-11 07:03:08 · answer #10 · answered by ~[♥] Fallen Angel [♥]~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋