if your married is it ok to have friends of the opposite sex? like for your husband to hang out with girls? yes or no and why?
is it to much to ask for him not to?
2007-11-11 05:43:45 · 12 answers · asked by ___ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thats the thing he is getting defensive.. and says that i am not his parent and that i shouldn't have to meet them, that it would be awkward. i don't think he would cheat but i am trying to feel comfortable with it and what he is saying isn't helping any.
2007-11-11 05:57:50 · update #1
Its ok if you have trust for each other. What if they were friends before you knew him? If it makes you feel uncomfortable then ask to meet his friends and let him meet yours and then you know he has nothing to hide. ask him if you could all ang out from time to time and let him know you want to be involved, but also give him time to just be with his friends too. The foundation of any good relationship is trust and honesty.
2007-11-11 05:49:50 · answer #1 · answered by cutiepie28966 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh check out my question because i just asked the same thing..."friens with opposite sex", and see what many on here has to say. i think personally it is ok to be friends with opposite sex as long as your partner communicates with you on all levels about the friendship, and makes you feel secure by introducing you two them or having them come by the house when you are there, obviously, lol and stuff like that. if he is not doing that, trust him but keep an eye and ear out.
2007-11-11 14:01:28 · answer #2 · answered by mama2be 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I believe being married and having friends of the opposite sex can lead to disaster.
2007-11-11 14:43:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unpopular as this may be, I believe that having friends of the opposite sex is healthy...
That said, I would NEVER tolerate not knowing the friends and who they are...... same sex or opposite sex.
Also, your feelings and views on this topic are very important and valid... you are not being a parent... you are being true to your own values, feelings, and perception... however YOU view this topic.
2007-11-11 14:14:16 · answer #4 · answered by Bentley 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can not control the person you have married. The two of you should have talked a lot more before getting married. This is a pretty big difference and will be tough to overcome.
2007-11-11 14:08:39 · answer #5 · answered by Hubby . 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. All cheaters use the we're just friends BS.
Keep your eyes open, check phone bill for strange calls and most important, follow your instincts. If he gets defensive and cannot or will not follow your request, he does not give a rats a-- about you because he is seeing someone else.
2007-11-11 13:51:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is okay to have friends of the opposite sex, as long as you are not having sex with them.
Demanding that your spouse give up his/her friends just because of marriage means that you are very insecure and childish... and it will probably kill your marriage.
There is nothing sexier than a confident, self-assured person.
2007-11-11 13:49:14 · answer #7 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Now he is wrong about that - there should not be a problem in YOU meeting the girlfriends.
My husbands knows my male friends.
And sorry - as far as I know - more people than you can imagine DO cheat. How sure are you really that your husband doesn't?
2007-11-11 14:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by julesloveslife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is ok for him to hang out with them, like going out and stuff. But to have friends who are women, as long as they are friends with you too, is ok.
2007-11-11 13:47:26 · answer #9 · answered by Shubunkin 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, sometimes.
Personally, I prefer for my husband not to have girl friends.
It's just too much drama, you really dont need.
2007-11-11 13:50:44 · answer #10 · answered by BB 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋