I found out last week tha tmy boyfriend was cheating on me. I had just lost my dog of 14 years and was already upset when I pried the truth out of him. Shocked, I walked out of his apartment and left. I havent spoken to him since Tuesday night, where I had a screaming match at him on the phone in which he informed me that it was only right since I had "done it to him" (we had been on a break from July-Sept, with no contact. I had engaged in oral sex with a male friend during hat time and had confided in my bf once we were back together) I think this is crap and I have given him a second chance already. It's been almost a week since we spoke and about two days since he stopped calling. Should I just keep ignroing him or what? Im afraid to talk to him since he has a way of manipulating me. I dont want to go back to him, he will cheat again, I know it. Plus, I might be pregnant. Im not really stressing over it, but I feel like my friends' advise is slightly biased...
2007-11-11 05:25:42 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
During the break we looked at it as "broken up" and he and I both were seeing other people. I dont think I should have this held over my head, because I think he's not admitting to what he may hve done in these two months.
2007-11-11 05:29:15 · update #1
We have been together for 9 months, excluding the break.
2007-11-11 05:31:02 · update #2
I would be done with him, if I were you. And I'm not surprised he cheated on you. Both of you seem to take sexual activity very lightly. Obviously it doesn't mean much to either of you, which is sad because it can have very serious physical, emotional and spiritual consequences.
In the short time you broke up, you were both "fooling around" with other people so don't be so quick to judge him.
And from now on, abstinence should be your policy.
If you are pregnant I would strongly suggest giving the baby up for adoption. You are not ready to be a mother and a teacher to a child right now - the life you are leading right now would be a horrible example to an innocent child.
2007-11-12 03:19:14 · answer #1 · answered by Veritas 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your definitely in a tough situation.
If you two were broken up and that was when you had a sexual relationship with someone else then I wouldn't consider that cheating. However, if your boyfriend was sleeping around while you two were together then that is cheating.
He will most likely not agree with you on this, but I don't think you did wrong considering you were broken up when it happened.
As for the possible pregnancy, go to your doctor or a local Planned Parenthood and get a blood test done because it can show accurate results much sooner than a home pregnancy test can.
2007-11-11 05:34:03 · answer #2 · answered by Madison 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i wouldn't be with a man that cheated on me and he seems like he is using the excuse that u did it first even though you guys were split up at the time. you know he was sleeping around also.. and if i was you i would tell him after you find out for sure that ur preg that your preg bec if u tell him now all ur going to do is scare him away and make him think your just lying to stay with him and if he is not man enough to take care of his responsibilities then i would even worry about him let him see his child and if he wants to be there for you and the baby then that's good but alot of men grow up after having a child and that may be what he needs to grow up
2007-11-11 05:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by Dclp8204 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Too much drama. Be done with it. If you're pregnant, let him man up if he wants to and be a father, but you don't have to be stuck in a crappy relationship "for the sake of the baby". Walk away.
2007-11-11 05:31:16 · answer #4 · answered by Take A Test! 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He obviously isn't worth your time or energy. Usually people break up the first time for a reason... just let it go. If you are pregnant... you will have a decision to make, but if you aren't... just move on with your life.
2007-11-11 05:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by Holy Macaroni! 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋