If so where is he now?? How did you end the relationship,or are you still in this abusive relationship?? What are some of the things he has done and said to you. I just dont want to feel alone..
2007-11-11 05:20:07 · 31 answers · asked by Im just tooooo freakin cute 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
trust me hon...you're definitely not alone. when I started college i had a guy who used to hit me all the time. he'd yell at me in public and humiliate me. eventuallly i started to believe all the things he said. my life felt out of control. i should've left the first time he laid a hand on me. luckily i had friends who cared enough about me to hold a sort of 'intervention' and get me out of there. they probably saved my life. i got a restraining order against him and moved. i have no idea where he is now and i dont give a sh!t.
ladies: you might think you can never leave but you can. and it's the most freeing and liberating feeling in the world. don't let some coward of a man control your life. now i have an absolutley wonderful man in my life who treats me with all the love and respect i deserve.
2007-11-11 05:30:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Both, more verbal than physical, but the physical has happened too. I don't really want to get into what he has done or said here, but trust me you are not alone. Have you left? If not you need to. I know, believe me, easier said than done. After 12 long years I finally made him leave a few weeks ago. It's hard to do but it gets easier every day. Just be sure you have some great friends to help you through. Whether they are there with you or even friends from here, you need a support system. I've got some awesome friends here that have encouraged me helped me probably more than they know. Email me if you want to talk or need any help, the link is in my profile, don't let him do it to you, there are better guys out there who know how to treat a woman right, you don't need to take it!
2007-11-11 13:45:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
My ex husband both physically and verbally abused me. It started verbally and before I knew it he was pushing and hitting me. I left him and he is now in another state and can't keep a girlfiend while I have been engaged for the past three years to a great man that would never hit me or call me names. My best advice for anyone in that same situation is to get out at the first sign of abuse.....it wasn't the easiest thing for me, but I did it and am happy I did!
2007-11-11 13:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by Scooter_The_Squirrels_Wifey 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My ex was one of the coolest people I knew, I am still in contact with him now, but he suffered from depression, and although I wanted to support him, he made it very difficult. Illness was no excuse for the things he did. He punched me once, and I hit him back, but only I got arrested. He also never let me say much, because he always wanted to be right. He admitted he was dominant at times, this just caused friction, and I ended it earlier year, he found his stuff outside when he didnt bother returning home for two days, and I know he is so sorry, but I and my son cant put up with that crap. I told him when hes back to the way he was 2 years ago, Id have him back with open arms.
2007-11-11 13:31:22 · answer #4 · answered by Missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have been married to an abusive man for 11 years. Right now we live in the same house but are not "together" in any sense. He did many things, many times. I have escaped death more than I would like to think about and have been threatened with it as well. I do not want t o get into specifics but there have been many years of emotional and physical abuse. You are not alone but I do suggest you get out...I am still working on my escape
2007-11-11 13:26:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
My ex husband, yes. We were together (married) for 22 years. He got worse after he was diagnosed as bipolar....he then used the disorder to excuse his culpability in his abuse....I thought I was doing the right thing by sticking it out 'for the kids' all the while hoping it would get better. It got worse. And when he wasn't busy blaming the bipolar disorder for the abusive behavior he was busy blaming me.......if I made his happier, as I was responsible for his happiness, if I did this, if I did that...and when I did them he always had a new set of demands. If I didn't meet these demands he would threaten divorce and would sometimes walk out temporarily to manipulate me into what he wanted......he was never, ever satisfied. So, when he walked out the last time I told him he couldn't come back & he laughed saying "oh yeah, and what kind of job are you gonna get?"....that was like a bucket of cold water over my head. I realised I was facing a lifetime of this..inbetween his involutary comittments 'cause he either didn't take his meds or mixed them with alchohol...the kids didn't deserve this chaos so I didn't let him back. Went to court & got full legal & physical custody of the remaining 3 kids ( the eldest was on her own by then),got a full time job ( I'm a professional baker, retired now) and got a divorce...Spent ten years on my own rasing the kids and supporting us.....and ended up making more than he ever did for as I got stronger and my paycheck increased, he lost job after job and ech one payed less than the last....
During that time I met a wonderful man but being gun shy of men it took a lot of patience and understanding on his part but he says I was worth it...we just celebrated our 1st wedding anniversary...the kids think he's great, my family loves him & I absolutely adore the guy....and my life couldn't be better here in Nashville....
..and the ex? he's fried his brain so bad messing with his meds & alcohol that the only job he can hold is in the packing dept of a store out somewhere in Des Moine for minimum wages..can't have a driver's license 'cause he now takes
seisures...a lawyer brother of his has power of attorney but keeps him housed in a furnished apartment 'cause none of the relatives want hin in their home or near their families.....sad....
Honey-you need to get out and not look back. I did. I hadn't worked in 20 years when the ex took a hike but I managed to support kids and pay a mortage.....you do deserve better. And don't be afraid to be alone for a while....you can't love/take care of someone else until you can love/take care of you....and when you least expect it, when you're not even looking....the fellow you deserve will appear. Good Luck.
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E-mail me at shamrockgreen0929@yahoo.com if you want to 'talk'.......
2007-11-11 13:52:07 · answer #6 · answered by The Original GarnetGlitter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, you are not alone sweetie. My ex was verbally abusive to me and sometimes he still is (he sends text messages to my cell phone). I ended the relationship because there is only so much abuse one can take. Don't let them get you down because that is what they are trying to do. I hope this helped....
2007-11-11 13:25:55 · answer #7 · answered by Melancholy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi- You are NOT alone! I was married to a VERY abusive man- both verbally and physically. I got tired of covering the bruises and wearing a "mask" around people, especially my family. It took a one year plan, but, I got out of the relationship. I never called the Police until after the divorce- He tormented me, stole my vehicles, would come over drunk, pounding on the doors- destroyed my car- HE WENT CRAZY! I had to have him put in jail after coming over, breaking in, and beating the hell out of me- after 8 months of being divorced. He called me everything but my name. He is still a very mean person, who has a very miserable outlook on life. We have a 16 year old daughter that has learned his behaviors. It is truly sad. I got restraining order after restraining order on him- had to carry it with me @ all times- had to document everything he did to violate this. While married, I was ready to do myself in, I truly was. Death felt more comforting than being married to this monster. I won't say anymore about my former relationship. JUST REMEMBER, YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Make a plan, get out, go to a Womens' Shelter if need be. There is help out there for you. I feel for you. Take care and good luck with your future!
2007-11-11 13:54:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Verbally..yeah .. but i abused him back.. physically. No. I'd kill him.
He used to tell me what he thought I should be,often times commented on how pretty other girls were while I was with him and told me that I wasnt as pretty as most.
I told him it was over,he cried like a little baby. He finally left me alone after I blocked his number.
He told me I was too skinny,too pale...and so on. Really,if you're in a bad relationship like that..get out. It's not healthy..and you deserve better.
2007-11-11 13:23:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Verbally and physically. I took it for three years and that was three years too many. Harden your heart, walk out the door and never look back. If you believe him when he says he won't do it again, he's changed or he's sorry and needs you and you go back, it will be a big mistake.
If you want to email me, I will talk to you, but I will not go into detail here.
2007-11-11 13:39:00 · answer #10 · answered by Breezey is saying HAPPY BIRTHDAY 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋