is it possible to forgive someone that u thought was cheating on you but u didnt have proper evidence of it?? only a sent text message??and they say they lent there phone to a friend. can you ever 4get or will it be in your mind forever??
2007-11-11 05:12:12 · 21 answers · asked by Sexy lady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only you can answer that question , if you have always had trust issues with this person then i'm sorry babe there is nothing you can do let it go and stop holding on however, if this person has being a very good boyfriend to you and had never given you cause to worry try to get to the bottom of all this for peace of mind or just take his word and move on with your eyes open.. If it starts to be a pattern then clearly somehting is amiss. you are blessed with instincts use it.cheers
2007-11-11 05:22:40 · answer #1 · answered by Versacetica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you something,have you ever lent your cell phone out to anyone, i know i haven't, it's something you just don't do.
I like how you put it( is it possible to forgive someone that u thought was cheating on you)Your man cheated and he got away with it by using some stupid a s s story. Don't feel so bad we all have fell for it,men are good at lying and always have been.
No you will never forget what he did because he took a little piece of you when he did that. That's what happens when men cheat on you,it's like your heart is being chiseled away chip by chip.
2007-11-11 14:03:31 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this would definitely cause trust issues if you continue to forgive because you will not really be able to forget that will always be in the back of you head. if you didn't have the proper evidence and accused the person of cheating it seems like a little bit of trust issues going on already. so id say look for someone new who you can trust and start fresh with. Good Luck
2007-11-11 13:22:20 · answer #3 · answered by Joy'Cee's Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....what did the message say, exactly? I mean, if it said ANYTHING even remotely inappropriate I would have been writing down the number it was sent to and finding out who was at the other end....
If that message isn't inappropriate and lending the phone to a friend isn't an unusual thing to do (seems to me it's not exactly the usual thing most people do) then you are probably overreacting.
I ALWAYS keep my eyes/ears open to things that might make me suspicious.....but I'd need more than that to make a firm decision about it.
2007-11-11 13:44:17 · answer #4 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's lying. YOu know why? Because if someone else used it, then how did the person they were texting know it was the person who used it.
If I borrow your phone to text my husband, it would say " its me Nani, Im using my friends phone, blah...blah..blah..." HOw would my husband know it was me texting if he didnt know the phone number it came from? IT doesnt make sense to let someone else use your phone to text another person, without addressing who they are.
And if you ask him this, what can he say? oh my friend always uses my phone to text so that girl knows its him. Well then, where are the other texts that he's sent before this? OH, it got erased. Why did you erase it? WEll maybe he usually erases texts he has sent to this girl, but do to karma, he forgot to erase this one, and he is finally caught. Its the biggest crock I have ever heard.
You better not let this slide. Go a head and act like you forgot it, but I would dig deeper. I would watch him from now on just to catch him and get evidence.
2007-11-11 13:41:43 · answer #5 · answered by laura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was my wife, it would not even cross my mind that she was not telling me the truth. That is how much love and trust we have for one another. But I can see where some people would have a hard time believing and let it stay in their mind forever. I once had a relationship like that. I am sooo glad it did not work out......I guess that you either believe that person or you don't.....If you keep your eyes and ears open and that person is bad, something else will eventually pop up and then you will know......(smile)
2007-11-11 13:28:27 · answer #6 · answered by Fergy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have evidence now and you haven't seen any evidence prior to that (late nights out, lots of cancelled "dates" due to working late, too many circumstances where things "just don't add up," etc.), you have no choice but to let go of it. If you don't let go of this issue, you will eventually destroy the very relationship you don't want to lose. You must trust the man in your life - without question. If you don't or find that you cannot, end the relationship.
2007-11-11 13:32:03 · answer #7 · answered by prettymomofthree2004 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well your was a text mines was an voice mail hey they going to deny it so it can work out they don't want no problems just tell him not to let people use the phone and u get the answer of that don't forget u said not let no one borrow it
2007-11-11 13:56:40 · answer #8 · answered by marsha j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand, it boils down to this... 1)Stay, or 2)Go. The choice it yours. No matter what anyone else says, Do what is best for you always. Remember this: A MAN WILL SAY ANYTHING TO SAVE HIS TAIL! It is his nature. I'm not saying he is lying, however, just remember what I told you. Take care of yourself...
2007-11-12 01:38:05 · answer #9 · answered by okeedokee258 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u will always keep it in your mind, u will always wonder what was true and what wasn't. often times it needs no evidence except your intuition. just keep your eyes and ears open, and don't be so believing of everything u hear, if it doesn't make sense its probably a lie.
2007-11-11 16:42:22 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋