friendship with the opposite sex?

Question

if you are married and/or are in a serious relationship, would you be ok with your partner if she/he has some friends of the opposite sex? do you have friends of the opposite sex, if so how does your partner put up with it..is she/he ok with it or does it cause you fights and arguments most of the time?

Answer 1

yes as long as they keep it as a friend way.

Answer 2

Personally, I would be. I feel like in order for your relationship to be strong and healthy you need to have trust. So, if your significant other has friends of the opposite sex then you have to have trust in your partner really means it when they say they love you and that you are the one for them and that they would be man or woman enough to come clean to you if they weren't happy in your relationship.

You can't keep something from leaving that wants to leave.

I believe that people form friendships for a number of reasons and we all receive a little something different from each relationship that we have. Whether that be platonic or not.

In either case, there is no law, written or otherwise that says once you are in a serious relationship you are no longer allowed to have friends of the opposite sex. Although, I've lost a lot of male friends after getting a boyfriend, go figure.

Relationships are hard work, but I think the key to having a mature, loving relationship is to realize that you are both two individual people with different wants and needs. When you CHOOSE to start a relationship with someone you have to trust that person, communicate how you feel, and work out solutions to problems that will help you both out. It's not all or nothing. Good Luck.

Answer 3

I'm married and have a few male friends. With 2 of them I can talk about everything.
I like spending time with them once in a while - it helps me understand how men are.
I have to admit one thing: both my best friends have been lovers in a far behind past, we have deep confidence and the friendship can't ever be compared with a girlie-friendship.

From my personal point of view - I say that because I know that there are people who have opposite sex friends since childhood without ever sharing a bed with them - but for me the men have become a real good friend after we put sex behind us, found out that we won't ever work out as a couple but like each other too much to go seperate ways.

I go for a drink or dinner with a male friend mabe once or twice a month (NO sex involved what so ever!!) and my husband is fine with it.
But he wouldn't be fine with it it I did it once or twice a week and I think it's normal.
If your partner loves you he should want to spend most of his spare time with you but must also be allowed to maintain friendships from "Before you".

Really it's up to you: listen to the inner voice, not the jealousy.
If it looks like, **** and it smells like **** THEN IT USUALLY IS ****... that's how I always look at things!

Answer 4

I wouldn't mind as long as it was a long time friendship before I came into the picture. But if it were someone he just met and became friends with then I would NOT like it!

We both feel the same way about this, however, he believes that men and women can't be "just friends". I think he watched When Harry Met Sally a few too many times...but I didn't have to end any friendships when i met him and I have no reason to befriend another male. I'm ok with this because we have trust and love in our relationship. I would rather it be like this than either of feel the need to hide a friendship and then cause trouble

Answer 5

It all depends on the relationship. I have a friend of the opposite sex and that is all we are and would ever be.... I think it wouldn't be a good idea to let your husband/mate spend to much time with her. What are you there for? If he can't be friends with you, you might want to rethink the relationship. You all should be able to hang out together. You have to be careful with stuff like that because you have some trifling women that will smile in your face and stab you in your back. If your intuition is telling that they are more than friends then more likely they are.

Answer 6

It's o.k. to have friends of the opposite sex as long as it's kept at a respectable distance. Include the current BF when ever possible. If they get along chances are that they won't mind so much. If they do mind I'd respect the wishes of the BF. Don't put your BF in a situation where he has to question what's going on.

Answer 7

Of course each partner has friends of the opposite sex. When you're in a great relationship you feel secure and all those feelings of jealousy and insecurity go away.

Answer 8

Having friends of the opposite sex is possible, but remember if your marriage is in a vulnerable state it's easy for that friendship to cross the line. Personally my friendships whether of the opposite sex or the same sex are full of people I love. To love someone you have to be attracted to them, and that's why I think it can be easy to make a friend a lover.

Now yes I have friends of the opposite sex and me and my DH (dear husband) never argue about it. But we have built alot of trust. We also know that if your cheating or tempted to be cheating then your not happy and that needs to be evaluated. People choosing to put up with unhappiness in their life is the biggest shame and downfall to relationships. I would never want my husband to be miserable, so he can have friends of any sex. If he chooses to stray he should go because obviously he's not happy and I never want him to be, because I love him.

Answer 9

Of course its ok to have friends of the opposite sex. It has something to do with trust, either you trust your partner or not.What is the point of getting into a relationship if you cant trust your partner. For me I would trust my partner until something has done that is not right.

Answer 10

a million. i do not receive friendships depending upon actual visual attraction. a number of my friends are very suited (objectively), some are literally not, and it doesn't count number. 2. there is hardly ever any severe innuendo over an intensive friendship with someone of the option sex, in spite of the reality that there will be casual references which both one human beings recognize are thoroughly no longer severe. 3. i'm married, so i doesn't be able to have sex with any of my friends; there doesn't be any situations that can make that "proper". in case you propose ought to we smash out with it, yep, probable, yet I nonetheless doesn't do it. 4. convinced, someone will unavoidably get damage in a "friends with reward" relationship - you won't be able to easily rein on your thoughts at will, and the intimacy of a sexual relationship is in all probability to stir even deeper emotion. 5. i doesn't "flow living house" with a buddy for sex. there is no longer something that ought to convince me to attempt this. 6. None of my friends ought to target to coerce me into doing something that they recognize ought to dissatisfied me later. 7. Yep, if, God forbid, it ever exceeded off, which will be the end of the friendship. I basically couldn't see them a similar way again, and besides, my husband ought to insist upon me ending the friendship if those obstacles were crossed. 8. i doesn't evaluate it flirting. yet we are absolutely affectionate with one yet another. We carry hands if we are out at the same time and hug and kiss in that constrained, pleasant way, ie no prolonged kissing. 9. i do not flirt. 10. No, i do not imagine so. i like basically being friends with my opposite sex friends, i do not favor it to be something except what that is. it really is completely amazing now!

Answer 11

It's fine as long as it's strictly a friendship and it's not a secretive type of deal. If it's just a friendship then you would hopefully hear him talking on the phone to the friend or have met the friend. Your significant other should be upfront about it. I have lots of male friends but my boyfriend knew about them from the start, so it's not threatening to him in the least.