if people say be yourself and everybody shouldn't know everything about you then how should be?

Question

what if u feel like u are being yourself and you feel uncomfortable with the people u are around and if someone ask u something about yourself that is true but thats not there business should u tell the truth are say its not your business if so how do u say it without offending them? back to feeling uncomfortable around people i know that if u shouldn't hang around them if u feel uncomfortable but what if you end up socializing with no one i know would probably say "find some friends to socialize with that u feel comfortable around" how do u do that!!! i do that but it just takes so long for me to get comfortable with a person or just feel like its ok to do that.
any advice

Answer 1

There's nothing wrong with taking time to grow comfortable with people, esp. given various circumstances that bring you together such as work, church, school, friends, hobbies, etc. There's nothing wrong with refusing to answer questions that you don't feel comfortable sharing, and you shouldn't allow ANYONE to make you feel it's wrong to "offend" them by saying it isn't their business or just changing the subject!

Also, don't worry that you're hanging around people with whom you aren't totally comfortable, because that is normal life. The main thing is to be comfortable with yourself, that you are an OK person just as you are, that you're in charge of whom you trust, whom you share intimate or personal stuff with, whom you spend time with (more than others), etc.

One good way to find good friends who are worthy of your trust and time and energy is to talk with or hang with people who like the same things you do, regardless of age, ethnicity, gender, shape, status, etc. either in person or online. Another is to prioritize/categorize the people in your life by how closely they match your values, passions, and personality. If people prove to you over time that they care about you for who you are and how much fun they have with you (again, in person or online), they are a better friend than people you just happen to spend more time with but who don't support your beliefs, goals, dreams, etc.

Answer 2

Well you should always be yourself, that's a given. Good friends are few and far between and part of that is learning the difference between friends and aquaintences because there is a big difference between the two. If you feel uncomfortable sharing something with someone then you really don't have to. It takes time to build trust. There are certain people you can be around in different capacities. You just have to feel out each specific situation and learn who you can feel comfortable telling what . You don't have to ry to look at everyone as your best friend. Learn who you can depend on and what things you can depend on them for.

Answer 3

Being honnest with yourself is as much important as breathing fresh air Oh you can be fake but people will detect you as fast as your eyes can blink Being respectful and tactful is a social skill that everybody had should learn by the age of 6 yrs To your question as what to say when someone ask you a personal question . Well your reply should be this one ;;;;With a smile you say No comment or you can say I dont feel comfortable talking about this and change the subject right away Its just a advice read some book on how to socialised

Answer 4

If you are being yourself and you feel uncomfortable with the people you are around then you are with the wrong people. If someone asks you a too direct question you don't want to reveal the answer to then slough it off and change the subject. To say directly to someone "It's none of your business" can come across as abrupt and cold.