if u found out ur partner of 7 years had been cheatin and u had two children what would u do?

Answer 1

This is a tough situation to be in. It depends on your belief system. If you believe in forgiveness, you can work on forgiving him if he is really remorseful. The kids make your situation complex. Some people have responded ands told you to kick the a _ _ _ _ _ _ out of the house. Sounds very easy right, but the truth is you have kids that need this man - especially if this is his only major flaw. Find out precisely why he cheated and work on fixing those reasons. Sometimes men cheat when they are not getting what they want at home, and sometimes it may simply be to prove something to themselves - that they still have IT. Here is some additional information that you might find very helpful.
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Answer 2

I found that my partner of ten years had. I was a full time stay at home mother and did not live close to the city. I was heartbroken but always considered my children's welfare so I did not leave him immediately.

I organised a move to the city, retrained for work, found employment, saved some money and left him after five years, when my children were aged nine and twelve. They were more able to understand and I was more able to support them.

Ultimately, it's up to you but I believe once a cheater, always a cheater. Good luck because it is hard.

Answer 3

Opinion...

Question first you need to ask yourself...
Do you still love him. Not just the word, but really in your heart love him?

Now depending on how you answer that to yourself is where you may have to take the next step.

Arguments may not be the way to find out the root cause. You might have to talk to a marriage counselor to help you evaluate your feelings. Then decide.

Me? Cheating to me is a top-level 1 event. It affects the integrity of the marriage, trust, belief and opens up the mind to questioning other things in the marriage that may or may have not been there. it's a lie, adultery, cheated on you AND the kids...divorce papers would be started because I can no longer trust.

Answer 4

Depends on whether he had confessed or been found out.
If he has confessed and is truly repentant then I would probably try to stay together. Only if that was what I thought best for me and the children.
If I had found out and he wasn't bothered about ending the affair or wasn't sorry his feet wouldn't touch the floor as he went through the door head first.

Answer 5

You need to figure out how you feel about him first of all. If you still love him, the two of you need to sit and talk this out. there is a difference between a man who sets out to cheat and a man who is tempted by someone else and can not resist the temptation.and talking will help you decide which he is perhaps.
If he doesn't want to sit and talk or go to counseling, or if he killed the love you felt and you can not forgive him, the the answer is to tell him to leave, or leave yourself, and file for the divorce and child support. You need to talk to him first and see what he has to say for himself and whether you believe him or believe he is just telling you what you want to hear so that he can continue to cheat and have you as well. Good Luck to you!!

Answer 6

ask him is there anything that u could do to prevent it from happenin again try 2 make it work just because a man cheats doesn't mean he doesn't love u maybe he isn't gettin his share of goodies at home if u know what i mean but seriouslly don't leave him work it out because he loves u he's just actin immature right now he will realize soon enough that u r the best thing that happened to him u and those kids and then he won't leave yall for the world

Answer 7

same thing happened to me but after 20 years marriage and 2 kids.and all faithful years at that,on my behalf.I divorced the cheap unfaitful so and so.I still dont ever understand why people open their legs,or drop their pants,instead of opening their mouths first and talking about what bothers them,in the relationship.I sugest you do the same as when the glass is cracked,it will be cracked for ever till replacement.Very very few people put the past behind them and start again,staying together.But staying together for the sake of the children,people would tell you is wrong.Best of luck.P.

Answer 8

Apart from the fact that both me and my partner dont have children together, i would do what i did when i did find out he was cheating on me. I kicked his sorry **** out and told him never to contact me again. It worked up until he found out that i was having a brill time on my own and was loving every minute of being single. He was soon on the phone begging for forgiveness.

Answer 9

The question is what would you do?.. No matter what anyone says it's up to you. People try to use their kids as reasons to stay with a cheating, abusive, disrespectful, etc man. What people fail to realize is children are smarter than we think they are. They know when their parents are going through something. So rather their parents are together or separated, kids know. I would rather be separated with my child/children and have them in a safe environment than together in a unhealthy environment.

Answer 10

I hope that I would have the courage to kick him out there is no way I would trust him again so there would be nothing left between us only arguments and that's not fair on anyone especially the kids . I also got two children