What do you do when your fiancee makes you feel like your affection is unwanted?

Question

I've been in an otherwise happy relationship for around four years and recently I moved to be with her. We live together now and have been doing so for about eight months. When we first got together, the feelings regarding affection were mutual. Now it's as though she doesn't want my attention half the time and complains whenever I want to cuddle or spend the morning with her. Sex is awkward and while fulfilling for her, it leaves me unfulfilled. I've tried to talk to her about this but she doesn't seem to understand.

Something that may be included in this problem is that her mother and sister live with us. We have seperate rooms, and I thought this would be a positive change from the way we had been sleeping in the living room. We live in a two-room apartment and the second bedroom used to be a computer room. However, after the change, there hasn't been much change in our relationship. I'm not sure what to do and I'm very frustrated with the situation. What should I do?

Answer 1

Most women feel uncomfortable when family members are around you keep thinking what if they hear us and so on. I think you should go on a weekend together and see how that goes if all is well I think you know what you have to do(get a home just for the 2 of you)

Answer 2

One question i would have to ask from you is, Are you pulling your end of the weight after you moved in ??? If you stuck living with her mother and sister it sounds to me that the "Stability" in your relationship is provided by your G/f's Mother and not You! thats not good at all ! She'll wake up and realize that she can get better then you and eventually break your heart. If this is the case i bet her sister and Mother are conspiring to get her to move on in her life and drop you.

But thats worst case scenario, you didn't elaborate about why your living with her Sister and Mother.

I would try to have a real serious talk with her about the situation and maybe start looking for a place you two can have as your own.
And if you can't afford a place with just you two, you need to start busting your *** if you really love her and show her you can "Provide"

I've made this mistake before, and wont ever make it again.

I just hope your living situation isn't as bad as i typed above . . .

Answer 3

you didnt live w/her,you live in w/them and the reason is ,you are the tenant not the land lord,if you want your girlfriend to go back her affection,you will encourages her to live w/o any relatives on both of your side of your family and hers.
if this is the rigth word for you,you do it now ASAP,before it to late,if she dont agree,its up to you to decide.

Answer 4

Talk to her and work this out so you know if it will or if you need to go your own way to for-fill your needs.