My friend has a problem that's been eating at her for weeks now, and she doesn't want to talk about it cause she knows she'll start crying and screaming and it'll hurt a lot to think about it, she just wants to forget. but me and the rest of our friends really want her to talk about the problem so we can find a solution that will work for everyone, it affects us too. Should we make her talk so we can help?
2007-11-11 03:49:29 · 21 answers · asked by *Head in the stars* 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
i think that's the best way to get through a problem. i had the same problem as your friend before, i just cried and cried over a problem but the more i talked about it, the more i had less emotions to it, it still hurts but a lot less. oh and it took me about 1 year to just partially get over the problem so the faster she talks about it, the easier the time will pass.
I HOPE YOUR FRIEND GETS BETTER ABOUT THE PROBLEM :[
2007-11-11 03:59:59 · answer #1 · answered by kmh2179 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though talking about a problem is always good, forcing someone to do is never....So just watch her closely, patiently for the symptoms--any kind, like she is getting worse or ready to open up. Then's the time to intervene. Till then act normal and treat her normally as if nothing's amiss but reassure her of your unstinted support and love. Once you gain her confidence she will talk on her own and when she does that, just listen without interfering, without judging. All this will take time and you'll wait if you're a good friend....
2007-11-11 04:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by P'quaint! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you make somebody talk about something they don't want to and not have that be torture? Besides, how can you be so effected by her problem that you have to force her to talk about it? I mean, even if she's a druggie and stealing from you, you can't make her talk about it and fix it. All you can do about being effected by her problem is handle how you LET it effect you. That said; why don't the group of friends talk about the problem with her around? Explain how you are effected and how that is making you feel and see if she can loosen up from that. Like an intervention.
2007-11-11 04:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by clearentertainermanagement 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you care about her and can't stand to see her suffer the way she is. Tell her it would be better to open up and get it out because it is hurting her too much this way. Also, let her know that whatever the problem is you will stand by her and be there for her. It sounds like she is feeling really alone right about now and really scared. Good luck.
2007-11-11 03:56:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's always better to talk about it. But keep in mind, you can't make your friend talk about it. She'll talk about it if and when she's comfortable about it. Just reassure her that you love her and that you're there for her when she's ready to talk. Whatever she is experiencing right now maybe a little bit too much for her to bear. Be patient and supportive of her.
Best wishes!
2007-11-11 03:54:50 · answer #5 · answered by hula wabbit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe just suggest that you are her friends and that you are there for her for ANYTHING and if and when she is ready to talk you will be there for her to support, or whatever her needs may be. I would let it rest and not pressure her. Let her take her time and think about what she can do on her own but let her know that you are there for her no matter what. That would be my reccomendation. Good luck! Be a friend, not a pest.
2007-11-11 03:53:43 · answer #6 · answered by mikeaaron_1999 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friend, the girl needs to go to an Adult she trusts!
keeping all this stuff in is unhealthy and can lead to many problems if she doesn't talk it all out!
Urge her to talk to a parent or an Aunt, older Sister, etc. Her Friends aren't enough, ok?
Burying the problems is a bad idea, please let her know that! From experience, she will feel better emotionally when she "unbottles" her problems!
Keeping them in is NOT an option!
Please tell her to confide in a relative, or AT LEAST a Teacher or trusted elder person, AND NOW!
thanks!
2007-11-11 03:57:11 · answer #7 · answered by julesrules 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't make her talk about it, but tell her that you and the rest of your friends know that there is a problem bugging her. Tell her if she ever needs an ear to borrow or a shoulder to lean on, you guys are there.
2007-11-11 03:54:16 · answer #8 · answered by ♥MsCullen♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly her friends you should encourage her to open up about what's on her mind. However be prepared to accept whatever floodgates may be opened up as well.True friends stand by their girls through thick and thin. If she needs more help than you girls can give,advise her to speak with a professional. But still be there for her, as always!
2007-11-11 04:07:39 · answer #9 · answered by honey molasses 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends
In some situations you would just be making matters worse and some things are none of our business and if ou think about it you would know that somethings are personal secrets that no one will ever know or at least you'd hope so.
2007-11-11 04:33:26 · answer #10 · answered by DeathsToy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋