If a guy cheats on his wife, y do the women end up hating each other, when they should be hating the man?

Question

i notice that the woman gets more angry at the other woman. when the other woman could have been an innocent party.
meanwhile the married woman forgives the hubby.

do women secretly hate each other and dont want each other to succeed.

even during elections?

catty??

nunn...and guys should NOT know better?????
if a guy is married, they shouldnt be cheating. right?
right??????

Answer 1

because it's much easier to hate someone you don't know. you can imagine that they are completely wretched, horrible people in every aspect of their lives. however, you know your spouse, you have seen their good attributes (good father, great worker, etc), so it's much harder to completely demonize them. also, demonizing them means having to really analyze the problems in your marriage, your contribution to those problems, and consider breaking up your family.

Answer 2

First of all if a guy is married he should not be going around having affairs but it happens and when the wife finds out yes she is mad at the other woman because he is married to her sure the woman may have been innocent party but the woman will not understand that point. She will forgive her husband and time and time again the same thing will go on. Me as woman look at both sides of the corn it is not only the woman but the man who persued the woman. know i would not hate the other woman because their is no telling what lies he told to get her. do woman secrety hate each other and dont want each other to succeed what is this all about.

Answer 3

Come on, not all mistresses are "innocent". I admit, some may have no idea that the man is married, but most affairs aren't one night stands. Most affairs start with someone the spouse sees everyday, like at work. The other woman usually knows if the man is married because he has to sneak around. A single man doesn't have to sneak, and can see you anytime he wants.

So when a guy cheats on his wife, the wife has every right to as angry at the other woman as she does her husband. Alot of homewreckers want to play innocent, but a man with a family has responsibilities, and has to lie and sneak around. There's no way that the other woman can't notice that (but, then again, if they're after a married man, they're not too smart).

Answer 4

thats some thing ive always wondered myself they hate each other but forgive the man and he is more then likely the one at fault half the time the girl he is cheating with doesnt even know hes married, women are just so threatened by each other for some reason. just like you see on these talk shows women taking there men to get lye detector test because they think there cheating and sure enough they are but they take there men home with them anyways, what sense does that make. i guess its just hard to let go and just easier to hate the women and forgive the man that way you can stay together but things are never the same as **** gets thrown up in there face and there is no trust and always accusing or suspecting i dont know women are hard to understand and i am one lol.

Answer 5

Because the wife doesn't want to accept that she lacked in some way and her husband went elsewhere to find what he needed. She chooses to blame the other woman instead of looking deep and figuring out what she is lacking to keep her husband happy. She took her marriage for granted thinking it was forever and it wouldnt end. And now she blames the other woman for all her doubts, fears and regrets over the years.

Answer 6

Some think it easier to go after the woman because they were the one who should have known about them. Being married, you have invested a whole bunch and time and effort into it. So, I would think it would be better, if wanted to forgive the spouse.

Answer 7

your correct
a women forgives ( but never forgets ) out of fear
she does not want to be alone ( ATM )
she does not want to break up a family
but what usually happens ( especially in CA )
is that a women will time the divorce
usually after the kids are out of the house
and then she divorces for 1/2 his pension, lifetime of alimony payments and a forced sale and half the equity in the house

Answer 8

Can an adult male really hide the fact that he is married or do we, females, choose to ignore all clues...wwe know what they are so I will forego listing them.

We get angry at her because she represents our biggest insecurities.

We forgive him because we want to pretend our insecurities don't exist and that "we won".

Oh yeah, we also get angry at her when she was supposed to be a friend; or when she calls and taunts us with the relationship by calling to let us know or by leaving some part of her attire where we can find it. Fair game for anger and b-slappin then (joking).

Answer 9

if a person sleeps with another person knowing full well that person is married then there is no excuse for the homewrecking behavior and that person should be punished as harshly as the spouse of the cheater can get away with
the cheater should also be punished the same way

gender is not an issue, cheaters and homewreckers are the issue

Answer 10

because they are envious at the other woman for taking away their husband .. she obviously had something that his wife was missing.. looks, emotional connection.. etc... the mistress took away something sacred ... the bond between husband wife. and being able to pleasure her husband when that is what the wife was suppose to be doing. The mistress just jumps in and takes away all of the best memories like when the husband is in bed with his wife telling her he loves her and they will always be together forever.. its like the mistress just took it all away in one sweep... hope i am making sense and not rambling.. LOL

Answer 11

You're right! The other woman is often clueless that she is involved with a married man. I don't know what is wrong with women.