How can I confront a friend who constantly tells me stories about herself that can't possibly be true.?

Question

She seems to have lost touch with many of her friends, and I am wondering if this is hurting her relationships. She once told me of how she had to pretend to be her friend at an optometrist appointment. Her friend wanted to get a pair of contact lenses, but has always had a difficult time putting them in during the appointments, and had been denied contacts in the past. She told us she went to the appointment in her friends place and took the eye test, and received a pair her friend would wear. It didn't seem possible that they could have the same prescription, but i didn't feel right questioning her about the specifics. I would really like her to be truthful with me, and don't know how to confront her without damaging our friendship.

If she is trying to impress me, I would like to tell her that it is not necessary for us to remain friends.

Answer 1

Hey, Ultra the problem with not being direct with her about the specifics and simply not being honest with her, is that you make it so their is NO relationship. Its just the facts, firends can be judged ONLY by the ability of the individuals in it to be honest. Shoot everything that makes a great relationship is based on that. Besides that its deeper. See neither one of you is going to find real truth on what a geniune relationship is tell you show each other the power that can come from being honest, as compassinatly as you can, by telling a person the truth. You help them to better understand themselves, you and this world. Its the only way, you don't know how deep it all runs! And until you start confronting her, your not getting anywhere. I've ran into this myself, if your honest, things well go three ways on "bs" stories. One they'll amit it, PLUS tell you a deeper truth to why they lied. Two they'll deny the best that they can no matter what you discover that it is the truth, and you'll be forced truly to find better friends. Three, they'll explain to you BETTER what the truth really was, she might of been honest. You just don't know unless you question it. Besides if she trust you enough to breck down and be more honest, what you get out of that is powerful, its true, and its friendship, anything less then that isn't worth anyones time......