what does she want?

Question

I've been chatting with a girl about 3 months. We started talking about normal things. But we got to know eachother better and we talked about intimate things. She started talking in a flirty way (she's has a gf),so I did the same. At 1 point the conversation got all hot and heavy but we stopped at the right time. I know she loves her gf very much, I've told her that if we would talking like that she would get mad at me! A while later we talked the same again, the next day I turned on MSN and she blocked me, I called her and she told me that I wanted more! SHE always is the 1 who starts talking like that, I was just copying her behaviour, were talking again but it isn't the same. Does she like me? Sometimes she's really nice but when her gf is there she sounds like a total b...I REALLY like her as a FRIEND (nothing more) but I'm terrified I'll lose her or I'll say something wrong. I'm afraight to contact her on MSN and wait till she starts talking to me.What should I do?

I asked about her behaviour but she said it's just the way she is and it doesn't matter to her gf as long as it's just flirting and nothing more, the gf does the same...But when I confronted her with her behaviour when the gf was around she was acting like a total *****, like she was innocent....does she lie about her gf, that it's ok to flirt??

Answer 1

Ok well, based on what you have said, this girl seems to feel really guilty. She is doing things she knows her gf would not approve of. However, the fact she did them in the first place says something. It says that she does like you, or like the feeling she gets when she talks to you this way, but then afterward she is feeling real guilty and goes through blocking you, ignoring you, and turning the table to make it seem (in her mind and probably in her gf's too) that you are the guilty party, not her.

So my advice would be to just lay back. You don't need those mind games being played. You say you like her as a friend and like talking to her, but you don't NEED her. So sit back and if she decides to contact you then cool, if not, then no real loss. I guess its one of those "play by ear" scenarios. You really have to just wait and see what happens. If she can get her **** together and be an actual friend give her another chance.

Answer 2

That's rather odd behaviour. I think if I get into a situation like that, I'd be too embarassed to even speak or do anything to them..I usually get over it after some time, so maybe you should just try and ignore it, don't say anything or try and do anything.

Treat them how they've treated you, in this case.

Answer 3

i think it is time you sit down with her and tell her the expectations of what you want from the friendship (in a nice easy way tho).

then ask her what she wants...hopefully she is just messin round and you can both be friends...

you need to let her know that you are not into a love relationship with her!

btw, she shouldn't really be acting like this if she has a gf already...i know i wouldn't (she's asking for trouble)!

Answer 4

You should drop her like a hot rock.
She's nothing but trouble, and this should be a HUGE indication of how she'll behave in a friendship. She'll never take the blame. She'll make you take the fall for everything.

Answer 5

This sounds like it was a huge misunderstanding
have you meet them in person, if so, it should be easier to figure out, but if you haven't meet them, i don't suggest it.

Answer 6

i think that she don't like you anymore to be honest

Answer 7

Let this be a lesson....when you start going lesbo bad things will always happen.