I'm 3 months shy of my 21st and in a good financial standing. I'm good with the father of my child who is also independent and finacially stable and planing on being a part. We'll most likely be married after the birth.
However, I have to tell my active Mormon parents that their oldest daughter is pregnant. I'm going home for Christmas and I'm trying to decide whether to call and tell them or, tell them in person.
I welcome ideas, and suggestions. Thank you.
2007-11-11 01:53:02 · 9 answers · asked by Tex 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
That tricky if that was me I would telephone them - because it will give them time to think about it before you go home for christmas - because if you drop it on them at christmas then it will spoil everyones christmas. Good luck with it - oh also just be matter of fact with it cause your views seem to be different from them and its your life and you are happy?
2007-11-11 02:03:08 · answer #1 · answered by Janie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will obviously be disappointing to them that this has occurred. Since you were raised LDS, you should know what this means to a family sealed in the Temple and how serious of a matter it will be. That said, your parents were also taught not to judge others and to frankly forgive. It will most likely be difficult for them to accept and uncomfortable for everyone at first. My guess is, that once they get over the initial shock, they will try to be as supportive as possible.
How do you feel about this? I wondered after reading your first paragraph if you were trying to give some background on the situation or trying to justify that it is ok since you are almost 21 and in "good financial standing". "We'll most likely be married..." sounds a bit dubious as well. Then, after convincing us that you are an adult, financially stable and going to be married, you ask whether you should call them or tell them in person. I'm not trying to criticize you but just point out that maybe you need to sort out your own feeling about this.
Here are some other questions that your parents (and you) may be wondering?
-Are you going to completely fall away from the church because of this?
-Are you going to repent?
-Will your boyfriend stick around to raise this child with you?
-Are you really going to get married?
-Will your boyfriend join the church?
-Will the baby be raised LDS?
What ever you decide to do, good luck.
2007-11-11 06:12:46 · answer #2 · answered by whapingmon 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are just going to have to tell them. they will be more mad the longer you wait. so just tell them and what can they do but either be mad or say you are a big girl and now you have to be a grown up and take care of your responsibilities. Is your boyfriend going to be coming along with you?? Don't think that would be a good idea. Just you tell them that way they don't fly off the handle at him. Good luck.
2007-11-11 02:02:53 · answer #3 · answered by ldygdva757 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a Mormon, I would tell them in person. Family comes first in our religion, so chances are that your parents will have some initail disapointment that you have not remained pure until marriage, but they will support you. We had the same situation in my family, but the couple married, and were sealed in the temple a year later. Everything will work out in the end.
2007-11-11 02:04:06 · answer #4 · answered by parental unit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would NOT wait till you go home to tell them...That would throw Christmas way off! Dont shock them like that..Put a call into your Mom!!! That's how my sis did it..She just told my Mom and let her tell Dad...That way, they have time to adjust before Christmas!
2007-11-11 02:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by Momto8gr8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me in this situation, I would tell them in person. They may be upset about it at first, but then they will realize...they will be GRANDPARENTS! They will be so overjoyed that a new life is coming into the family...they'll get over being mad.
2007-11-11 02:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by Green Is Sexxxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call them first because they will see you when you arrive and it will be obvious that you are pregnant
your Mom will know immediately when she sees you
just tell them that you will discuss this with them when you are there, but make the call first to let them get prepared and talk it through
They can handle it.
2007-11-11 02:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by yyyyyy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them in person. They'll forgive you.
2007-11-11 01:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, i personally think you should tell them in person. that might just be me. good luck.
2007-11-11 02:01:42 · answer #9 · answered by Cristine C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋