my friend has turned the school (except my friends) against me what do i do....?

Question

so, my friend hanna has been really mean and i took the advice to write a nice letter to her and her friends are emailing and iming me like crazy, for example this email from her friend mikayla:
Rachel, i just want to no y u were being disrespectful? hana never called u anything. so idk wat ur problem is. u should apoligize to her for ur rudeness. b/c thats uncalled for. ecspecially that letter. ur switching the whole problem onto her. she never did anyhting to u except be a good friend. and i wat i tell her is its not worth it and says i no but shes my friend. see wat a good friend she is. think about ur actions. ~Mikayla~
I am so mad that she showed everyone that letter, it was between us two not me vs. hanna AND the school!?!? what should i do?

also, check out the other questions i have asked about this relationship. they aren't vague and will give you an idea of what is going on.

i need advice not "thats tough" or stuff like that...sry

Answer 1

She obviously wasnt that good of a friend to begin with then. I would simply ignore what is going on. When someone asks you about it, dont answer. Simply say that its been taken care of and is over with now.

By doing that, you are showing that you are the better person. Kids tend to create drama and they live for it. Dont be a part of that drama.

Answer 2

I think it would be easier to understand if you had posted your original letter that you wrote to Hanna. All we know is the responce from Mikayla. However the fact that Hanna posts it to others is like saying look what she did to me and showing them how bad it made her look like. This is not mature friendship and because of this, it may be a friendship lost not only between you and her , but also with others that sided with Hanna. So a lesson learned in life in what you say can come back and bite you. All you can do is go and apologize and hope the friendship is mended and if not, then let it serve as an example of what not to do next time you are in a situation like that and make new friends. Life is too short to stay bitter.

Answer 3

well you should not maybe have put it on paper because your "friend" may not have understood what you were trying to explain. You say it is a nice letter but she may have found it to be hurtful, you can't help her fealings, for whatever reason, she was offended obviously, so the problem exists between you and her. No, maybe she should not have showed it to anyone but the letter is hers now as you gave it to her and she can do with it what she wants, she is probably just seeking advise, and maybe if you still want to be friends you should ask her what offended her about the letter. Otherwise forget about it, cut your loss of a friendship and stay with your group of friends, maybe she really didn't like you that much and jumped at the first oportunity to cause trouble.

Take the mature approach if anyone discusses something you feel is your personal stuff tell them you don't wish to speak about it with them because its personal. If they don't respect that then move on you don't have to justify every move you make to everyone, but I would find out what you wrote that offended her, and don't write letters to anyone, call them or talk to them it is easier to explain when the other doesn't understand what you are trying to say. Enjoy the time you are young, be nice to people all people and they will be nice to you. Peace

Answer 4

Tell them that it is between u and Hanna and they need 2 get out if your business. Tell Hanna u want 2 talk personally and instead of writing it on paper tell her how u feel and that u think it is wrong 4 her 2 b telling the whole school.

Answer 5

It's time to be honest with yourself and really think about the situation. Put yourself in Hana's shoes and REALLY think if there is anything that you may have done to upset her. If so, then apologize, if not, then it's time to move away from Hana for awhile and give her time to cool off. Sometimes friendships fall apart and while that is a sad thing, there is not much that can be done to change that.

Answer 6

Here are some tips:
-Don't worry about what other people think of you
-Apologize if you have done something wrong
-Make it known that you never meant to hurt Hanna's feelings in any way, shape, or form
-Politely tell all those people who have been IMing you to not worry about it
Hope this helps! I've sorta been in that situation.

Answer 7

The best thing you can do is ignore it. Try not to let it affect you, because once your friend and her little posse realize they can't hurt you, they'll realize they don't have any more "power," and will most likely move on. Just hold your head up high. Confide in a friend outside of school or your parents.

Answer 8

OMG
You poor thing!
I have had the same thing happen to me! It is Horrible
but with your friends you can pull through!
It is tough but after awhile everyone will forget about it and then it will just be Hanna and her few friends who don't have their own lives to deal with.
I hope that your problem is resolved!

Answer 9

ok..wow......
well u said she turned the school against you except ur friends,and if she is saying bad things about u then she isn't that good of a friend.she probably just wants to make herself more poular and get more attention.i've had the same thing happen to me,i'm in middle school so i know what u mean,and as long as u have your true friends then u need to just forget her or if things get to out of hand ,even tho it is kinda kidish,u need to tell an adult like a teacher
hope it helps
good luck
=D

Answer 10

Don't even worry about it. It's girl drama. Prove your better than them. & that you don't need them. Don't apoligize to anyone if you didn't do anything wrong. Find a new set of friends that don't feed off of drama. & most importantly keep your head up <333