We paid for our oldest daughter's wedding...big church wedding. The marriage lasted a year, she's now divorced two years, and Mr. Right #2 is in the picture. I overheard a conversation where she said she wants another big wedding to erase the first mistake. Excuse me? Another big wedding? I have two more daughters and a son to marry off. Should my wife and I pay for wedding #2 for daugther #1?
2007-11-11 01:08:37 · 22 answers · asked by Richard F 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Absolutely not!!!!
2007-11-11 01:13:21 · answer #1 · answered by Tyra99 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No way! You fullfilled your wedding obligations as parents when she married the first time. If this is Mr. Right 2's first wedding then his parents should take care of the traditional stuff the grooms family does. The rest should be to them to pay for. If this is his second marriage it's all on them. That being said you could offer to take care of one aspect of the wedding. Maybe the photographer or the music. Just set a budget so she doesn't go crazy.
2007-11-11 02:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Another big wedding would not "erase the first mistake." I would suggest that they have a small, intimate wedding with family and close friends.
I assume that your daughter didn't return the wedding gifts after the one year marriage ended... The guests that brought big gifts to the first wedding may not appreciate another invitation!
Bottom line is it shouldn't be on your dime this time!
2007-11-11 01:54:33 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Mollie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She wants another big wedding, she should be the one handling the invoices.
I'm not even much behind the parents paying for the first wedding -- subsidize, maybe, but not a huge shebang, unless they're so loaded the expense is meaningless to them.
The dear wife and I floated the entire thing ourselves; all the guests had to do was show up. (Mom and Dad were generous anyway, but we took that check and dumped it into a future college fund.)
And there is nothing wrong with a modest, quick civil ceremony.
2007-11-11 01:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by Chipmaker Authentic 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
By all means NO!! If she wants another "big" wedding then let her pay the big bucks for it herself. End of story. But Dad you could walk her down the isle this time but before you do tell her you'll only give her away if she stays gone...lol...and also ask her what kind of eraser she uses to erase mistakes from the past... I'd love to have one of those.
2007-11-11 01:45:58 · answer #5 · answered by deerlady2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. You should not have to pay for any other weddings. A lot of parents don't even pay for the first.
Same thing with showers. There really shouldn't be a shower for subsequent weddings or babies after the first.
2007-11-11 04:36:26 · answer #6 · answered by Little Red Hen 2.0 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say NO!!!!!!!!! After the 1st wedding u shouldn't pay. If she wants to Erase the 1st marriage (like someone said.) Let her get the eraser. Im saying maybe u should let the grooms parents pay and u can pay for a quarter.
2007-11-11 02:23:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your clarification is smart. possibly also she changed into dissatisfied with the suddenness of the marriage and instead of taking it gracefully, she acted out. I absolutely accept as true with you, it doesn't seem she had any reason to boycott your wedding ceremony. And that is comprehensible she ought to now feel embarrassment about her movements. human beings must have theory it changed into unusual she changed into no longer in attendance, probable began up multiple gossip. I do wish you despatched your mom a paper invitation besides to the verbal invite, then you could say you probably did what you'll have accomplished and it changed into her determination to attend...or no longer.
2016-10-24 00:53:16 · answer #8 · answered by keels 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! After the first marriage, they are on their own! You're not there to cover an adult's mistakes. My adage is: The more you pay for a wedding, the shorter the marriage will last.
2007-11-11 01:11:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
no, but these days it is common for parents to give a figure (which can make it equal) say $2000 this means if there wedding is more then they have to pay it or down scale. this is the new thing cause also boys parents are wanted to imput more these days. she also needs to understand that u do have other children, she sounds a little bit selfish.
if ne thing give her a figure and she can decide weather she adds to it or down sizes.
i think the figure idea is great cause it m eans if i want to say have a cheaper mealer but spend more on my invites i can.
2007-11-11 01:31:50 · answer #10 · answered by kyles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO! You already fulfilled your obligation to her with the first wedding. Make it very clear she is on her own with this one. She and her #2 can pay for their wedding, you just bring a nice gift this time around.
And don't feel guilty about it.... no reason too.
2007-11-11 03:32:18 · answer #11 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋