Why do people think they are ugly?

Question

This is a serious question. What is it that makes people think that they are ugly. I know that some people are told that they are, and people see figures in the media and compare themselves to them. But what is it that makes people believe that they are really ugly and unattractive. Do you have to believe you are ugly to be ugly...if so then why not think the reverse and think that you are gorgous. Please answer

Answer 1

Some people find themselves ugly in objective terms. Their nose is too big, their chin is too small (or too abundant), their ears stick out, etc. etc. They can't help dwelling on these shortcomings and comparing themselves to other people who are more satisfactory in their terms. They may pick on one particular feature and exaggerate things out of all proportion in their minds.
Other people are constantly being denigrated and think themselves ugly because of what others tell them.
I remember someone telling me that there were three basic kinds of beauty. One was, obviously, the classic beauty which everyone would agree on. Then there was the curious type of attractiveness which could be enhanced by various artificial means -- hairstyle, clothes, cosmetics to produced something close to beauty of the classic category. Then there is the third beauty, which can only be described as inner beauty and which translates into the expression on a person's face. That is why brides are constantly described as radiant -- their joy is reflected in their face.
If people who love you find you beautiful then you will respond to that beauty whether or not you are objectively beautiful and you will become lovely. Similarly, if people comment on your attractiveness, it will lead to your taking a pride in your appearance and living up to your image. If, however, you are constantly made to feel ugly, this will reflect in a lack of care as far as your outward appearance is concerned. In that sense, someone who might have been led to become lovely by the encouragement of others will remain plain.

Answer 2

From some one who has no confidence, I have to say it is a serious issue. Too much emphasis is put on looks. The front cover of a book does not tell the whole story, it's what is written inside that enchants us and makes us who we are. Looks are just a novelty that will soon wear off if you do not have the personality to back it up. Some people need to learn that, not everything comes from outer status and to stop being so shallow. Give me an ok looking man with substance any day, over someone who has the looks of Paul walker and the personality of a wet tea towel!!!

Answer 3

The media dictates the standards for beauty. We are inundated with visions of "beauty" in the movies, on TV, in magazines and on product packaging. Since we can't live up to these overly made up and Photoshopped images, we declare ourselves "ugly".

Hopefully you have seen movie stars without their makeup. We finally have verification that they are "just like us!" Some are even worse than we appear.

So if we buy into this and believe we are ugly we will certainly be ugly.

HOWEVER, it's confidence that really makes us appear attractive to others. I know this for a fact. Stand tall, head erect, smile, STRIDE, do not just "walk", LOOK confident and you will attract attention AND you will feel good about yourself and before you know it, you will KNOW that you are attractive.

I've never met anyone that I considered to be ugly in appearance. But gosh, I know a lot of people who are ugly inside!

Answer 4

I think attractive women think they're ugly because somebody they were dating got bored with them and checked out other women or even cheated. I believe there are very few truly hopelessly ugly people in this world, but I do think some people, mostly girls, expect to get a little too much in life out of their looks then are disappointed and think they're ugly when in fact looks only take you so far.

Answer 5

Me personally,
it is just what other people say about me; that I have heard it for so many years; that I just started to believe it. Thank goodness, I no longer think that...
I think people are ugly when they have a terrible attitude, dont take care of themselves and is not very intelligent. It is okay to have a good personality but why dont peole tell the true about beauty?
You can 'traditionally' ugly but please take care of yourself physically, mentally and be stylish.

Answer 6

There is only ONE reason I have ever found to be the true reason people think they are ugly. Their parents or first care givers during the first 5 years of life, somehow imparted or shared the concept verbally or non verbally that the child was somehow not up to par or insufficient. (It also works the other way, people who THINK they are beautiful were given positive feedback on a continual basis.

Answer 7

I'm with you all the way. Think beautiful and you will be. I have known some people that others thought by first glance, were UGLY. The minuet they said something about it, they were the ugly ones. To top it off, after knowing the 'ugly" one, their attitude and confidence was so high that they were BEAUTIFUL. See how it works. Beauty comes from within.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

The only time a physical compliment is expected and truly appreciated by a woman (unless she’s naked) is when you first pick her up for a date. Learn here http://AttractAnyWoman.emuy.info/?3bJb
She has put forth a great deal of effort to look good for you and her efforts should be acknowledged. Tell her she looks pretty or beautiful; maybe give her a little spin while you appreciate her loveliness. Then stop. After that moment all compliments should be general, like “that’s fascinating”, “cool” and “awesome”. You will make a woman feel more attractive by letting her know that that she is interesting and special than you will by talking about her physical attributes.

Answer 10

people tend to think of themselves as ugly because, they look at other peoples features and look back at themselves and notice that they don't have what the other person has.

and to think your gorgeous would be when you look at a "ugly" person and feel good about yourself.