Is it OK if I am a bisexual Christian?

Question

I am 14 years old and bisexual and I have heard alot that it is VERY wrong to be a Christian person who supports gays, or is gay. Everyone in my family is against gay/bisexual people, except me. I think that no matter what gender, if two people love each other, then what the hell! Go for it! It's just wrong to judge someone just because they like the same sex.. But is it wrong if you are a Christian?

Answer 1

Go for it.
I mean would you rather be happy yourself? Or just hide things to please your family and not be happy?

In 60 years time it will be you its affecting, not anyone else.

If your parents really love you they'll accept you for who you are.

Answer 2

I'd stay bisexual and drop the Christianity.

It does say in the bible that gay men should be put to death...I can't remember whether it says anything about lesbians, and I doubt that bis are specifically mentioned. I suppose you could get away with saying that the bible doesn't specifically say anything against bisexuality, but it would be sort of a cop-out.

Personally I think the bible is a Middle Eastern mythology book, nothing more, and I disagree with a (or just plain don't care about) a lot of what it says.

Ultimately, though, it's you're decision. Good luck with that.

Answer 3

Just be yourself. It's not wrong if you are have a different sexual orientation than what is considered the "norm". Judging people on just surface prejudices is not what Christianity is about. You can be a Christian and yourself at the same time, no matter what people around you may say. God is the one who judges us, not them. There are a lot of people who will go around claiming to speak for God, when all they are spouting is hate. God is love, not hate. You just have to ignore them and follow what is in your heart.

Answer 4

Yes, if you mean that you are to not be in denial, but rather recognize your sexual inclinations for what they are. But with this recognition, not attribute a whole personal identity around them, such as you certainly wouldn't with your preferences towards drinking or not, smoking or not, or hanging out with jocks or geeks!

And, no, if you mean sexually acting out with those of either sex. First of all, you are only 14, and psychosexual research indicates that the majority of teens (approximately 80%) who believe themselves to be gay, lesbian or bi, actually don't by their early 20's. But here's the catcher: IF and only IF they are not recruited by propagandists (i.e., GLSEN and Straight and Gay Coalition) and a permissive culture to think otherwise. In other words, even if others label you, don't you do this until you are an adult. I recommend you check out Exodus International Youth website.

The Bible makes it clear that all sex outside of marriage is not the will of God for anyone. God made sex, so He knows what's its purpose is and how people can best enjoy it and benefit by it, as well as benefit others (i.e., children). That means all, especially Christians who live by God's word, must adhere to what God prescribes, else negative ramifications are the result in some way.

But, no, Christians are not to be against anyone, just any conduct that they or others promote and/or display. They are to love everyone, since everyone is their neighbor, according to Jesus. It doesn't matter whether it's gossiping or any kind of sexual immorality. Love does not equal sexual attraction nor infatuation. I know that's hard to believe, but it's so true. Love involves mutual respect that can easily develop into friendship, then if sexual attraction develops out of the intimacy of a friendship, this could be the icing on the cake (pardon the pun) for wedding bells. However, if this occurs between two teenagers, an adult and a child, two people of the same sex, or say an unanimous group of people, then the sexual inclinations are not to be nurtured and encouraged. They must be displaced by other aspects of the relationship(s) that are acceptable, at least for the time being in the case of teenagers.

Why not gay relationships? Well, other than because the One Who made sex said so, and here are some other reasons. Gay relationships last on average from 2 to 6 years, even in gay-friendly cultures, and with that most are extrasexual (are involved with others). Heterosexual ones last on average 22 years, with only 33% of them admitting to having been unfaithful. Gays and lesbians have as much as 7 times higher than heterosexuals problems with mental health, drug and alcohol abuse problems, domestic violence issues, etc. Then there's the physical health issues (73% of HIV/AIDS, STD's victims, 11 times higher STD rate than 10 years ago in America) that mostly involve gay males. Lastly, gay coupling (despite a gay parent doing their darndest to raise their kid, just like any other parent would) is inherently an inferior parental team for raising children, somewhat on the lines of a stepfamily (can only be one biological parent if any). Physical abuse and sexual abuse is super high in families with a non-biological parent. Remember I said that gay couples only last on average 2 to 6 years? What would that mean for a child who will most likely go through their divorcing? Divorced parents' children have the worst mental health, criminal, school performance, and suicidal rate of all! Then, on top of this, family researchers are finding that children raised by gay couples are more likely to experience their own gender insecurities and confusion, as well more sexual promiscuity.

Need I say more?

Answer 5

If you are a Christian you will always be conflicted about sexuality, gender and sex in general. The whole religion obsesses over it.

But if you are happy worshipping among those who call you an 'abomination', then by all means stay Christian.

I agree that it is wrong to judge people badly for loving who they love.

Answer 6

You have a choice what you want to do and every decision you make you will give an account for it. You can serve only one of the 2 masters either GOD or the devil and there is only 2 places where you can eternity either in Heaven with Jesus or in hell with the devil. So if you go against the bible you also going against God's Word and by rejecting it I am sorry to say have chosen for yourself to spend eternity in the lake of fire but why not chose LIFE and it is not too late to change

Answer 7

I dont know much about Christianity,
but many other religions like Christianity are against gay/bi sexual beliefs,
however most religions still can accept them,
even when they know or think its wrong....

So do what you want to do, its not as if you are going forget about God, or something like that

Answer 8

I think it's perfectly fine. Christians always say it's not right to judge people, but it seems that's what most of them do. I feel like, if it's love, then it's love. No matter what race/gender/religion/whatever.

Answer 9

Don't let them scare you. Even where I live in the deep south, we have Christian churches open to gay/bi people and one church that opened specifically for gays, lesbians and bisexuals. That is what led to other churches inviting people of all persuasion.

Answer 10

In my personal opinion, it doesn't matter what religion you are, you're attracted to what gender or genders as in your case, that you are. I know several christian and catholic bi and homosexual people, so it's not wrong, just concieved that way, people who see things like that, though this is rather rude, are far too narrow minded, your happiness, as their child should come first, wether you be with a man or a woman, but again, that's just my oppinion.

Answer 11

YES it is ok... AND no (bisexuality) is not wrong if you believe in God.

I am actually shocked by the responses out there... more than the fact that you have made up your mind at the age of 14 to completely say what you are is "what you are".. (your still young, you shouldn't live by labels.... yet)

Anywho, for those who do know their bible, should also know that the laws that are written in the first testament ... were thrown out by the second testament (hence the whole thing about Jesus washing away our sins)... for those who live by the first testament, will die by the first testament.. and SHOULD live completely live by it (just like any other belief they have.. concept, principal and moral).. WHICH would mean that if you accept homosexuality as being wrong.. then you should consider yourself to be sinning just as well...

BECAUSE in the first testament, people offered animal sacrifices to atone for their sins!... Are we religious folk living like this? I hope not...because I love my cat and dog!

The reason that Jesus came along was to wash us from this past ... which means that you can use it as a "guideline" like any other thing that you really shouldn't rely on... bottom line..what you live by is what you will be judged by!

Sacrificing animals for sin goes along with saying that it is wrong to be homosexual... (this is ALL in the first testament ONLY.. not the second).

The second testament had the teachings that Jesus was set as, and for an example for, to live our own INDIVIDUAL lives (calling) and to believe in God.

If you mix both the testaments together, then you HAVE to abide by God's law completely..concept, principal and moral... God's laws...The laws of Love.

If one wishes to be with someone BECAUSE of the laws of Love, then that is what you will be judged by.

If one can live only by the second testament, then that is what they will be judged by.

If one can live only by the first testament, then that is what they will be judged by. This is for ALL those who believe that homosexuality is wrong.. because if you believe that homosexuality is wrong then that means you BELIEVE to live by the laws of the first testament... (which includes the commandments AND the sacrifices for such sins)....

I hope this makes sense to you.. Good luck with it!