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i keep wondering wether to ask him or not

but the one thing holding me back is how do i ask him to leave at the end of the day

what do you think

thanks for your answers


xxx vici

2007-11-10 20:04:46 · 37 answers · asked by vici 4 in Society & Culture Etiquette

37 answers

You do no such thing. There is a reason for people being out on the streets and you do not want to get involved - God knows what may happen. What you are suggesting is actually quite cruel. You ask him in to your home, are you buying him a present, raising his hopes of getting a bed for the night, will he get violent when asked to leave. It is not fair to be charitable on the one hand and then kick him out. He will come back for sure and make your life one long misery. Please talk to somebody as they will agree with me I think. It is madness.
If you are just doing this to satisfy some kind of guilt, wrap up some food in a box and give it to him and walk away for good. Being kind is one thing, but raising a desperate persons hopes and inviting him in then only worrying about how to get rid of him, is not wise. If you are so bothered, you have to find out how best to get help for him, but what you are proposing will only make it worse. Don't be so naive. Do not get involved - you have no idea of what may happen.

2007-11-10 23:28:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

Vici, for the last 2 weeks my friend has been helping a homeless lad who was waiting for a place in the opposite newly built hostel, he has been feeding him, giving him some work in his shop, giving him a little money and friendship and the lad admitted to having a drink problem, he was also sleeping rough outside, this 22 year old lad worked his way to getting a bed inside of the shop for the night last Thursday, he was served tea and biscuits in the morning part and as my friend went to the loo he heard the front door bang and when he came out he saw that his £500 laptop had mysteriously vanished...the police were called and found the lads bag which was full of needles...

soooo there are a few lessons here, don't invite him, people are homeless for a reason, drink, drugs, violence,...

2007-11-10 20:20:41 · answer #2 · answered by just-dave 5 · 8 1

Its a wonderful guesture, yes, but I know of people in my area that are homeless and I would not advise inviting a stranger into your home. What if the person chooses not to leave? Or starts harrassing you regularly after? You could end up with this person continuously harrassing you to support them and make a bad situation out of this.

Why not just give him a sandwich or something as you walk past and wish him a merry christmas?

Please think logically, 9/10 there is a BAD reason why a person is homeless. Mental problems, damage to the last property they resided at etc. I'm not saying that all homeless people are "bad" but in my experience, a lot of them are best being avoided.
In Queensland, mental patients are released and a lot of them end up on the streets.

Please be careful.

2007-11-10 21:37:59 · answer #3 · answered by Alice 4 · 4 1

The plight of the homeless is not often one we'd like to contemplate.These are the street roamers,people living a life most of us cant ever imagine.Some with psychiatic problems,some alcoholics,ect...all have been spurned by their families,friends,society ect. . . No, due to circumstances im unable to invite a homeless person as a guest for a elaborate meal at my residence. . . im most willing to offer my assistance to any homeless shelter on Christmas day with preparing and serving meals. . . Bon appetit to Xmas meal at the homeless shelter. . . Hey make it a special event,operation Xmas warmth. . . be motivated and contribute your assistance !! perhaps !?

2007-11-11 01:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

I would not.In our house it has always been an intensely Family occasion followed by some time with friends. Inviting someone from outside our intimate circle would be embarrassing for them.

Well done for having the thought, though. As my children are getting older I am considering volunteering for a charity that gives homeless people a Christmas meal. I think that it's the conviviality that counts rather than the food.

A street-person is for life, not just for Christmas.

2007-11-10 21:39:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

No. You do not know enough about the person to just invite him over like other friends or family. Sometimes homeless people carry diseases and other unsanitary things on them. You will also anger other people and probably lose some friends to boot. Also, some "homeless" people are not actually "homeless", they are "actors" that prey on your good intentions and make their "living" from it. Some of them are scammers, so be very careful. FYI.

2007-11-10 23:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Len 5 · 1 0

Not if youre alone.

Get an opinion from someone who can actually assess this situation , in person. This is a difficult to respond to "sight unseen"

There are many reasons why people are homeless--some dangerous, some not.
Depends on what kind of judge of character you are also

2007-11-10 22:43:07 · answer #7 · answered by Nacho Mama 7 · 1 0

i would be thinking the same as you - i bought a homeless person a warm jumper and gloves for xmas one year - maybe you'd be best asking them to meet u somewhere and buying them dinner - that way you'd be safe and you'd know they had been fed - you sound really nice but put your own safety first - i have a few friends in town who sell the big issue but although they seem friendly i wouldnt ask them to come to my house - but i would'nt see them stuck at xmas either - there's always a way to show them you care and understand without putting yourself in danger - i'm sure he'll appreciate whatever you do for him

take care

lynda

2007-11-11 00:21:48 · answer #8 · answered by LJ 2 · 0 0

Many homeless people are very proud, and are only there because of a number of bad turns in their lives. Many would reject your offer out of fear of disrupting the day for you and your family. For me personally, it would be very hard to invite them into a home filled with happiness and "wealth" and then return them to their hole in the wall at the end of the day.

So as much as your goodwill is admirable, I would recommend taking him out for lunch the day or two before and leaving it at that. An envelope containing a Christmas card with some money would also be greatfully accepted.

2007-11-10 20:20:17 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Sally Anne 7 · 7 1

Perhaps if I knew something of them I might. But in all honesty I couldn't say I would.
Never mind asking them to leave at the end of the day, what about the rest of the year or every time it rains?
How awful to have to be so honest on a Sunday morning!

2007-11-10 20:21:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4 1

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