If someone never ate your food you cooked served at parties,yet always expected you to try or eat their food?

Question

at their parties, how in the world would you feel about this?

Alright, my husband's good friend whom he has a hobby working on cars w/in his friends garage has been a close friend of his for yrs. Well his friends gf who has a couple parties a yr. at their house, and of course everyone eats like they would at any party.
Every once in a blue moon, I'll have a get together here and everyone loves what I have made, EXCEPT HER {my husbands friends gf.}
At a couple of New Yrs parties I had, and this past summer cookout I had, she wouldn't eat a thing, saying she "wasn't hungry".
What's even weirder is in the past, she always admired my cooking, and always asked me to teach her how to make certain foods/recipes {used to have a cafe' I did}

The point is, she acts all enthusiastic about me trying out her food at parties ect. YET, I feel so INSULTED when she's invited here, and she won't even have a glass of soda, nor try anything I've made whatsoever.
WHAT IS WRONG WITH HER
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and how in the world can someone have such a lack of MANNERS and proper ediquette, plus she always acts so enthused to make her bf and my husband something to eat when he hangs out w/his friend sometimes, yet once I suggested that I'd bring them something to eat one of these days and she acted just real funny abt it.
How do I deal w/such a person when sometimes I WILL have to!!!--as it's my husbands friends gf. So occassionally I have to deal w/her but don't think it's fair at all the way she's treating me.

WELL, THE HOUSE IS SPOTLESS, CLEAN ECT. WE HAVE NO PETS.
SHE'S ALWAYS ACTED VERY JEALOUS OF ME BECAUSE MY COOKING IS ALWAYS BEING BRAGGED ABOUT BY EVERYBODY AND NEVER HAVE ANYTHING LEFT AFTER A PARTY EITHER.
EVERYTHING HER BF EVER TRIED THAT I MADE HE LIKED, AND SHE WANTED TO LEARN THE RECIPE SO I GAVE HER THOSE RECIPES.

I JUST DO NOT THINK SHE SHOULD ACT OFFENDED IF I DON'T TRY A CERTAIN SOMETHING OR OTHER THAT SHE MAKES.
THEN TURN AROUND AND ACT LIKE THAT AT ONE OF MY PARTIES
I PERSONALLY THINK SHE'S SELFISH AND RUDE AND A JEALOUS WOMAN.

Answer 1

I don't necessarily think she's refusing to eat because of the quality of your food. As the first answerer mentioned, she might have some illness that is preventing her from eating, either physical or psychological.

Answer 2

That's really weird.

Without being in the situation, I can't really pinpoint what the problem is, but some questions and possibilities come to mind.

Does she have allergies? Maybe she's afraid to eat other people's food in general, because of this. However, I expect if this were the case, she'd just let you know.

She may have a mental problem, like OCD, or some other neuroticism that makes her uncomfortable eating anything she hasn't made. You never know. If she does, it's probably not something she'd talk openly about.

Do you have pets? Maybe she has concerns that your food or dishes may be dirty because of pets. This may be rational or not, but it is something that some people worry about, especially if you, for instance, have a cat who jumps up on the cabinet, or you give your pets food out of regular dishes and bowls.

Do you smoke in your home? Your food or dishes may carry an odour of smoke, which she could find unappealing.

Does she usually eat her own food when you go to her gatherings? She may have an eating disorder, and it may not be apparent in her own home, because she may play around with food there or stay so busy that you never notice she doesn't eat (or that she may binge and purge.)

She could also just have a stomach problem, and she feels uncomfortable with the idea of eating and having to go use the bathroom in your home, so she doesn't eat in order to avoid that situation. That'd also be something she probably wouldn't want to talk about. Then again, if this was the case, you bringing dishes to her house wouldn't be an issue.

Do you always wash your hands after you go to the restroom, handle food, clean up things, touch pets, etc? She may have noticed that you didn't wash your hands at some point, and so she doesn't want to eat anything you've prepared.

If none of the above seem to apply, then I have no idea. I would say she may just be a rude person, but considering that she asks you about your recipes, seems to admire you, and wants you to try her foods... that doesn't seem terribly likely. Though I suppose it's always possible that she doesn't like you for some reason and is just pretending to be nice. Or perhaps she's just very competitive or jealous about her cooking abilities, and stubborn to admit someone else could be good.

Sometimes it's not really possible to tell what people's motivations are for the things that they do. If you really want to know, ask her.

Answer 3

Maybe she just doesn't like your cooking, or caught you practicing not so hygenic cooking if you know what I mean. Maybe you don't wash your hands... it can be a million reasons... maybe it isn't you at all. Some women just won't taste other womens cooking. Say one time for Thanksgiving I offered to help my sister by making a pumpkin pie. She insisted she didn't need the help but I made one anyways, and so did she. Well, everyone was raving about my pie and I had saved her a piece and she didn't want to touch it. I guess she was a little jealous because nobody touched her pie.

Answer 4

She may not trying to be insulting to you. It could be that she can't not eat allot of things because of allergies or a medical issue she has. I know for me at parties I always try and find out what is in things because I am allergic to papaya which is in allot of different things that most people don't even know that it is in. also I have chrons too so if I eat the wrong thing I will need to leave the party because I will get really ill.

Answer 5

don't want to sound guilty of the same thing...but i am...and it has nothing to do with anyone but me....Most of the time...i just don't wanna eat. true to the fact, that i love to cook and eat...i'll feed an army if they are over, but wouldn't eat if i went there. Not sure why, but thats just me.I personally don't like eating infront of people unless, i am in my own comfortable space. Maybe it has nothing to do with you at all.I really don't have any others answers, i too was confronted by a friend who asked me the same thing...i had no other answer exept...I wasn't hungry.

Answer 6

She either....Is allergic to the food you ate, She feels that it is none of your business, She just doesn't like the food that is done. Maybe she ate before hand, Maybe Your food just got too salty/ or spicy and she couldn't handle it.

Maybe you just need to ask them. And stop being so offended.

Answer 7

If that's what you feel, I suggest you don't hang out with her anymore. Life is too short to suffer such fools.

Answer 8

It is not about you. She has either IBS or anorexia. or other problem