I fell asleep in my g/f's dorm room and she left. I checked her cell phone while she was gone and she had just deleted all of her recent calls. She was gone for 15 minutes. She came back and said she was using the bathroom and said it was mysterious that her recent calls had been deleted. I don't think that they deleted themselves. So either she's cheating or the cell phone has a mind of it's own. She says she wouldn't ever cheat on me, but I'm suspicious. wadda ya think? I'm going to do some investigation and see if the phone has a history of technical issues surrouding this recent calls thing.
2007-11-10 17:55:29 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yea man, she's banging someone else.
2007-11-10 18:06:18 · answer #1 · answered by joe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, and she was great, too!
I jest. Seriously, without more proof than just some deleted phone calls, you are pretty much setting yourself up as the jealous idiot. There could be literally dozens of alternate possibilities. For example, what if she was calling a travel agent to plan a special trip for you and didn't want to ruin the surprise? You'd sure look like a fool if you accused her then, now, wouldn't ya?
That said, you looked at her phone for a reason. I can only think of two reasons you would do it. One is that you are a jealous punk who doesn't deserve a girlfriend, and you probably cheated on HER, as jealous paranoia is often a characteristic of abusers and cheaters. I'm not saying this is why you did it, but it is a common occurrence.
The other is that she has said or done something else that hinted to you that she might be cheating. If that is the case, then that sucks, dude. I'm sorry. Then you may need to just cut ties and move on. Whether she did it or not, the trust in the relationship is broken, and that means it is just a matter of time before you two break up anyway.
All that said, it is time to reevaluate your relationship. If you can work this out, then great! But think hard and long about this before you react. My point here is merely this: things are not always what they seem. Careful you don't end up throwing away a good thing just because of needless paranoia. Good luck!
2007-11-11 02:04:39 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What could she possibly have done ,intimately in 15 minutes with someone else that would have allowed her to come back into the room with you with no other evidence than some recently deleted calls on her cell phone? If you do not trust this girl enough for her to disappear from your presence for 15 minutes and you need to check her cellular phone calls, for that reason, it is you who has an unfounded jealousy problem. Does she need to check your cellular calls? She may or may not be cheating, depending on other factors you have not addressed here, but your relationship has serious trust issues. If she tells you she went to the bathroom, why don't you believe her? That does not make sense under the above circumstances.
2007-11-11 02:14:00 · answer #3 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if this makes a difference or not, but I delete my calls out of my phone because I like my phone to be tidy. Not because I'm hiding anything. I will leave one call per contact in my phone for speedy dialing...I think its a little OCD issue I have...
2007-11-11 02:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by Kesta 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you start looking for trouble you will find it sooner when that is all you are looking for.Form a bond of trust with whomever you choose as your mate.From this point forward and try to remember these words and recite them."WHAT'S FOR ME IS MINE AND NO ONE CAN CHANGE THAT''.People in general have a way of telling on their selves You do not have to be Inspector Clousoe just be patient.
2007-11-11 02:23:51 · answer #5 · answered by yp_will_chicago_369 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has been ridin the baloney pony without you permission my friend ,college does that to lots of girls,stop calling her ,stop taking her calls,see if she misses you,get her worked up into a "i think hes gonna dump me"type frenzy.then and only then you should talk,give her many ultimatums and then ask about her messages being deleted,and dont take "i dont know "for an answer
2007-11-11 02:03:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if she has to delete, and you have to investigate, then the 2 of you dont even need to be together
2007-11-11 02:03:53 · answer #7 · answered by emtp911 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever hear of privacy??? You have not given her that!!! And what about trust??? You should seriously think about where you are going with. How would you feel if your girlfriend checked your numbers on your phone??? It is her phone is it not!!! When something doesn't belong to you why are you going there???
2007-11-11 02:01:02 · answer #8 · answered by winona e 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
maybe she deleted the calls because they were from guy friends and she doesnt want to make you jealous and have you tell her not to see them again.
2007-11-11 02:00:36 · answer #9 · answered by Dont get Infected 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't say outright cheating, but she is being very deceitful. You should either make her come clean about what is going on or dump her.
2007-11-11 19:24:21 · answer #10 · answered by Jeremy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to get out of her dorm room! She ain't worth it!
2007-11-11 01:58:53 · answer #11 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋