I am getting married to the love of my life, our wedding is going to be quite formal, What i need for input is this...
My best friend is a guy, I want him to stand up for me, how do i get him beside me as my "maid of honor" with out him looking gay and still having a formal wedding. I couldnt imagine anyone but him being with me on my day. I know he will say yes to it, but i dont want to humiliate him either!
Is there any other way to have him stand with me? The grooms side is taken and besides that, he is my best friends not my fiance's... im sooo confused.
2007-11-10 17:00:47 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This really isn't as much as an issue as you think. He will be your "man of honour" or "bridesman", and he will stand beside you.
It really won't be a big deal. Make sure his suit has some sort of accent color on the vest etc. that is the same as the bridesmaid's dresses, and his corsage should match their bouquets or be distinct (not the same as the groomsmen).
I am having a "Man of Honour" and a MOH. I will be standing proud with my two best friends, and I couldn't be happier.
This will not be a big deal unless you make it one. Trust me!
Have fun and enjoy your big day!
2007-11-10 17:33:25 · answer #1 · answered by reginachick22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's common place now a days. the nicest way i've seen this done is with the man of honour standing on the brides side a the altar opposite the groom and groomsmen.
then the father escorts the bride down the isle and she hands the man of honour the bouquet.
then after the wedding when it's time to walk back down the isle, do it single file instead of bridesmaids and groomsmen in pairs.
it will be beautiful and classy xx
2007-11-10 17:12:45 · answer #2 · answered by chilly 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
This is not a problem. He stands by your side during the wedding and he wears whatever the groomsmen wear. Good luck
2007-11-11 03:40:11 · answer #3 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The attendants are for BOTH the bride and groom, so your male friend would be a groomsman. If you had a brother, he would be a groomsman, for example. If your groom to be had a sister, she would be a bridesmaid.
And your HTB should be your BEST friend, not just another guy!
2007-11-11 00:19:26 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think people will think he's gay. It may be a little awkward if you choose to announce the bridal party...as usually the maid of honor walks in with the best man.... you'd have to do some rearranging, but if you want to it work, you can make it work.
2007-11-10 17:09:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a common trend nowadays. You just have to change the title a little bit. Instead of main of honor, how about man of honor, or bridesman (ok not my best one)? Just play around with the title and pick the one you like the best.
2007-11-10 17:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by Cute Mom of 2 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi. Yes, this is perfectly acceptable! Hey, Oprah was "best lady" in her good friend, Bob Green's wedding.
So...change the title...have him in a tux (obviously), and he will be "man of honor". Good luck!
2007-11-10 17:16:19 · answer #7 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
my sister was a "groomsmaid" at her friends wedding. she wore a black dress instead of the bridesmaids colors, and it looks good in all the pictures. i don't know how she walked the isle. i would suggest that you look into having him wear a suit in the same color as the bridesmaid dresses as long as they aren't pink!
2007-11-11 04:36:02 · answer #8 · answered by halloweenie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance is having a girl on his side. Our colors are hot pink and black. The guys are wearing black, the girls hot pink with black ribbons on their dresses. The girl on my fiance's side is wearing a black dress with hot pink ribbon (so the same dress just in diff. color to match the groomsmen.) So, maybe for you- if you have a color that the girls wear on your side that would look okay in a suit for him to wear- black, navy, or maybe having him wear a black suit with a vest/tie, etc. the color of the girls- and maybe even match the guys on your fiance's side. I'm sure he'd still look nice, and it would still look formal no matter what you decide to do. I have no problem with guys/girls on one or the other sides.
Good luck!
2007-11-10 17:10:05 · answer #9 · answered by m930 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you could have your father and him both walk you down the aisle & give you away.
Being formal doesn't mean you can't detour from the norm. As long as he's in a tux & not bride's maid dress I don't see any problem.
2007-11-10 17:12:50 · answer #10 · answered by syllylou77 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋