how can i stop being jealous?

Question

Ive known this girl for what seems my whole life.. but its really only 7 months. anyways whenever she is around this one guy named Craig i get really jealous. He and her dated once and he broke her heart. after that her and i are trying to date.. we haven't started yet but will soon. however even at the slightest idea of him and her being around each other i get jealous and just want to hurt him and get her away from him.. this girl and I will start dating soon. I'm not afraid of her being taken from me.. i know she wouldn't do that to me. I just dislike him for some reason. so how do i stop being jealous of them? (btw she knows this guys an *** hole and player now) also i would like to know if this affects weather or not i truly love her. i mean if i truely love her would i get jealous for no reason?

Answer 1

Maybe you just have to manage the jealousy. I don't know a way to get rid of it, but you have to be in control of your emotions, not the other way around. So much about love and our feelings is not rational, so you just have to accept things and not let it bother you too much.

Answer 2

Jealousy is natural in your early years, but as you get older it should start to go away more. If you focus on doing things with more people instead of focusing on one or just a few - the the feeling of being jealous should be less and easier to deal with. Being jealous means that you either want something you can't have, or can't get, or are not likely to get - you feel jealous when you can't control something. Try this - stop trying to control everything and just go out and have a good time.

Answer 3

This emotion is real and dangerous. It comes from being insecure. Look, either you will start a relationship with this woman or you won't. If you do, you do not have to worry about this guy, because she will have chosen you over him. If you don't begin a relationship with her and she goes back to him, (or to someone else) you never had anything to begin with. (There are plenty of fish in the sea.) Start by being comfortable with your self. Be confident that you are valuable and that a woman would be smart to catch you. If she's the right one for you, it will happen; if she isn't, then it won't. Be patient. God has the right match in mind for you. Wait on the Lord. If you keep you eyes on God and seek first the Kingdom, all the desires of your heart will be given to you at the appropriate time. May the Lord bless you and keep you. May the Lord cause his face to shine on you and give you His peace. Numbers 24:

Answer 4

Love sometimes gets pulled away and you want to keep it forever. I think you should always try to think that she is yours for life and tell the Craig person to like get some space from your girl if you or she gets uncomfortable when he's around. Try to make everyone and everything disappear in your mind when you're dating her or when you're just socializing. You shouldn't be jealous if you know that you two are together as one. Don't stress out; it gets you to think about the worst that can happen. If you know that she won't do this to you, I doubt that he'll take her from you. G' luck~

Answer 5

No....If you truly loved her, AND she truly loved you, you wouldn't be so threatened. She would, unless your some "numb skull, jealous, no convincing jerk, in which case, you will have this problem with EVERY girlfriend you ever date", she will make you know your the only one. Either that, or she's just afraid of what you'll do, and she's just trying to be nice so you won't turn into a physco and freak out on everyone around because you can't handle rejection.....sorry to say, but that sounds more true. Maybe you should reevaluate your relationship and make sure the woman of your dreams doesn't just think your a phys co who will freak if she says goodbye.....Good Luck!

Answer 6

Just think of it like this would you want her to feel like that around you all jealous, but you ask me if they broke up why are they like best friends anyway that is a move on situation would she like your ex girl around you an being (best buds) No she would not i hope at least but you need to talk with her let her know how you are feeling an see what you all can work out.

Answer 7

To keep it real, good girls tend to like bad boys. He is probably still hittin' it. I'm just putting it out there like that for you to play with and take it how you want to. She knows he is not the one but she can't leave him alone. You are the better one to be with but you may not be as aggressive as Craig. You need to speak up about your feelings or you two will be "about to date" for 7 more months.

Answer 8

Don't worry about feeling immature. We ALL have the feelings you described. Sometimes it helps having another few people tell you what you really know in your heart. I cannot tell you how pleased I am about his reaction. Well done to you too. It sounds like you two have a bright future ahead of you. All the best.

Answer 9

You shouldn't be jealous. The reason why your are jealous is either because you don't trust her or you aren't happy or confident in yourself. And being either one isn't good for a relationship. When you figure out which one, you can figure out what you need to do to change that.

Answer 10

From personal experience, you should stop. Sometimes this drives people away from you and I think thats the last thing you want. Now, don't start thinking that shes going to leave you just because you do this. Maybe you need more communication with her, maybe you need to talk to her about this?