Why do the guys give me a hard time?

Question

I am a single, straight, successful, educated, 28 year old male. I have never had a girlfriend and I have only gone on three dates in my entire lifetime. I haven't even experienced my first kiss yet, lol. I have no problem with this as I am not a very affectionate person and I don't have the silly need for this that most people have. If I find someone to love I'll go for it I suppose, but it doesn't really matter. I also still live at home rent free, nice right? My question is as follows: Why do my friends "The Guys" seem to have more of a problem with my life than I do? They say it's not healthy not to date and/or have no experience with love along with still living at home. I told them it's not an objective of mine. There were even some friends asking if I were gay! Lol, geez is everyone automatically labeled gay if they aren't over-sexed? I am attracted to females and females only, but I can resist the "temptation" very easily. What are you thoughts?

Answer 1

Don't worry! you're just normal, maybe "that" girl hasn't come along yet. You sound like the nicest guy I've heard of, most of them sound more like the others you describe...

Answer 2

Part of your problem, is that you live a home, Unless your parents has a disabiltiy or financially need you assistance, why don't you get out on your own? You need to get a life of your own and make a contribution to society. Volunteer and help out the scouts or the needy or the less fortunate than yourself and get involved. Since you are living rent free at home, Having your own apartment or buying a town home would be a wise investment and perhaps you would find a woman or other friend that shares some of your interests. Someday your parents will pass away and you will have no experience to draw on. LIving on you own now teaches Responsibility, budgeting time money and other resources and if you get out an make friends, Once your parents are gone you will have someone to ask for help if your car breaks down or if you just need someone to talk to. Ask your Clergy man for suggestion of groups at church, check the library and phone books or on line for other groups that may interest you.

Answer 3

You may be asexual. Which means you aren't really all that attracted to anyone at all. Although I wouldn't sit around and wonder too much, because as you get older you may become so wild and woolly no woman will ever want you. If your happy with your life then fine but your friends will hound you ever more because that is what guys do. If you are hiding because you fear rejection or you don't think you could attract the kind of woman that you think you would like, buck it up and go out there and find out.

Answer 4

You've been unnecessarily condemned to a life at home with your parents. Your experiences are limited, and until you understand the true and enormous value that there is of dating and enjoying the outside world, you will not be able to argue against a stay at home life. It is extremely depressing to an extent, and you might even find yourself in a state of denial. Immediately find a partner, and move out. The opportunities that arise for you will be immense. Plus there will be benefits that you have never dreamed of. It is necessary in your social and biological nature.

Good luck, and god speed. Seriously.

Answer 5

Move out before you turn 30. Even if you do find a girl you like, she is less likely to be interested if you live with your folks. You're successful, so get a cool little apartment and have your friends over for beers and video games or whatever you like to do. It's time. Move out before you are considered strange by your peers at work. That could ruin your career that you have worked so hard for. Saving $500/a month or whatever isn't worth your dignity.

Answer 6

i have a lot of respect 4 u. u know what u got everything going 4 u and ur friends are just jealous of ur success. but i warn u be careful if u ever go into the dating scene because I as a woman know that women can be very manipulative. dont care about what ur friends think about u let them talk their s*** but u know who u are and thats what counts. u will find the right one but know where to look. try coffee shops or libraries, something like that maybe even a gym who knows u never know love comes in many unexpected ways,shapes,&forms. i wish u the best of luck! =)

Answer 7

Because a lot of men your age think that world begins and ends with "poontang". They can not see past their own peckers..pardon my French. Most of those idiots will wind up wrapped around the finger of some dubious individual until such time as she files for divorce and takes them to the cleaners.
You stay right where you are and bank those extra dollars. And laugh at these nitwits when their whole lives unravel before their very eyes.

Answer 8

From my point of view, I see no fault with your way of life, unlike many. Also, It is quite possible that your "friends" are jealous of your very relaxing lifestyle with the big bucks and they think that they personally grew up too fast, or they are starting to lose interest in your friendship and want to change you so that you can remain friends. However, it is your life, and a very nice one I'm sure, so you make the decisions. I wish I was capable of helping you further, but I am no experienced councilor. I wish you luck.

Bye!
xxx

Answer 9

I respect that you are an educated man that is not easily tempted into jumping onto the bandwagon.

The reason that "the guys" give you a hard time is because of the fact that in some ways you are different from them. They have a set of guidelines that may be different from yours, and they believe that their guidelines are correct, as do you. Perhaps the reason is that they are genuinely concerned for you and wish you the best. Explain your guidelines to them as best as you can, and see if they understand.

Answer 10

Maybe they are jealous of you. Alot of people can't stand the fact that they are going down alone. I think this is great. You are a very strong willed person. If you can resist the temptation, then I'm certain that you have it in you to ignore their comments as well. Keep your head up sweetie. Your gonna be fine.

Answer 11

You are dening your self of all human insticks,you should let your self be fulfiled. A man cant live by bread alone some day you wake and wounder what went wrong in your life and be sad and empty inside. Your friends have a hard time relating with you because humans identify with same experiences.