to BE? or not NOT to be.........?

Question

I am 24 and have a friend who is a catholic girl "gone bad". Of course I understand that this IS the case with any religion so I am not trying to discriminate. I have known this girl for about 8 years. That is a long time but do understand I wouldnt really call her a "best friend" and I think "good friend" is even pushing it to the limit. She is just more wild and crazy than I have ever been. She has been with a ton of men and has had a few ab**tions which I am 100% AGAINST although I would never talk sh** to someones face about having it done. Keep in mind that she has never been a rape victim so you get the idea. Well, a year and half ago we get back in touch and she tells me about this new flame that she has. Time goes by and eventually she gets preg. and has hard times with him. I talk to her on the phone and she tell me she wants me to be the GODMOTHER. I say yes and tell her with full support that she will make it through. One month later she has an Ab******...We keep in touch ->

and I do not say anything about what happened.....I tried to talk her out of it but there is not much more I could do.
Well time goes by and now she is with another man. She met him on a popular internet website and I guess they soon hit it off.
She moved in with him and his pops, she's 24 and he's a bit younger. They argue have hard times, she moves out. She finally
gets a job and he wont let her move back in so I tell her she can stay with me for 3 months till she gets her act together.
Well I just found out a few nights ago that she is secretly pregnant. He knew and another one of her friends that she told.
It got back to me in a really really weird way. She couldnt believe that I had found out and was real apologetic about it
but really I didnt care. So im talking to her over the phone and she throws in that she wants me to be the GODMOTHER...I
was in SHOCK but I said "im honored" and quickly moved on with the convo. She hasnt been here in 2 weeks but im just wondering
if

I should take her seriously after what happened the last time. I know she's going to keep it but am I the only person she asked/?? Should I tell her the truth that I dont want to be the godmother???

I dont see how a person can be so lighthearted about something like this. Im not even catholic, I know nothing about being a godmother....I just dont know why she would throw this my way........

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.So what about my "FIRST" godchild?????that she murdered????

Answer 1

pardon me for being curt and frank.You are no match for this so called friend of your's,being a simple and honest person.For God's sake as well as your own,get rid of her before you find yourself in some intractable problem.Girls like her have no respect for themselves as well as for people who have any sense of values in their lives.Incidentally,what's the point you want to prove to yourself?Answer it honestly and you would know what to do.

Answer 2

The word "abortion" is not a profanity. You can say it here. If you care enough about this person to want to be their friend and help them deal with all their baggage, go for it....it sounds to me like this girl's got some issues that she needs to work out on her own, though. I'd advise not being so judgmental, too. It sounds to me that you're expecting this girl to hold the same morals and values that you do. It's nice that she wanted you to be a godmother to one of her unborn children, but it's not your place to make statements about "the one she murdered". If you don't agree with her actions, be a woman and tell her so, and get on with your life.

Answer 3

I wouldn't take it all that seriously she doesn't seem like too serious a person, maybe she is just trying to show respect to you by asking.

I don't really know what it means either, does it come with responsibilities or is it just an honorary thing?

Answer 4

to be. God is using you to "get through" to your friend.