2007-11-10 15:52:40 · 16 answers · asked by hmm 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, no, maybe maybe so...
Flirting is one thing, commitment takes longer to assess. Do you be direct about it? Maybe NOT. Even if he feels the same you may not become a couple at all. All relationships are founded on the principles of trust, caring and the total unknown of gut reaction.
What is more, he might be afraid to approach someone he really loves until he has time to observe you and figure out if you work out in his world. Most of us want to be in love but we also don't need a total disruption of how we like to be and neither would you!
If you aren't expecting him to "become something" you are on the right track already. Neither of you is here to change the other but to enhance each other and adapt. It's not a forced process, as in "You can't do this, see them" etc, but if the two of you trust and honor each other's needs and feelings (compromise is the word) to an original degree (nobody should have to lay down rules unless you didn't like something), if something clicks it will click and perhaps grow..
Now for the big deals. If you need to tell somebody things like how sexual you want the relationship to become at this point do it as soon as it's an issue and don't mince your words. Jealousy has to be eliminated between you or perhaps you should move on. Any high, fancy conceptions of of romance should be examined well and tossed if they don't sit with reality. You are two people with lives of their own and not one person with two bodies and you have to live for yourself, not just for them. If not you will become very dissatified rapidly.
Lots of guys flirt, very few will fall in love. Flirting is a social reaction to others you find enjoyable but it isn't an indicator of much else. If he is interested he will try to express it but WHEN he is comfortable. What you can do is gently toss out some questions that don't necessarily indicate you want him but show him you do have interest in knowing him more.
Ask him to a dance or hang at some event and engage him some. Maybe he does like you but you need to show him things. Love at first sight isn't all that common...people can know each other for years and yet the feeling comes from the unknown.
Whatever you do DON'T just go and be 'his girl' and surrender yourself like a sacrifice. A lot of people, whether male or female don't want somebody to solve their every problem...I've learned this the hard way and ladies have complained I "smother" them sometimes. It's hard not to sometimes but it's pretty important.
One thing that guys cannot figure out and suffer for is when a woman either does not let on as to what is bugging her and then just blows up and splits without him having a clue why she left. Chances are she left hints and we didn't see them very well and maybe we will recognize them eventually or maybe we'll wander in a daze and do it again. Do some homework and find out how he has behaved in the past with girls, whether he dated them or not. You will have solid points to tell you if he is really worth it or a trainwreck leaving the station and not just the "Oooooooooh! JOHNNY" syndrome.
2007-11-10 16:45:09 · answer #1 · answered by _ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the answer to this question is "yes", and sometimes the answer to this question is "no". It really is a circumstantial thing. It's really dependent on whether or not the guy is a jerk, or if the guy has a strange sense of humor like I do. Coming from my point of view, yes, I would tease a girl about it for a little then say "Hey, actually, I didn't mean to be a jerk, but yeah, I kinda have a crush on you, too. Wanna go out sometime?". If the guy's a complete and total jerk, then he'd probably just laugh at you, and walk away.
2007-11-10 23:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by johnnymidnite87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how mature the boy is. Some would tease to make fun of her an some would tease in a flirty way because they are happy that someone likes him.
2007-11-10 23:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by ttwobearsplusone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably. If he is comfortable enough to tease you about it then he probably does like you back. Try asking him, he already knows you like him so what could be the worst thing to happen?
2007-11-10 23:56:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a guy but I would think so, otherwise why bother with the teasing?
2007-11-10 23:55:47 · answer #5 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the teasing but usually yes it does
2007-11-10 23:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by rlf1859 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends. If he's an arrogant type of person, then no. Otherwise, yes.
2007-11-10 23:56:47 · answer #7 · answered by Oh la la 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,now cheer up lol
2007-11-10 23:55:32 · answer #8 · answered by low_hd_rider 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-11-10 23:55:24 · answer #9 · answered by David G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ill say this the more you tease her the more she will hate you.
2007-11-10 23:55:30 · answer #10 · answered by D man 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋