Well my confidnece lever is really low at the moment. I have a hard time talking to people and pushing myself to do things that could get me ahead in life. I would like to have friends and be more involved in life.. but the fact is my lack of confidence really affects my life.. Im also allways worried want others think of me and i know that i shouldnt be like this.. How can i change the way i feel about myself... thanks !
2007-11-10 15:35:40 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Do what you like and don't worry about what people think of you.If you worry about that too much,you'll never leave the house.Make yourself happy before anyone else.Live your life for you.People are always going to talk.Give them something
to talk about.
2007-11-10 15:56:14 · answer #1 · answered by dcsteubenville 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The easiest way to build self-esteem is to do something hard. I don't mean climb Mt. Everest, but set a goal and stick to it. Some examples might be:
- Setting up a gym schedule and sticking to it
- Running a 5k or other race
- Taking a class in something that interests you
- Going to church
- Volunteering. This is my personal favorite. If you're able to help a child read or get food, it will definitely put your problems in perspective.
Whatever you choose, it doesn't have to be expensive or huge. The fact that you are setting a goal and reaching it will make you feel great about yourself because you're succeeding. And if you can make someone else's life better in the process, how great would that be?
2007-11-11 00:16:19 · answer #2 · answered by Stanley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to start small. what do you do well? find happiness in small victories and build upon each one. think also about what is your identity. with each small success you have, you will develop an identity in that field. people will start to recognize your new identity as your behaviors revolve around the identity. you will do things consistent with the identity. I am a fan of the washington redskins. people know that about me. I wear the jerseys, hat's, i even have season tickets, all behaviors of a true fan of the team. if i asked a friend to describe me to someone else, they would probably say that i am a redskin fan. my confidence grew in this identity when they were winning lots of games in the 80's. now it's who i am and i have enjoyed watching my team win 3 super bowls. even in the bad years, when the team is not doing so well, i still take pride in past victories and don't really care what people say. if you want to learn more about identity and behavior as it pertains to confidence, try reading anthony robbins.
2007-11-10 23:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by Bob J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about the worst thing that could happen which is what..maybe someone laughing at you? Will that really change or hurt you in any way?
Second...know that you are loved. Even if no one else does, God does.
Now look in the mirror and tell yourself you are one hot, hot guy and you can do and say whatever you want! Haha...but seriously.
Eleanor Roosevelt said once that no one can make you inferior without your consent =]
2007-11-10 23:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by MURAHCLUR 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I joined a gym about two months ago. I do believe the working out has really built up my confidence, and also making and eating healthier food choices. I sleep a lot better.
2007-11-10 23:40:04 · answer #5 · answered by That one 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paxil is FDA approved for social anxiety disorder but is often used for low self esteem. See a doctor and get on Paxil.
2007-11-10 23:42:51 · answer #6 · answered by thefinalresult 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋