Well I told him that I am not ready to be in a relationship but we are good friends. He usually expresses his feeling though but now he told me that maybe we are not meant to be. I like him a lot but I don't want to be in a relationship due to school (college) and I never had a boyfriend. I used to being single I don't express my feeling as much as he does. He been pursuing me 5 months. Do you think he is right? Do you sense when you are meant to be and are you usually right?
He doesn't want to be friends anymore but he says it will be tough to not call me. He says I don't give him enough attention. However, I told him beforehand hat I am busy with classes and I can be his friend for now and I like him.
Now he called me several times but I did not call him back. I keep thinking about him. Do you think I should call him?
2007-11-10 15:26:01 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
,I'm in the same boat your friends in! It's a sinking feeling. I'm glad I read this. I needed to see this! thanks!! Yes I think he's right? He's in love with you! Take my word for it, he is! Think a bit, a man expressing his feelings for you!! Pursuing you for five months!! Good friendship!! Now, there comes a time when a person should give up. He wants to, but he can't! Why? Because he loves you!! That's why you get the calls from him. By you not responding to these calls, is nothing but torture from you towards him.
The sad thing for him (and correct me if I'm wrong), is you don't have that love feeling for him. Do you? His mind truly doesn't want to be around anymore, but his heart does! He also knows that you don't have the love for him that he has for you! Do him the favor, and don't keep him as a friend. The last crushing blow that you could do to him is meet the one that you could fall in love with, while he has to watch! When you become "Love struck" I'll bet you a $1.00 that you'll be able express your feelings. CALL HIM!! Cut the string!!
2007-11-10 16:19:40 · answer #1 · answered by david 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, you said you have a hard time expressing your feeling & you have never had a boyfriend. Do you think you may be shying away b/c your a little afraid & unsure of the whole thing? or is it just that your too busy?
You said you keep thinking of him ... I think you should call him. sounds like he is very in touch with his feelings and maybe your not. Some people get this "I know were meant to be" feeling and other people don't and its usually the people who have a hard time expressing and dealing with their feelings that dont get that feeling. There is nothing wrong if you dont have that feeling now. You know you like him, thats enough to start a relationship, You dont have to have everything figured out. I think you just may be scared & maybe he is even scaring you a little since he seems so sure of his feelings. When he says you dont give him enough attention he probably knows your holding back & he obviously knows your feelings arent as strong as his and that makes him more insecure. If you were to start dating him, I think he would be satisfied as long as you could give him attention and affection when you are with him, even if the time is limited, its the quality of the time you spend together thats important.
Really think about this and yes, call him and talk to him about all this. Try to open up to him. I think you may really like this guy & your scared.
good luck, honey!
2007-11-11 00:07:05 · answer #2 · answered by samira 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you he will wait but lets face it your in college and not high school. I would bet that your college experience would be much nicer with a man in your life. Just tell him that your studies are important so he needs to respect that while dating. It sounds like you might be on the verge of loosing someone very important to you.
Good Luck
2007-11-10 23:34:20 · answer #3 · answered by BILL 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋