ok so my family isnt really a family. my mom and dad are divorced. my sister moved out of the house becuase she married a spanish guy and my mom wasnt happy about it. my other sister fioghts with my mom and my mom has been very depressed lately. always cryin on the phone alot. it makes me depressed. and my brother is abrely here cuase he is at school (medical school) we have 2 move cause we cant pay for our house and got most of our cars taken away. i know very trajic now please help me!
2007-11-10 14:48:41 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You know, tragic or not tragic, they are still your family. Families come in all shapes and sizes, divorced, step families, adopted children, foster families. You really cannot define what a family is and you only get one family so take them how they come. It sounds like you really do care about your family, so take advantage of the time you have because not to depress you more or anything but they will only be around for so long.
Unfortentually as we grow up people move away and things that we don't want to happen do happen, but throwing a fit and isolating yourself won't help. The best you can do is be there for the ones you love and the ones who need you.
My only advice is to be there for your mother and make sure she knows you love her. Be happy for your sister, the last thing anybody wants is for their family to be mad at them because they found love outside of the family. And be their for your brother, my older sister isn't in medical school (yet) but I can already see how hard it is for her. So I know the biggest thing she needs (and your brother probably needs) is support. As for the moving, I know it probably stinks but there isn't much you can do.
I know I probably sound mean for saying this, and I don't mean to, but life could be so much worse. For example, you could have no family at all. Even if it may not seem like much of a family, it is. It probably doesn't feel like it because it is not the type of family you grew up with...but it is still a family.
2007-11-10 14:56:35 · answer #1 · answered by BreezeGirl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can see why you are concerned about how your family is going to be. I understand that seeing your mother depressed & crying is upsetting to you. I do not know how old you are, but keep being the person that you are, going to school, working, helping out as usual etc. Do something nice for yourself each day (whether it is a walk or polishing your toenails!) & leave a note of love & encouragement for your mother to find in her room or the kitchen. If you have a dear trusted friend or your friends mother see if you can spend a little time there. Although you love your mother she needs the space to think about what she needs to do & how to do it. She is probably very concerned for you too. I know how insecure it is to have to move & have no cars. Please remember that those things can be replaced & bought later. The precious gift of you being here & your life CAN NOT ever be replaced. Take good care of yourself. If things get too much for you call a trustworthy talk help line or if your friend has a pastor,or your school counselor could help. These people will help & encourage you & possibly your family. I will pray for the right person to be there to help you.
2007-11-10 16:37:31 · answer #2 · answered by Secret Agent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you pray dear one, but I do, and I will pray that Jesus will be with your family and reunite them in love. I can imagine how bleak everything looks to you right now, but please believe me when I say that Jesus cares about what has happened and is happening, and wants very much for you to trust Him in restoring your family. God bless you!!!
Virginia
Encouraging Prayer Warrior
2007-11-10 15:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by Virginia B (John 16:33) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going with Virginia. My life is so much better now that I pray and can let God in.
2007-11-10 17:01:58 · answer #4 · answered by darlene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋