Am I asking for too much from my boyfriend?

Question

My boyfriend and I see each other pretty much everyday. However, he works a lot and when I see him, it's usually around bed time. Since we dont really get to go out during the day because he's working, we try to make plans on the weekend. He tells me if we make plans to go out on a Friday night, the next day is for his guy friends and himself to hang out. But usually I want to hang out Saturday too since I only get to see him for a few hours Friday. I think that it's not fair for him to give me an option to only see him one day of the weekend at night and gives his guy friends the rest of the weekend. He thinks I'm being selfish. But what if I want to spend the whole weekend with him. I dont see why he just absolutely HAVE to hang out with the guy friends. He sees them just as much as he sees me during the week. It's not gonna kill him if he doesn't go out wit the boys! What do u think

Answer 1

I know exactly what your mean, but you need to understand that guys ALWAYS have this thing with their friends... like, they HAVE TO chill with their buddies, even if it means putting their girl aside. It's actually expected of him, if he's like most guys.

I know it hurts, but I doubt he'll change those ways. He needs his freedom, and to him, it's the time he gets to spend with his buddies. If you pester him about it, he'll feel confined by you, which is not healthy for your relationship. Just try getting used to it... don't think too much of why he chooses his friends over you/etc...

But that doesn't mean that he can get away with it, and you're left unsatisfied, craving that quality time (especially if you've been together for a while). Talk to him, or if not, every few weekends, make plans yourself and take him where you want - and make sure you guys have fun. Over time, he'll want to be with you, rather than with his friends.

But seriously, this won't happen over night. It will take time, so just be patient. And don't act too possessive, because he'll run.

Hope that works!

Answer 2

No. It's not gonna kill him. If he feels like he just has to spend time with his boys tell him to switch the nights, hang with is boys on Friday and with you the rest of the weekend.

Answer 3

Do you have any girlfriends you could hang out with. He just needs some guy time. Being with a girlfriend every free moment you have is too much. He needs to get out with his guys too. Otherwise it will be like he is ditching them to be with you. Then what if you guys break up. All of his friends will have forgotten about him, because he has only been hanging out with you. Why don't you tell him to hang with them on Friday and you can hang with him all day saturday. I am a girl and in your boyfriends position. I need some time to chill with my girls and my boyfriend is up my butt, needing to hang out with me ALL the time. If I say I am going out to a bar with my girlfriends, he wants to go to, and just sits there and stares at us. Back off , or you could lose him completely. because i am sure it is annoying him, b/c my boyfriend doing that annoys me.

Answer 4

you know what...you need to give him an option, ya know, since he thinks it's okay for him to do it to you. tell him that you just want one weekend to spen the whole weekend with him and if not then he can start walking, make him feel guilty and hunny your not being selfish, your being real. how are you suppose to have a relationship if the two of you don't spend enough quality time together...?

Answer 5

seriously no wonder everyone is having relationship problems --- your "best friends" and the "guys" take precedence ---- if you have found someone that wants to go out with you then everyone else should take the back seat --- at some point you want to spend your life with someone like this so they should be the most important part of your life --- so yes he is being unreasonable spending more time with the guys than with you --- i suppose its a sign of how important he classes the relationship im sorry to say ---- best wishes

Answer 6

It seems like your bf is a lil immature as far as his commitment to your relationship. But at the same time he may value his friends company just as much as yours, so he is trying to do his best to split his time evenly. Just be honest with him and ask him for a weekend with just you two. Plan something nice and present it to him...

Answer 7

I like this joke. But then the more I read it I hate it. Wouldn't the guy realize that the kid is the boy buying condoms? If he is with him for an hour, he would remember. Also, who would let someone just pray for 20 minutes? You know? But I realize it's a joke, so that's why I laugh still, but it just bugs me. But jokes are jokes.

Answer 8

Yeah. Accept him as he is, or move on.

Spending time with the guy friends is an import thing.

Answer 9

Does not sound like your boyfriend is ready for the time and effort needed to keep a relationship. So he does not deserve one.

Answer 10

why dont u ask him if u can hang out with him and his guy friends and go hang out with him while hes working or maybe just maybe hes lying about "hanging with his guy friends"