Is this ok to say?

Question

to members of the opposite gender? Baby/babe, honey, sweetheart etc? I have noticed some Muslims say this.

Answer 1

It is my opinion that it is too casual, if not flirtatious. We shouldn't talk to Muslims of the opposite gender in the same fashion as we talk to our same gender friends/acquaintances. Remember, you never know who is the one "who has a disease in his heart" and should be reserved so as to not cause any misplaced hope into the minds of others. That goes for girls as well as guys.

Answer 2

I think to call a muslim baby, babe, honey or sweetheart gives the wrong impression as if you like them in a sexual context, i think such working should not be spoken to muslims.

Answer 3

Well these words are not always used as terms of endearment. Example, "Get your facts right sweetheart!" To say this in Britain does not mean you are calling them your sweetheart or "Oh honey you have no idea what your talking about" Its hardly the same as using it in the context of "I love you sweetheart" Or " Honey could you pass me the salt"
Its all about the context in which you are using it in.
I would never use these terms when greeting or talking to someone who was not close to me IE my husband or child, mother etc as terms of affection.

Answer 4

Salaam Alaykum,
I have also seen it in the same sex and not in a homosexual
way. Yes it is ok if you know the person well enough. Arabs are extremely affectionate to family, friends, and loved ones.
Terms of endearment are used often in conversation. If it's a
man you never met before or a more reserved culture, then no it can be rude and insulting. So it depends on the who, why, and where.
Wasalaam

Answer 5

I call my husband names like this, and I may occassionally say then when talking to a child (usually Sweetie or Sweetheart), but NEVER to an adult male.

Answer 6

As salaamu 'alaikym, my friend.

Insha'Allah, it would depend upon the relationship and the circumstances.

For instance, I address my seven year old daughter as "sweetheart" and "darling", I have also called her "pumpkin butt", however, that is another story. I only address her in that manner when we are at home and no one else, such as one of her friends, is present so as to not embarrass her.

I would never address a teenager, adult nor older individual in such a manner unless said person was my wife (I am unmarried/divorced at the present time) and we were in private.

To address another person is such a manner in public might well be disrespectful and suggestive in regards to both the persons being so addressed and the person who is addressing the other.

Ma'a salaam.

Answer 7

I dont think thats right espically if ur saying it to an opposite gender!

Answer 8

only to your husband
other mahrams urgh i would never say that to my brothers etc urgh gross totally

nonmahrahms shouldnt be said at a ll no matter how close they are to you in terms of freinds i would have thought these are etiquittes of islam and sociability that every muslim knew
oh well life is a learnng curve

Answer 9

Isn't it kind of awkward to say that? I mean, even if they are just speaking casually, i think it is kinda weird to say.

but to answer your question, no i do not think it is right, because if you kind of tink about it, they are kind of using sexual language. I kno my parents call me, rani && pari, but like, rani means princess and pari means like really pretty (they just say it out of love) and i honestly think it's ok, b/c they're like my parents

but if like your cousin or a boy is saying it to you, i think thats completely wrong.

Answer 10

The only one I call these names is my husband ....

Sometimes when you allow someone to be free with you in words they will get the wrong meaning..I know many men use these words almost as a way of flirting, if the woman responds it is like a green light to the man...