okay my boyfriend asked me if i wanted to kiss him and i said idk but i do i dont no how to. im not prude but everyone thinks that im just scared a little cause i dont wanna do it wrong please help!
2007-11-10 14:20:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have copied the below from anothers answer;
this should answer all your kissing questions, and more.
Before the kiss, and immediately after the kiss, is just as much a part of the kiss as your guy’s lips. Here are the basics for a mellow, yummy kiss.
Before the Kiss
Look at him. Eye contact isn’t always easy. You’re nervous, you like him, maybe you’re even a little self-conscious about your lip gloss or your breath. Please, stop thinking for a few long seconds and just look at him, this adorable boy, right in front of you. When you look into a guy’s eyes, you’re giving him the green light that you are into it.
Turn toward him. Whether standing or sitting, you want to angle yourself so that your body is toward him, not just your face. Keep your hands out of your pockets and arms unfolded. Avoid fidgety behavior, like twirling a strand of hair or, way worse, biting your nails. Relaxed, open body language can be a very effective non-verbal invitation for him to lean in and smooch.
Lean into him. Even if it’s super-subtle, try to lean in a little and get as close to him as possible. When kissing you is on a guy’s mind, he’ll appreciate the friendly, geographical adjustment.
The Kiss
Kiss him back. A kiss shouldn’t start with an instant open mouth. First contact is simply touching mouths, then responding slightly. Think of it as a peck, but in super-slow motion.
Chart out the new territory. Kiss the top of his top lip, the edge of his bottom lip, lightly, softly—you’re in no rush.
What to do with your tongue. OK, here’s the part where less is more. He might jab his tongue into your mouth; he might keep it in his. Whatever he does, you can follow his lead (if you want to), but never, ever stick your tongue deeply into his mouth (refer to “Yucky Kisses,” next page). P.S.—Breathe! Through your nose or mouth. Both work.
Touch him with your hands. A girl can’t go wrong by placing one hand gently on the back of his neck, the other hand softly on the side of his face. Sure, there’s a lot to think about, but you can move your hands, too. Touch his hair, his ear, his shoulder…gently. If you’re really comfy with him, you can wrap your arms around his neck and pull yourself closer. Nice.
After the Kiss
The breakaway. If the guy has his tongue in your mouth (and you’re OK with that), you don’t want to just yank away from him. So keep meeting his lips with your lips, then pull away ever so slightly—enough to get his tongue back in its cage—and repeat the gentle kiss of just your lips touching, the slo-mo peck.
Look at him. The post-kiss gaze—sounds cheesy, but that’s what it is—is an affirmation that you did or didn’t like it. However silly it sounds, you can tell him with your eyes how you felt about the kiss…which could get you another one, if you’re into it!
Keep your hands on him. You’ve just bonded with him, so it’s perfectly lovely for you to keep your hand on his shoulder or softly touching his neck. Again, this could get him to lean in for round two.
TYPES OF KISSES
Yummy Kisses!
Want to know what kinds of kisses rule? Kissing class is now in session….
The Big Little. The value of a quick peck should never be underestimated. Whether on his lips or his cheek, a Big Little is a great way to show affection and tell a guy you’re interested!
The Butterfly Kiss. Want to send the ultimate “kiss me!” signal? Lean in and ever-so-slightly touch his cheek with your cheek. Then see if you can graze his cheek with your eyelashes. Don’t be too obvious—it’s just like you’re brushing up against him. Nice to do on the dance floor.
The Soft Serve. A soft, slo-mo peck is about as delicious as kisses come. A kiss doesn’t need to be two people playing tongue hockey for it to be wonderful.
The Triple Crown. This is a succession of Soft Serves. Instead of planting just one slo-mo peck on him, hit him with three in a row. What you’re doing is building steam…until you get to the Full Symphony (see below).
The Full Symphony. French kissing, when done right, is like an epic dance move. This is, as you’ve surely already gathered, where your tongues get involved. But only if you’re ready!
Yucky Kisses!
Here are the worst of the worst—and what to do if you get a kisser who falls into one of these categories.
The Dental Exam (a.k.a. The Oral-All-Over).
The Kiss: He’s exploring your gums, teeth and entire mouth like his tongue has a dental camera on the tip of it. Yuck!
The Diss: Slow Captain Periodontics down by kissing his upper lip, then moving to his lower. You want to show your hottie that kissing you is about tenderness, not toothiness.
The Grand Canyon (a.k.a. The DNA Sampler)
The Kiss: His mouth is so open it’s like a huge spit hole on his face. This kisser also likes to stick his tongue as deep into your mouth as possible, as if he wants you to say, “Aaahhh…”
The Diss: Simply pull back a little so his tongue can’t reach past, say, your second molar. You want him to kiss you, not check your tonsils.
The Flopping Fish (a.k.a. The Wrestler)
The Kiss: He’s got two moves with his tongue: 1) vigorously up, and 2) vigorously down. When he’s really warmed up, he might go side to side. This guy isn’t into kissing in a sweet, gentle way. He’s into kissing like he’s on the mat.
The Diss: Before you toss this one out of the ring or back to sea, see if you can reel him in. Your tongue is actually a muscle, so tongue-wrestle his into submission by pushing it up and, well, sorta “pinning” it. Then you can expertly take over the kiss.
The Hot Tamale (a.k.a. The Gas Mask)
The Kiss: This one isn’t so much about the kiss as what’s behind it. The kiss might be a winner if your dude didn’t taste like fermented burger burps.
The Diss: If you’re bold enough to offer him a mint, do it and carry on with the kissin’. If not, breathe solely out of your mouth. It’s not much help, but it’s better than his nasty exhale burning your nostrils. And next time, take a bite of his chili burger—it’ll soften the blow.
The Slime Puppy (a.k.a. The Lollipop)
The Kiss: This guy’s a licker. Too much spit. He’s treating your face like it’s a double scoop of Cherry Garcia.
The Diss: Maneuver so that when he goes in for a lick, the tip of his tongue meets the tip of yours. Keep at it until you find a rhythm, a style. Two tongues doing the tango can be tasty. One tongue lapping up your cheekbone is just plain icky.
THE BOY. THE PLACE. THE TIME.
Who Will You Kiss?
Of course, you don’t want to become a kissing bandit, so you should only smooch someone if you actually like him. But it helps to know if he’d be a ready participant (see “5 Ways to Tell He Wants to Kiss You,” next page). You could suggest a kissing game at the next boy-girl bash, then cheat by getting in cahoots with your BFF. Have her wrangle it so the guy you like ends up kissing you with a blindfold on.
Where Will You Kiss?
Kissing should be done when you and your guy are somewhere alone together—duh. It’s getting him alone with you that’s the hard part. A good trick is to put yourself in his path. Like when you’re at a dance or late-night sporting event, conveniently be thirsty right as he goes to get a drink. When you’re at a party, just happen to be waiting to use the bathroom just as he’s exiting—hallways are excellently snug! If you already have a willing kissing partner, here are a few spots to sneak a smooch:
1. In your living room. Mom’s busy baking up a batch of brownies in the kitchen, right?
2. Under the bleachers. This cliché earned it’s reputation for good reason!
3. At the park. Leaning against a tree, side by side on the swings, sitting on a picnic table with your feet on the benches… Can it get more romantic?
4. Next to the gym. Schools are big places and, after dismissal, relatively free of students and teachers. Hang out and, when the coast is clear, gently take his hand while giving him your best Katie Holmes no-teeth, come-hither grin. Then, give his hand a tiny pull. How irresistible is that?
Unless, of course… Some schools have no-PDA (no public displays of affection) rules. If your school does, save yourself the trouble (trip to the principal’s office, call to your parents, detention) and just kiss him anywhere but on campus.
When Will You Kiss?
Without argument, the darker the time of day, the better. The early evening is terrific—like when you’re at a soccer match or baseball game—because the glow of dusk is extra flattering. Nighttime is a winner because it’s more romantic. And something about less light lessens nerves, which helps him (and you) muster up the gumption to go for it.
2007-11-10 14:29:59 · answer #1 · answered by ramni222 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's okay-- no one knows how to kiss. a decent guy will understand this and kind of guide you along :) it's different for everyone, so if you're ready just kiss him and let it go naturally and it'll be great. even if it's awkward, it's something you can laugh about and be comfortable and move on from there to something wonderful. good luck!
2007-11-10 14:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will most likely turn into a friends with benefits thing. but beware, that kind of relationship can lead to heartbreak if you get attached to him and he doesnt, and especially if things turn sexual, he will be tempted to see other people, so watch out. while a relationship seems impossible because of where you two live, i would just view the vacation as a hookup. so yes, go for the kiss, but be careful not to fall in love.
2016-05-29 03:49:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You lean your head towards him and puts your lips on his lips and that is a kiss, now if you want to add something for your BF to remember, put your tongue in his mouth while you kiss him. It is called a french kiss.
2007-11-10 14:26:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kissing comes naturally. Don't worry too much. If you have a true boyfriend, and he isn't a shallow jerk, then he won't care how you kiss. Good Luck!
2007-11-10 14:23:41 · answer #5 · answered by anonymous 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
start with giving him kisses with no tongue. the only way to tell you is to practice really..if you suck at first, it's okay, you'll get better. watch some romance movies! lol. and never use too much tongue, you'll be alright.
2007-11-10 14:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
just lean in and kiss him. Trust me his lips will walk you through the rest. Does fallow what he does.
2007-11-10 14:24:06 · answer #7 · answered by Kathleen Heart 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
lean your heads in and let him do the magic...it's a guys job to start..yours to finish, follow what he does and ull b rite on track...good luck
2007-11-10 14:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by yeahh_buddy23231 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It come naturally.
U can't really teach that u do it over time.
Don't worry.
2007-11-10 15:10:38 · answer #9 · answered by wblady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hehe love, it takes practice!! thats the only way to "know" how. and just when you think you got it, boom, u learn somehtin more
2007-11-10 14:25:20 · answer #10 · answered by Siera S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-11-10 14:23:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋