how do i ask her out??!??

Question

i like this girl
shes really cute
she told me she used to like me but then someone said something about me and she stopped
i am friends with her friends
i asked her to dance at a school dance and we did for about 5 seconds but after i was told by her friend that it was because she felt bad for me
im in seventh grade and so is she
please dont tell me im too young to date since IM NOT!!
i want to ask her to be my girlfriend not out on a date just because thats how it works in our school
i have been told by her friends that if i ask her she will probobly say yes but this friend is not the most reliable
asking a girl to be your gf and not on a date is just how it works in my school
please help

Answer 1

When your talking in a group with her friends, go and give her a hug, then pull her off to the side and ask her out.

Answer 2

I remember being your age so I will not undermine your feelings by saying you are too young. By being in the 7th grade, you are going through a perfectly normal transition from having a girl as a buddy to actually having the possibility of sharing a kiss. That's a big deal at your age. But to validate your concerns, the girl did like you at one time and it's not uncommon for kids your age to believe everything they hear, even if it's not true. So, you can be brave and ask her yourself or let it go. Because if you depend on her friends, they can turn something sweet and innocent into a very difficult thing for a guy to overcome. Start by walking by her and telling her "you have the prettiest smile" and then walk away. As time goes on, keep saying things like that to her. She will come to know you and not care what her friends think. Offer to carry her books. Another option is, if you are close to your dad, talk with him. Maybe he can give you some clues as to how to deal with girls the old fashioned way. It never fails.

Answer 3

If she is resitant to the idea of being your girlfriend, you need to be charming. Sometime just say " Come on, what did they tell you that makes you not want to be my girlfriend?" She might tell you, so you can defend yourself. Or she might tell you no one said anything about you (true or she does not want to get into that) and you can ask her 'then why does she not want to be your girlfriend!"and she might say she would be your girlfriend if you asked - and you are there to ask her! Or she will be evasive, but you can try and get her to tell you what you would need to do or to be for her to consider being your girlfriend. Keep it light - be a good sport or she will not tell you anything. Joke a little with it - tell her you are devastated that she won't be your girlfriend and you simpy must know why. Since you are telling her she does not want to be your girlfriend, she can either give you a reason you cannot respond to or avoid answering - in which case she does not want to be your girlffriend, or she will agree to be your girlfriend. If she avoids answering, she is either not interested or she is interested in someone else - so i would leave that alone. If she thinks about it and changes her mind later, she at least knows you were interested.

Answer 4

Damn. I am glad I am an old fart.

Ok. First - Find one of her friends that you think is cute. Talk to her a lot but not about the other girl. Ask her all sorts of questions about her and actually listen.

Second- Ask the friend to be your gf.

Girls love guys who are jerks and the other girl will want to be your gf in a few weeks.

Girls are retarded at this age. Trust me, they are and they get more retarded in high school. They don't get normal until they are in thier 20's.

Answer 5

Hey! I'm in seventh grade too! Our school works like that too, you become gf and bf but you don't actually go out. Yeah, it's pretty weird. Just tell her how you feel before it's too late. Become good friends then ask her out. Don't worry, been there... done that. I'm in a bad situation myself with a guy.

Answer 6

Just go up to her and ask her if she will be your girlfriend I know it is scary but you better make your move before somebody else does and if she believes whatever was said about you before when asking her out say Well I really like you and I want you to be my girlfriend and you can find out for yourself what kind of guy I am Good Luck man

Answer 7

im in seventh grade too. and yes it works like that at my school too. just ask her. you'll never know if you dont try. and if things dont work out ask her if you can still be friends. although it will be sorta ackward tho. (thats what happened with me and my last bf. its still wierd to talk to him but its not like were enemies or something tho.)
so just give it a shot.

and to the people that said we are to young, thats bull. yea were young but that doesnt mean we cant find love. although very few of us do at this age but still.

good luck :D

Answer 8

okay, if you ever go to a dance or party with dancing, ask her to dance at a slow song. talk during the dance, and right as it ends, brace youself, and ask.

it will be VERY hard, i know for a fact. but if its romantic-ish, u have a better chance at a yes.


oh, good tip: the end of the dance is good because if she wants to think about it she wont see you hovering around waiting, she can go home alone and think.

Answer 9

Well, What you should say is the truth. Say you are dazzled by her and want to take this slow because she is worth it. You want to take her on a date because you don't want to just let her go and let a beautiful person slip away from your life. If that doesn't get her I would think twice about this girl.

Good luck!
Oh and remember to say this yourself don't tell her friend to say this because it's more special that way

Answer 10

look i know how u feel cuz im in 7th grade 2 and thats also how things work at my school. What you should do is pull her over by herself sometime in the day and ask her out while nobody else is around.