yes i use to dance and absolutely hated it but i lived on my own and the money was great . until finally 2 years ago i quit since i couldnt take the sick creepy men anymore and got a fantastic job while still finishing up school.
Well i recently met an amzing guy and am soo ashamed of what i did. Do i need to tell him what i did? Its funny cuz the subject came up.. like on tv was a girl dancer... and i was like.. ohh i should do that.... and he was like did you??? and he seemed really concerned as if he would never want me to do that and i was like.. nooooo im just kidding.... - so can I take this shameful secret with me to the grave or does he have the right to know???
2007-11-10 14:11:26 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO don't tell him......
2007-11-10 14:14:51 · answer #1 · answered by Confused 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It all depends on how much it bothers you and how you think he will take it, since you know him better than I do. If he's really the right guy for you, I would say he should be able to look past that and see that he has a sweet, beautiful, loving woman in his life who cares for him, and that he is damn lucky for that. But not every guy will be that understanding. You have no obligation to tell him anything though. Some events are better left in the past. But if it starts to get to you... there's not much else to do but tell him, explain why, and hope that he understands. It'll all work out for the best. Good Luck Hon.
2007-11-10 14:17:31 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley Y 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard question. There is a part of me that is wary of telling you to confess. However, if it come out from another source it could be catastrophic.
I would advise that you sit him down during a time when you will not be interrupted. Then, tell him you have something about your past to tell him, and you need him not to judge.
Good luck! Maybe if you give a big enough pregnant pause he will think you used to be a man, and you will be off the hook! lol
2007-11-10 14:21:01 · answer #3 · answered by amy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may be a wonderful guy BUT if he cant accept who you are then sooner or later its going to come apart ---- please dont be ashamed of what you did --- it was to survive and as soon as you could you left ---- and its helped make you the person he cares for today so he should have no problem accepting it ---- thats my view and im afraid he will be more concerned with appearences than the reality --- if you dont tell him it will somehow come out at some point of that i am sure ---- my best wishes to you and i hope truly hope that the guy does care enough to accept and embrace everything you have done
2007-11-10 14:20:49 · answer #4 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think you pretty much screwed urself over after denyin it the first time. trust me, a guy would rather have a girlfriend that used to work at a strip club than a liar. i would sit him down and calmly ell him the truth, and stress that u HATED it and would never do it again. and im sure he wont just flat out dump u. if u used to be an adult dancer, than uve gotta be extremely attractive.
2007-11-10 14:18:50 · answer #5 · answered by the LOVE DOCTOR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy, if I had asked my frielfriend before and she told me she had never done it, then one day comes back and says she had striped before, it would irritate me only for the reason that she lied. The fact that she striped 2 years ago for the money is perfectly fine with me, I understand how it is to need something so important such as money.
2007-11-10 14:17:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are some things that you shouldn't tell your partner b/c it would only hurt your relationship or hurt your partner's feelings. if you're comfortable enough in your relationship to bring out the old skeletons in the closet, then go for it. in this case, it seems like you should postpone telling him.
eventually, your boyfriend would find out and he'd feel hurt that you didn't tell him. however, he'll probably be caring enough that he'd forgive you if you explain your consternation in explaining the situation to him.
2007-11-10 14:21:20 · answer #7 · answered by eliz@beth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your call. I would tell him, just because I wouldn't want it to slip out at the wrong time. But it was your past and he has nothing to do with it. Tell him when you feel it's right for him to know
2007-11-10 14:18:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I really know nothing about this sort of situation, but if you want to be with the guy for the long-term, then you're going to have to tell them..
2007-11-10 14:15:35 · answer #9 · answered by Kristen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him... but not too early (maybe when things are starting to get really serious).
It's better that he feels you are comfortable enough to tell him, than him finding out from a friend who's seen your jugs
2007-11-10 14:19:31 · answer #10 · answered by godly.gambit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you at any time do anything that was out of the line?
IE Did you sleep around with your customers?
if not, then you have nothing to be worried about.
2007-11-10 14:22:32 · answer #11 · answered by jaramir99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋