I jump everytime my patient asks me for anything and I usually voluteer...and also I usually can anticipate what he needs before he asks....so why is he so crude to me and sometimes rolls his eyes at me....I am doing EVERYTHING I can do....
btw he is a quadraplegic from an accident and not from a birth defect.
2007-11-10 14:04:25 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
After I posted this question, I had to go to bed and get up early the next day to go to work with him....yes he is very depressed and going thru a divorce.... I wish I could do something to make him happy....but it's not the same as having your family there to love you...I know...
Anyway....ALMOST EVERONE gave me some really good answers...it's going to be hard to pick one! I just read thru them all and i have to think about it.
2007-11-11 13:28:05 · update #1
I'll tell you what, treat this person like a normal person at least conversationally. If you have to, be rude and pick on him a little bit, make him feel normal. He has no right to be a dick and you have no right in my opinion to be submissive to his will. Just don't go to far and get in trouble.
2007-11-10 14:09:42 · answer #1 · answered by Greene 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Eight yrs ago i had a patient who was a quad and he told me that at first he was very moody and angry all the time with all his other aides and nurses because he had to depend on someone else to do simple things for him and also because he was with a female before he got injured and she left him after he got injured, which devastated him. He eventually got over his rough exterior and became a sweet guy. Its not you some people can get over it and some never do. In your case, just be patient and if you have an open relationship where you can talk, let him know that it hurts you because you are doing all you can and all your best. its up to you.
2007-11-10 15:00:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is probably depressed being in a state where someone has to do everything for you that you had to do can make anyone a bit angry at the world especially a man because we are taught from birth that we are to be strong and that we have to get done what needs to be done. And when we are put in the situation where someone has to tend to our needs it is hard for us to handle. He is thinking the worst about himself right now and is directing all of his aggression toward you because you are the nearest target
2007-11-10 14:11:45 · answer #3 · answered by fireheart_1986 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a person is nuhappy inside, it is very difficult for them to be happy outside.
It sounds like you have choosen to help people in need. Remember, not all of their trama is physical. When ones life is turned upside down, it is very tough to be a positive and respectful person to those that still have what you have lost.
Just sile and know you are doing a good thing for him and hope that maybe one day he will heal enough to realize it.
2007-11-10 16:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by Hubby . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you for your good works. Human nature is a strange land with strange inhabitants. Who knows what is going through this guy's mind. He had an accident and now is dependent on this "kid" to do for him. It isn't personal anyone that has to do for this guy........... He aint mad at you and until he comes to terms with his self and his predicament any one that "services" him will have a tough time.
Hang in there and be proud of the good work that you have chosen to do.
2007-11-10 14:15:50 · answer #5 · answered by tagway 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is appreciative but he is probably hurting because of the accident he is in. Think about it, put yourself in his shoes you weren't born that way and somehow you ended up that way and can never walk, bath yourself, feed yourself, walk on the beach. Sometimes you cant expect something in return when you are trying to do a good deed.
2007-11-10 14:10:03 · answer #6 · answered by Fel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just like that. You can do everything to make them happy and they'll still hate you.
Also, if he's quadriplegic from an accident then he's probably still in the "it's everyone else's fault" stage.
Don't take it personally :)
2007-11-10 14:09:58 · answer #7 · answered by Montana A 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that's the only way he/she can assert themselves. You might also remind your patient that because their an invalid doesn't give them a right to abuse people. What you might do is quit if you can and go work for someone who is more appreciative of your care and efforts.
Thanks
2007-11-10 14:11:51 · answer #8 · answered by telwidit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just something in life, when you get too nice t people they start to hate you and start taking advantage of you... I don't know you I mean you'd expect the opposite but I guess that's life...
2007-11-10 14:08:23 · answer #9 · answered by The Beast from the Middle East 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try treating him like hes normal you being over considerate may remind him that hes not could be where the hostility is comming from either that or your the only person he feels he can show his anger in front of
2007-11-10 14:16:31 · answer #10 · answered by becvns@yahoo.com 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋