It seems like every guy I date wants to go out and get wasted. When does this stop? I keep thinking the next guy is going to be different. Is it just the way guys are in San Diego or what? It's not like I'm out dating the freshly 21 year old anymore. What's going on?
2007-11-10 13:51:53 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When they finally realize that its no fun without loving and trust. I'm in Alabama and though I'm not dating (I'm an old man) my daughter is, and she has had the same problem.
What's going on is that the paradigm of marriage and stable relationships came out of and was sustained by a culture that we no longer have. Its a long lecture to lay out the supporting evidence, so I won't bother us with it. It is still possible to have a good marriage, but I'm afraid it is increasingly becoming the exception rather than the rule. You have to create a new paradigm, and I wouldn't expect it to be easy.
Good luck.
2007-11-10 14:05:17 · answer #1 · answered by wordweevil 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, well there are a few of us out there that do not want to go out and get wasted, guess the are just rarer these days. I would have said similar things about girls. I certainly do not want to go out and get wasted all the time, only went through that phase (if ever) for a few months. Then I decided it really was wasting time and had better things to do. I would also happily find a girl that did not want to go out and get wasted all the time too, as that kind of thing is not compatible with me. So I think it just depends on the person, personality wise etc...
2007-11-10 14:02:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny, i was wondering the same thing, and my dad was telling me it didn't used to be this way. My man and I have been dating 7+ years, and while he doesn't go out and get trashed all the time, he doesn't seem to want to get a "real" job even though he's graduated from college, and he doesn't show any sign of wanting to get hitched. Something's wrong with the lot of them. It was something in the water back in the 70s.
2007-11-10 13:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They usually settle down when they are through school. Some want their future of higher education and to get a good job. ,so they can settle down.Other just want a job so they will have a money.To me it depends on the guy. Guys today are hard to figure out. Take care.
2007-11-10 14:10:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
40
2007-11-10 13:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by qpistol 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i gave up drinking in college around 20, bought a house, worked three jobs, graduated and then made a good career for myself. i tried to settle down several times over the last 20 years, but every time i did, the gal of the moment usually let on she was evil, twisted or somehow mentally defective. so each time i ran back to livin' large, and slappin' a**.
here it is, years later and still they show themselves to be loons. i would love to settle down, but i am not going to settle for anything less than a heart of gold.
2007-11-10 14:00:09 · answer #6 · answered by ab dominance 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometime after we retire .
Mid to late 60's I'd say.
Maybe later if we live longer.
I got sober when I was 30 but I still don't want to "settle down" but I'm only 59 right now... who knows.
2007-11-10 13:56:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they ever want to settle down. I've been with the same guy 5 yrs and he still wants to drink and party.
2007-11-10 13:55:20 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Around 30 - 35 if they ever do settle down.
2007-11-10 13:53:59 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for forty years and I can tell you that it takes men until they are in their thirties. This generation here is maturing slower and only thinks of themselves alot.
Be patient and keep your eyes open for the good ones, they are out there
2007-11-10 13:57:14 · answer #10 · answered by orangeglowone 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋