I've done Ju Jitsu for 10 years girlfriend want me to stop becos it too dangerous what do u all think?

Question

its not the training but the fighting side she doesn't like I.E comps and so on.

Answer 1

dont give up your favorite sport to make her happy.

Answer 2

Thank the Lord my wife accepted martial arts and me competing and fighting when we first started dating. She often times would travel with me and my students and help look out for them and take pressure off of me. While Ju-jitsu is a little more violent and lets face it, some people abhor violence of any kind for any reason, you have been doing this for ten years. You also may need to ask yourself what else is she going to want you to quit or stop doing in the future. People sometimes go into relationships with the idea of changing the other person or something that they don't like about that person. If she knew that you did this when you started dating then while she is entitled to her opinion I hardly think that it is fair to expect you quit something after doing it for ten years. At the same time I think you have to ask yourself is this the one that you want to marry and spend your life with and if that answer is no then I would consider it as nothing more than one of the two things I stated above along with concern for your health.

Relationships like this tend not to last very long and if you want to continue you know the risks and fighting and competing is something that you can't do when you get older and retire. I would continue to do Ju-jitsu if that is what makes you happy and I think in six months she will be out of your life and someone else will have replaced her. At the same time you might also tell her that you are getting a little older and you will not be competing forever and when the right time comes you will quit but it will be you that will determine that-not an uneducated, non-practicing individual that does not have any idea what it is all about except for what they see and know from the stands or their personal involvement with you.

Answer 3

Say NO! She has no right to ask this of you. She seems like a very controlling person. I have done some Ju Jitsu and while I know it is one of the most painful arts to learn, all those holds!! I wouldnt call it dangerous. Dont give this up for her, how long have you been with her? This is 10 years of your life. If she doesnt support and encourage your interests then this is not the sort of person you want to be with, whether its Ju Jitsu or anything else.

Answer 4

As long as she is happy with you doing Ju Jitsu and just worryed about the fighting part it should be fine. Just keep doing what you want to, we all get old eventually and need to stop fighting, but you know your body better than anyone, if you feel healthy keep going, if your getting too many injurys and they are taking long long times to heal then maby its time to retire from fighting

Every fighters girlfriend or wife get scared about their partners, thats just how women are, if you lsiten to what women told you all the time all you would be doing is working 9 to 5 and staying home all the time

Oh yeah, but if she wants you to stpo doing JJ all together everyone i herd from recomends to get a new girlfriend because if she is like this now, its going to be 10 times as bad if you ever get married and I know people who got married but had to get a divorce because their wife was not supportive of them, they ocource later found another wife who was very supportive with their martial arts and lived happyly married after that

Answer 5

* Voice of Experience *
She can ask for anything,the choice to quit is yours.

Do some passionate "wrestling" with "her", using your best skills.Ten years in Ju Jitsu ....you're in great shape,time to put all the hard training to good use.
When you are finished with the wrestling kiss her and tell her that you have to do what you have to do......you're a Martial Artist,.........and when it comes to Martial Arts you call the shots.Get her to agree that when it comes to this ...you're the boss.
This will work for a while,(girls don't always stick to an agreement),if it comes up again,hold her close,kiss her on the neck,and tell her to remember the agreement.
With a little luck she will say that you are wonderful and but she worries --blah,blah,blah.
Use hugs,kisses,and good "wrestling" skills to your best advantage and get her to see your point of view.
If this does not work.......Find a new girlfriend that likes
Martial Arts "and" "Wrestling".

Answer 6

Well if she does'nt like the comps side of it you must be getting a hiding every time or you are beating the other guy up! I don't think she likes the discipline! At the end of the day you rarely see hospitilisation in these martial arts.

Answer 7

don't give up, maybe just cut down on training sessions, also, if its just the tournaments and so forth, stop going to the comps or just go to one a year, also discuss the dangers of jiu jitsu with her and talk about what she is worried about, remember its all about the woman

Answer 8

Tell her how no one has ever died in the sport of mixed martial arts, yet many have died in boxing.

Let her know that unlike other martial art forms, Jiu Jitsu is one that can be applied to the street if ever needed. Jiu Jitsu guys are the ones that beat everyone, whether they be against boxers, kung fu fighters, or wrestlers. In a way, it's kind of a combination of all styles.

Good luck.

Answer 9

She does have a point, that means she cares about you and worry that you would hurt yourself. HOWEVER... if it is your passion, then I'd say keep doing it, and try to make her understand that it is what you enjoy doing.

Yeap.... I've been beaten pretty badly in tournaments, dislocated one too many joints during gradings, practices, etc but I'm did it because I liked to push myself harder.

Just tell her that you will be carefull but no one is perfect, so there would be time when someone could get injured... at least she knows that you take her request into consideration.

Answer 10

How long have you been with her? remember that guy on TUF that left the house for a girl?

But seriously, I say, sign her up for classes! I teach at a school will a women's MMA class. Some women are a little leary at first, but in my experience, once they get in there and start hitting pads, they love it. They even become fans.

Answer 11

dump her! lol But seriously, it sounds like Jiu-Jitsu is a big part of your life, giving it up would be giving up a part of you that made you who you are. I do MMA myself, and I wouldn't let a girl come in the way of my love for the sport. Stay true to yourself.