2007-11-10 08:51:42 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
No. It always stays in the back of your mind and when you least expect it, something happens and brings it all back. As one of the previous answerer's said, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is always a possible, of which I suffer now and am under chronic medication. I pray to God that you don't have to relive it over and over, but can find it in you to deal with it and eventually only think back at it as an experience.
2007-11-12 21:40:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will probably never forget it. I have not. However, you can learn to deal with the effects. And I have learned that the fear is not always a bad thing, either. It can help you to avoid any similar circumstances or people in the future. Always listen to your gut, that little voice inside...
Most importantly: You need to remember/know that rape is never your fault! It is not even usually about sex so much as it is about control, violence, and narcissism on the part of the perpetrator. So do not waste any of your emotional energy, time, or self esteem on guilt.
I attend a support group based on the book 'Trauma Recovery & Empowerment - A Clinician's Guide to Working with Women' by Maxine Harris (an employee of Community Connections in DC) and it's accompanying workbook 'Healing the Trauma of Abuse - A Woman's Workbook' by Copeland & Harris. I can honestly say that this group and these books have helped me far more than any therapy prior to this (since 1983!!!) I have been in the group over two years and still get something, and comfort, from every single session! Recovery is a long process that requires introspection and research but it is always more than worth the effort, and far preferable than staying stuck in fear and emotional hell...
You can possibly get the books from amazon.com, or definitely from the Community Connections group in DC.
Their website is: www.CommunityConnectionsDC.org or www.ccdcl.org. Look for their publications page for an order form.
Also, find some kind of therapy; it will give you a practiced shoulder to cry on instead of some of the hurtful, yet well meaning comments of partners, family, friends, etc. I have found female social workers/licensed mental health counselors to be far more helpful, down to earth, and cost effective than any male or female psychiatrist or psychologist I've ever been to...but that's is just my experience and opinion. Try whatever is available to you.
I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Best wishes on your future journeys through this rough and tumble ride we call life!
2007-11-10 09:42:41 · answer #2 · answered by teri 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There isn't a way to forget about a rape, becaues it is something so life changing and traumatic your brain will probably always remember.
but if you, or the person you're reffering to, is having trouble with that, it would be best to talk to you parents, a doctor, or seek counseling.
2007-11-10 08:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by Vallerie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you will forget, but I think you can cut down the pain of remembering, but you need to talk to someone about it. You are having Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and need help to keep this event in its place. Good luck.
2007-11-10 09:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by Simmi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its on my mind anywhere I go. I dont think its possible. but I'm waiting to go to some peaceful place with my step parents.
2007-11-13 11:24:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
truthfully..you will always remember.
but counseling can help you work thru the pain
2007-11-10 08:54:33 · answer #6 · answered by S i r i 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you can trust me when i sadly say no there isnt:(
2007-11-10 08:57:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋