It has nothing to do with liking another guy, feeling unloved from my boyfriend, or anything like that. I just have this urge to do it to see if I can get away with it. He's never hurt me or cheated nme. No problem with sex life ect. nothing like that.
I just want to.
I know it's wrong. I know I shouldn't do it. There's no reason for it. So how do i get this feeling to go away?
It's been in my mind for awhile.
I seriously want this thought to go away. Help?
2007-11-10 08:26:36 · 59 answers · asked by B 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You all are slow.
The question at the bottom of all of this was HOW TO GET THE THOUGHT OUT OF MY HEAD.
I didn't do it. THE QUESTION was how do i get it out of my head.
You guys are going psycho seriously.
2007-11-10 08:47:33 · update #1
It seems that almost all of you are hung up on the prospect that i'm going to or I already have. I'm not going to and I haven't.
It's kind of insane how people jump down my throat claiming i'm a horrible person .......kind of amusing as well.
2007-11-10 08:54:07 · update #2
I can see how you find a thrill in it. It's like wanting to skydive to show yourself you can survive the fall. Of course you can do it, but you've got to factor in the consequences. I imagine (and this is total speculation on my part) that your life is relatively risk-free but you want some risk...risk without severe consequences (you can't got to jail for having an affair).
One thing's for sure, if you truly care about him, you'll live with regret and remorse. If you don't, you'll get over it and move on to other people. If he finds out, he'll live with bitterness and distrust toward you.
I don't think the desire to do it is unnatural, but that act says something about a person's character and how they value the feelings of others.
I would suggest you find another risk to fulfill this missing aspect of your life. Try trading stocks. ;)
2007-11-11 07:55:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
For many even though everything in a relationship is 'perfect' they still wonder if there is something better, this is the old 'want to see if the grass is greener on the other side' problem. It seems that you are bored, and even though things are fine you want a change, some more spice in life, if this is the case, why not try changing things up a bit with some fantasy play? Talk with your boyfriend, tell him you would like to 'play out a fantasy ' like he goes out to a bar, and you come in later, dressed sexy, and he goes up to you and tries to pick you up, then you go back to a hotel ? Or something to that effect, to put some spice into your relationship and feel like you are 'cheating' with a stranger...
2007-11-10 08:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happens if you don't "get a way with it"
is it worth the relationship you have now?
Remember the grass isn't always greener on the other side...
Consider all the time, effort and energy you have invested in the relationship you are now in. Do you think you will be able to "start over"
If you do and you do get caught and for some offbeat chance you are forgiven things will never(never) be the same between you 2. Is it really worth it?
If so than I guess this is not really a relationship you should be in
2007-11-10 08:33:50 · answer #3 · answered by C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have the urge to cheat then there is something wrong with the relationship.If what you say is true then cheating on him would not be a one time thing.Once a cheater then always a cheater.Read the bible and find out what the good book said and then make a choice.Talk to your partner and let him know how you feel.Wish you the best.
2007-11-10 08:34:45 · answer #4 · answered by nighttime_ran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should take a break and try dating other people. It may halp you realize how much you want to be with your b/f or you may realize how you'd rather date around, but decieving another person in that way is not the way to get the 'feeling' to go away. You may just have to ignore it, cause anything other action will most likely ruin your current relationship.
2007-11-10 08:31:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait! Wait! Let that feeliing go!
It will go away.
There is nothing wrong with things the way they are. Maybe you need more excitement in your life. Get in other avenues. Take up skydiving.....just kidding. Expend your energy other ways. Sex isn't the be all and end all of your life. But it can turn out to be an important downfall.
2007-11-10 08:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by peppermint_paddy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not the reason you want to cheat. You want the imediate high or gratification. You also do not seem to give a care about the person you are with. "cheating" is dishonest and if that's the road you wish to embark upon, pay attention to where it leads you...especially note where you are ten years from now and see if there is any connection.
2007-11-10 08:32:56 · answer #7 · answered by justagorilla 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want those thoughts to go away, then you have to figure out why you have that desire. There is obviously something wrong with your relationship if you are willing to gamble with it like this....I think you need to do some soul searching. Just because he is nice and has never hurt you doesn't make it a good match. If it was really so good, then you wouldn't have this desire.
2007-11-10 08:30:55 · answer #8 · answered by smellyfoot ™ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would you do that!?! You could seriously damage a perfectly good relationship. Would you like it if he did the same thing to you? I would say that the best thing to do to make that feeling go away is it talk to your partner about your problem. It could some underlying thought that you need to see other people.
2007-11-10 08:32:50 · answer #9 · answered by faithfulmg4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think cheting is cool at all I think you need to ask yourself how would u feel if ur man had the same urge wouldnt feel so good would it thats just being selfish spend sometime with your man do something different maybe that will change that selfish thought.
2007-11-10 08:31:01 · answer #10 · answered by dejannea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋