how can i get the guts to ask a girl out??

Question

ive never had a gf and i dont know how to

Answer 1

Just ask her, the worst that can happen is that she says no

Answer 2

I know. I have been there. NOT EASY... what if she says no !?

Let's go by parts:
(1) she is as dying to be asked out as you are to ask her out.
However, she may or may not want to go out with you. The only way to find out is to ask. Don't just ask her. Let her know you a little before and most important BE NICE, BE POLITE and always BE RESPECTFUL. Just because a girl is still young does not mean she is an idiot. Then be interesting... be yourself. Don't try to be something you're not.
Then after awhile ask her. Believe me, you will know after awhile whether you stand a chance or not.
If she says YES. brillliant. If she says now. well.... it's her loss. Another girl will find you brilliant. --- I am not the most successful guy in the world with girls and probably was turned down as often as I was told YES by girls.... but I was successful with the girls I REALLLY thought were great.

(2) There are various reasons why a girl may turn you down.
First remember that if she turns you down it could be that she has had an eye on another guy. So accept defeat. NOTHING TO BE EMBARASSED ABOUT. It may be that she does not feel attracted to you and that HAS TO BE RESPECTED.

In fewer words :-) go talk to her. let her know you for a couple ofhours and then just ask. REMEMBER NICE GIRLS WILL HATE TO HURT YOU. Fortunately there are millions of nice and beautiful girls around. GOOD LUCK
Finally, look what 'Laurie' said above. It seems that my advice is not that far wrong.

Answer 3

It's really hard, especially when you really like somebody. I had the same problem at college & liked this guy for over a year. We went to a friends party one night & I kind of let it slipped how much I liked him. He was amazed to my astonishment & we went on to have a great relationship.

All being said, that's not the answer. Say you and a friend are going out & would she & a friend like to come along for a laugh (pictures, pizza hut, indian - nowhere too flash but somewhere you can have some fun). When she realizes how much fun she's having then make a point of telling her.

Thats my story from 8 years ago. I'm now married very happily with 3 children! Good luck

Answer 4

I was like you before. I was so so shy but with experience it has got better. I tried and I don't regret. I have to admit that I have had some shameful experiences, where when I think about it now, I will laugh at myself because I'm no longer the same.

In fact, you may not have the guts now it will get better with time. Everything gets better with time. Be brave, go for it and if anything turns out bad, don't be discouraged. You have to try. YOU HAVE TO.

Be aware:
Somewhere, there is that lonely girl who is waiting for a guy exactly like you to knock at her door. If don't ever knock, you will never discover that luck.

Answer 5

It does take guts. Swallow your pride and just ask! It's the only way. A "no" means that your free to try again. Don't feel insulted if she says no. Just put it down to experience. Asking a girl out is one of the biggest compliments you can offer her. She may act strange on the surface but, she'll be privately flattered. In a way, you've just told her that you think she's beautiful. What girl doesn't want to hear that?

Answer 6

First you have to imagine that she is not a monster and she will not eat you if you ask her.
Then you approach her and start a discussion. Preferably with a joke or something to get her attention (not what's the time?).
Maybe you haven't had a girlfriend before but she does not know that.
And don't worry about a refuse. You will find other girls that will not say no.
I suggest the book Double your dating by David De Angelo.

Answer 7

lol i remember those days. Since this will be your first time asking a girl out you should try writing her a letter or something. That's how I got my first gf. Once your in a relationship for the first time it gets a little easier unless your like 18-21 thats when its kinda hard

Answer 8

First of all, you need to get to know the girl a bit. Don't approach her as a total stranger. You can start by smiling and possibly saying 'hey' once in awhile when you pass by. If she's in one of your classes, for example, ask her if she'd help you out on a question because you don't understand. Try and find out what she likes in order to make small talk. For example, if you notice she's always shooting hoops, ask her if she's planning on trying out for the basketball team this year. Compliments don't hurt either - saying something like 'You look nice today' is enough to show her that you care.

Once you get to know her and she gets to know you a little you can try asking her out. Just muster up your courage and approach her one day (preferably while she is alone). Don't ask her out by email, text messaging or over the phone - it shows her that you don't want to make an effort and is cheesy. Specify a time and date. For example, ask "I heard of a great new movie playing on Friday night, and I was wondering if maybe you would like to come see it with me." Just look her in the eyes and ask her that as though she was a friend of yours. Pretend you're talking to your guy friends (although you might want to be a little more classy!!). The worst that can happen is that she might be busy, or she might not wish to go with you. If that is the case, just remember that there are several more girls out there who would probably love to go out with you. Plus, you don't want her to go out with a guy she really just doesn't have feelings for, right?

Best of luck to you! *hugs*
XOXO,
Laurie

Answer 9

Best thing to do friend, is to just befriend the girl first, get to know her, get to know what makes the girl your after tick, and then, if you've become good enough friends, you wont even need to get the guts up, as you will probably have slipped into relationship anyways...

but often, you need to stick with this friendship idea first, and then just fate take the reins and see where it goes

Answer 10

If you like a girl but are nervous about asking here out theres only two options. Dont bother doing anything and be single. Or ask her out... even if your nervous, try and get her on her own? She won't mind if you seem nervous doing it, trust me, it shows her that you like her enough to make the effort.
Good luck x

Answer 11

Have a plan first, ask her to do something with you first.
Don't say "do you wanna go out sometime?"

I don't know your age but if you are young, some suggestions would be movies, parks, zoo's, anything that you can turn into a fun experience. Maybe even something she hasn't thought of before.