I work at an after-school program and am not sure what to do with the kids that are disrespectful, loud, or just behaving badly. We've done time-outs and talked to parents, but I am not seeing anything constructive come out of this. Some of the kids don't know how to act when you first tell them that there is a consequence for what they are doing - they start acting worse and just make the whole situation a lot bigger than it started as. I want a punishment that shows them how they can get out of the situation without having to feel embarrassed for acting so ridiculously.
2007-11-10 08:07:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
This is a tough one for kids. Consequences that is. Because some just don't "get it" - sounds like the group you have. A few suggestions: Have a law enforcement officer come in and talk about consequences first. (Just so they get the idea) A bit harsh...but they'll get the jest of the consequences idea. Then you must and I stress MUST write the consequences down on paper and have the students SIGN and the parents SIGN it. Sort of like an agreement. Start giving small rewards to those that do act respectful. ALSO: catch one of the "bad" ones doing something GOOD and reward them for it. It's so much easier to find them doing something GOOD instead of focusing on negative behavior. However it does come into play.
Punishments:
No snack time
No game time
TIme outs till parents get there and they get to tell the parents why they are in time out.
I must say that if you've talked with the parents and they don't care then it makes your job TEN times harder. KEEP on the parents of these children. I would imagine that you have a "group" that constantly nudges the other...seperate them totally from each other.
I don't envy you with your job...I simply couldn't do it. Thank God for people like you that do.
2007-11-10 09:40:41 · answer #1 · answered by OMGiamgoingNUTS 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the children are not yours, there is the whole politically correct way to handle things. Many teachers now a days resort to positive motivation. They hand out behavior bucks, charactar coupons, etc... My daughters Kindergarden class has a cup with popsicle sticks in it. Some have smiley faces, and the others have sad faces. Each time the child does something really helpful, or respectful, they choose a smiley. when doing something bad, they choose the sad face. At the end of the day, the child with the most happy faces, gets to choose a present from the treasure chest. ($ store stuff) The kids are so focused on getting the present, that they all try to be most helpful!! Behavior bucks is giving pretend money for good behavior only. At the end of the week, a "store" is set up and kids can spend or save their behavior bucks. You price the "good" stuff high and the cheezy stuff low. You'd be surprised but these types of methods work. It is pathetic, but they do. I liked it better when parents actually cared how their children behaved in public, and children were scared to death to take a note home from the teacher. Oh well, the times have changed, and there are more misbehaved children than ever before! Lets just blame it on ADHD and And Autism! My Grandparents always said that there were no such thing as bad kids - just bad parents. I'm beginning to whole heartedly believe in their wisdom! Good luck!!
2007-11-10 08:50:16 · answer #2 · answered by lulu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1-2-3 Magic. Preferrable for teachers, but the one for parents will work too. http://www.parentmagic.com/classroomsolutions-view.cfm you can get them at the library.
Make a consequence that really hits them where it counts. In this case, taking a privilege away is less embarrassing but just as painful.
At the first act of disrespect/misbehavior you say "That's 1" (and state if you don't stop then at 3 I will.... if it isn't already clear what will happen.). At the second time say "That's 2" and at the 3rd time, just quietly and without discussion follow-through on your consequence.
That's it. Good Luck!!
2007-11-10 11:02:26 · answer #3 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it is within your question that lies the answer.
You are working at an after-school program.....
The children are being taught, not by their parents, but by you and their school teachers. Of course if it wasn't for parents like them, there would not be a need for positions like yours.
Consistency is the key, and to this degree it is their teachers you need to contact for help in this matter..... They will be glad you did. Whatever is being used in the classroom must carry over to the after school program.
Currently they behave one way at school, another way at after school, and then another way at home. Usually the kids behave much better at school then they do at home, and currently your situation is that they are not at school adhering to those rules, and they are not at home having to obey parents, so they are in a free-for-all situation where everything goes.
If the parents knew how to deal with it..... you wouldn't be having this problem.
The teachers are trying to deal with it..... and any help you give them will be appreciated.
Seek your counsel from the teachers.
2007-11-10 08:23:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell the parents that if their kids cannot behave while in the program that they have to find someone else to keep an eye on them! They are allowed to get away with this behavior at home so they continue it in public.
2007-11-10 08:12:14 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You obviously have your hands full. I don't think you will find an answer to this question. You need to balance the communication, which if the children don't have it at home, will be next to impossible for you to handle them in an after school program.
I don't believe in punishment, I believe in communication.
Good luck, you sound like a caring person.
2007-11-10 09:54:15 · answer #6 · answered by carol 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 01:07:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot could be diverted by the activities you are offering. Remember that these children have just spent several hours sitting at a desk. To expect them to sit and do quiet activities might be a little difficult.
2007-11-10 13:16:38 · answer #8 · answered by tim O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they can clean up everything, you can limit the fun things they do,or you could make them study by watchng them and every time they tried to talk, that can take out fun things they do
2007-11-10 08:17:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
watch super nanny
she always manages to make them behave
xx
2007-11-10 08:15:40 · answer #10 · answered by Jenni C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋