i got a love note from a really fat/ugly girl?

Question

what do i do? i dont know how to turn her down. thats it im flying to the moon and never coming back. but yea she is hideous. help!

Answer 1

Was it addressed to 'the rude, shallow guy?'.

Answer 2

Whatever you do, just be nice whether you turn her down or accept her, do it with honor and grace. She will be more hurt if you lie to her or tell her some outrageous story that she knows different. Remember she might be ugly but don't treat her as if she is stupid too. Put yourself in her shoes for a moment, and just for that time deal with the adversity that she does and how you would feel or want to be answered if you were she. She will think more of you if you are kind in your delivery even if the answer is no, than if you insult her also.

Be honest but polite. Example: (bad) "I am flying to the moon and I am not coming back." She knows you are not flying to the moon and your answer would insult her intelligence and make her feel even more badly.

Example: (better) "I am flattered that you asked but I really do not want to (whatever the note asked). Thank you for considering me for (whatever it was), it was very nice.

and just leave it at that. You have acknowledged her, given her an honest answer, and made her feel good for asking even though the answer was not what she wanted. Doing it this way she might be disappointed, but you have not insulted her intelligence, taken away from her self esteem, or made her more self concious about the way she looks. Being kind is more than just making up something that cannot possibly be to get out of a place that is uncomfortable. She might be disappointed but don't make her sad by making her self concious. You can say no without making her feel bad and that is what you want to do as you sound like a sensitive person. Just tell the truth in a nice way. Excuses are seen through very easily. Honesty does not have to be brutal if it is delivered in a nice way.

Answer 3

Your description of her is really not nice, but that's beside the point. I suggest you do this in person. Get her by herself and first verify that she actually wrote the letter and its not a prank from your friends. Then tell her you are sincerely flattered of her affections but you have to decline. If you are involved with someone else, let that be the reason. Or simply that you just don't share the same attraction. Of course she will be hurt, but she will appreciate that you took the time to talk t her in person and was forthright, honest and not mean to her. It will also help you in your development. It is always a good practice to be kind to others. You never know...they may turn out to be of tremendous value in the future.

Answer 4

First of all, that's plain weird, usually its supposed to be the guy giving the note, but whatever,anyway, you've got a couple of options:
1.Tell her you just want to be friends(if that's the case)
2.If you have a girlfriend tell the fat girl that your not single
3.If you don't have a girlfriend, get one.
4.If you don't want to find a girlfriend, then just say you have one in a nearby town(tell her the town), and show her a picture of any girl that's NOT in your town(cousin,or on line image)
5.If the girl who likes you wants proof,give it, (show a picture, put your "girlfriend"(cousin/sister) on the phone, or let her meet the "girlfriend"
6.Tell her you don't want a relationship with anyone at the time.
7. Tell her you don't think you two would be good together.
8. Ask her for her int rests, then say your interests are exactly the opposite as hers(fake).
9.Just tell her straight up, No!
10. Ignore her until she gets the point.
**Try not to be mean to her, theres not point in making her more upset then she should be, unless she did something to you.
Hope this helps!

Answer 5

be nice, now. just simply tell her ur not interested. u don't have 2 come up with any crazy stories, just b simple and 2 the point and that should b good enough. u may not even realize this this "hideous" chic is probably one of the most good-hearted and caring people that you'll ever come across. perhaps if we able to get past her physical appearance, u'd find that there is more 2 her than meets they eye.

Answer 6

Don't be a pig! It should be about the personality that matters! Todays culture revolves around a slim body and good looks! Hey.. I'm not saying that I don't have either of those, but people are people! Do you think she can help being ugly? And her weight might be genetic. Don't be a fool! That's really piggish. But if you aren't listening to me.. then just tell her you're not interested. Typical males..

Answer 7

Even if you find her unattractive, there's no need to hurt her feelings by telling her you think she's ugly...but at the same time you have no obligation to even consider going out with someone you aren't attracted to. You could tell her that you're flattered, but you just don't think of her that way. Or just tell her you're not interested. If you have a crush on someone you could also tell her that you like someone else. Personally I think telling her in person would be best, but if you don't feel up to it a polite note will also do nicely. Pick your poison, but be sure to make it clear that you aren't interested. And don't just ignore her...not only will she probably not just go away without asking you again, but if you don't even think enough of her to tell her that you're not interested she'll be even more hurt than if you told her you thought she was ugly.

Answer 8

Negotiate with her...Tell her to wear a paper bag over her head and you will take her out, but that doesn't help with the weight issue..damn...your in a rut man...

I agree with the other people....treat her like pretty girls treat the geeks and over weight people....people call you shallow but i bet you that the ones calling you shallow are just as bad. I am sure that if they are beautiful then they won't date a fat and ugly guy right...

Answer 9

Whatever you do don't embarrass her (which it doesn't sound like you would). I would balance the bad news with a compliment. Tell her you are flattered and impressed with her courage and honesty for letting you know- but you are interested in someone else! Good Luck!!!

Answer 10

Aw that is sad ; (

Just be nice to her and be her friend.

DO NOT say anything or do anything to hurt her feelings.

She is probably a wonderful person who would love you with all her heart!!! Feel flattered that she likes you.

Keep in mind - what goes around comes around. React in the same way you would want someone to react if the roles were reversed!!!!

Answer 11

Answer it the same way that you would want it answered if it were you. Your answer could turn you into a scuz ball or a really neat guy to her, and all of her friends. Word gets around quickly.

You can be honest and say that you just don't find any romantic spark and that there are too many differences for to be any more than distant friends.pp