I am a 21 yr old virgin. I am skinny and somewhat attractive. But I wanted to hold my virginity till marriage as part of my beliefs. Now I am getting nervous about the first time and wondering if I should get practice. I dont want to be like a clumsy mess and screw everything up when the time comes. Should I hold my virginity till marriage and not worry about not having experience. Or should I head to the bars and get some experience first. ;)
2007-11-10 06:50:22 · 38 answers · asked by DaisyDUke22 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Haha, keep your virginity. Your future husband will respect you so much more. After some practice with your hubby, you won't be clumsy at all. Most of my guy friends have told me that they'd rather have good girl (as far as in a relationship) who doesn't know much about sex, than a slutty girl who is really good in bed. Then they can teach her!
2007-11-10 06:54:18 · answer #1 · answered by Misty Dawn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear Daisey:
Why did you hold out so long if you were not going to follow through with your commitment. Holding out until you get married may have greater meaning to you than going out somewhere and getting experience. Then all will have been a waste of time. You are now being tempted to be promiscuous. Giving yourself to someone who will dump you after the one night stand is over, perhaps giving you disease.
Now here is my story, hope it will help. I was a virgin when I got married. My wife was too and we had great sex. Some of the most intense I have ever had. After loosing her to illness after 12 and a half years, I experiences many people. I was promiscuous. Thank God I did not get something, but sex is the same but with different people. Sex is in your own mind and some will be better than others based on the experience.
What I'm trying to help you with is that experience is fun but risky. In one way I was glad I was a virgin. Something I could share with my wife who was too. Yet I have always enjoyed experiencing passion with women. I could never be a Priest.
of the Catholic faith if not for that reason alone. I have sinned in the eyes of the Bible, but encourage you to listen to that still small voice inside that teaches you right from wrong.
Hope this helps. Rev. TomCat
2007-11-10 07:04:16 · answer #2 · answered by Rev. TomCat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh good grief -I can see some smart Alic answers in your future !!!!!
If you are asking this seriously I will advise that you get your practice and experience from a loving and wonderful partner who is devoted to you forever in marriage.
Sex comes naturally and gets better with time and 'practice' as your love and trust in one another grows.
You can pick up a lot more than a little experience in a bar,or with an uncommitted man.
I waited . I'm glad I did !
2007-11-10 07:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by Bemo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't just throw your virginity away like that!! I also don't entirely believe you should wait until marriage, as sometimes everything is great except the sexual chemistry - and then you would be kind of stuck! I think you should just enjoy yourself - and if you find that special person, then take is slowly. There are many men out there who would gladly de-flower a virgin without a second thought - you don't want to do that - you would regret it!!!! Make it special. :)
2007-11-10 07:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by irene187901 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from someone who didn't wait...I would definitely advise you to wait. It would be so much more special that way. You will feel better about yourself for having waited. And like all these other people are saying, it really and truly does not matter if you are clumsy -- it is a natural process and any guy would be more than happy to show you how!!!
2007-11-10 07:00:35 · answer #5 · answered by animal lover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't, it's NOT worth it! Save yourself for the person you want to be with for the rest of your life. The person who truly loves you wont care if you are a tad bit uncomfortable or ignorant of sexual acts, he'll respect you MORE for it. He will know you are a virgin because you'll tell him. He wont expect you to be a sex wizard right off the bat.
Oh and if you go to a bar or something to get laid be prepared for an STD.
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I was stupid, I thought by my dad raping me that I wasn't a virgin. So I had sex with my boyfriends... What's funny is that when I did find the man I was going to marry it finally felt right and I was able to find pleasure from it. I wish I had been a virgin when I married my husband.
2007-11-10 06:56:20 · answer #6 · answered by Joyous Mommy ♥'s her ßoys 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep your virginity till you marry if that is what you're saving it for. No need to practice. Believe me there is no why to screw it up. Don't worry about not having experience. Whoever you marry believe me will be happy to show you how and will especially love that you didn't practice with anyone else before him..
2007-11-10 06:55:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all, who cares 'bout experience! I mean, if waitin' till your marriage is your beilief, then hold on to it! Your husband will understand your a "clumsy mess" when you doin' it for the first time! C'mon, wait till marriage since you beilieve it in! and your husband will prob. feel special and sex will be ten times more romantic cause your first time, will be with the man of your dreams! =))) best of luck <3
2007-11-10 06:56:13 · answer #8 · answered by <3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must do what you feel is right, but dont ever sacrifice your beliefs and standards out of fear of what someone else might think. What they think isnt nearly important as you, and your beliefs it is what you've lived for this long. Anyone who truly cares about you will be patient and understanding when it comes to that. Whatever you do, give it plenty of thought and time, consider asking someone for advice; who has been where you are, and who is where you want to be.
Strength and honor.
2007-11-10 06:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by samadhi161 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I would head to any bars, you may lose your virginity and find yourself with crabs. Sex is something special between two people that love each other. I don't see you screwing anything up on your honeymoon except the sheets. Don't just have sex because everyone else is. Save it for that special someone.
2007-11-10 06:56:08 · answer #10 · answered by Bryson 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋