My husband is in advanced individual training in the military and hmm?

Question

they were allowed their first overnite pass 2 weeks ago on that weekend i looked at his account online. He rented a hotel room at the marriott. I called the Sgt because i was suspicious and he told me they get sick of the barrox after 3 months and almost all of them leave to a hotel. So i let it go but just this past weekend he rented 2 rooms at marriott they have to leave the post with another male soldier so i thought maybe he payed for his room and he reinburted him cash i don't know. He also spends alot on these weekend like 500 dollars it's all very suspicious. I can understand one weekend away from the post but renting a hotel every weekend makes me think bad things i don't want to believe am i overeating i already sent him text messages saying he is a cheating piece of sht which he never responds to?

he only has 2 more weekends left then he comes back to the town where i live i moved out of our apt and am planing on getting a divorce i'm only 4 and a half hrs from the base he has no vehicle but could ask me to come up??

Answer 1

Just based on the weekends alone, I don't think you should assume he's cheating. I was in AIT, and me and my friends got a room pretty much every weekend. The barracks are miserable, especially on the weekends, and most people go to hotels and party. The bigger issue is that he hasn't asked you to come down for a weekend since you are so close. That is a little suspicious, but he might just be having fun with his friends. Maybe he just likes hanging out with his boys. There aren't usually a ton of females in AIT anyway, so it's pretty likely he's just hanging out with the guys. It sounds like it was only a few weeks between when they got their first pass and when he's done, so I don't think I'd worry about it. He's probably just having some fun, and not necessarily with any girls.

Answer 2

I can see him spending that much money on a weekend without actually cheating on you. Hotel rooms in Marriott run around $150 a night, that ain't exactly a cheap hotel. 2 nights would be about $300 for the hotel room alone. during training i would say alcohol for a week end could end up being $200 dollars. That's $500 dollars right there. Then take in to consideration 3 meals a day, cheapest meals being around $6 that would be another $36. Then you know soldiers go to the movies, bowling and stuff like that witch also costs money.
As far as money goes he may of actually cut some cost.

I do believe he should of talked to you and explained either before or immediately after how much and what he spent it on so you would not have these concerns.

Answer 3

don't worry about the hotel thing, they all do it my husband did it too every weekend, but he told me that it was because they don't want to go back to the barracks and they do things that aren't allowed on post, drinking, partying and hanging with females not cheating or sexual things just hanging out which isn't allowed in the barracks on post. maybe you should trust your husband a little more, the fact that you accuse him is probably why he hasn't asked you to come visit. i didn't visit my husband during his ait and i was only a few hours away but that was an agreement we had. if you cant trust him then you shouldn't be with him but that doesn't mean he's doing anything wrong.

Answer 4

Ok hunny i have just been nosey and seen the other questions you asked and in one it states that he just got his green card. I think he is taking you for a fool. I think he got what he wanted i.e his green card and to join the Army. You were never invited to his basic graduation i know a lot of army wives their husbands could not wait to see them at graduation. Its time to sit down and really think does this man love me or is it just to gain a green card. Like you said you have moved out and you want a divorce if thats what you really want then by all means go for it.

Answer 5

it is not unusual for guys to rent hotels on the weekends to throw huge parties in them and leave i know my husband rented one for a party it is a little suspectfull espcially because you live so near to the post hes at

it is your call relationship advice is the worst advice to ask for to anyone because they are not in your shoes nor do they know you or your husband all i advise is to think carefully about what your doing to you and your husband and marriage before you accuse him of things

if you really think something is going on then you need to be an adult about it instead of texting his phone accusing him of cheating and calling him names

you two need to talk about this and just because he doesnt ask you to come up there doesnt mean that you cant go see him it takes two to tango honey

Answer 6

Yes, he could have asked you to come up. But maybe he wanted to party with the boys and feel like on of them?

Answer 7

so let me get this straight.. without even giving him the benefit of the doubt, you accused him of cheating and called him names?! well no wonder he isn't talking to you. i wouldn't either.
Look, you either t rust him, or you don't. did you bother ASKING him, or are you sticking to just sneaking around behind his back being all suspicious and accusing him without allowing him the chance to explain?

Answer 8

I think he should have asked your permission to spend a weekend off-post, or at least given full disclosure beforehand. I am an ex-military male.

Answer 9

At least you base your relationship on trust. If you feel it necessary to stalk your husband, you probably shouldn't be married. To anyone.

Answer 10

Gee, I feel so sorry for your husband.