What should I do?

Question

Ok I am almost 14 I have been always feeling really sad since I was in the beginning of 6th grade my dad was in a car accident when It wuz in the middle of the summer that just passed, which made my sadness worse, I am homeschooled only get out when I go to the dentist or doctor which my mom tries to get the oppointments on the same day. I just stopped self harming because my mother found out and she wasn't really sad just like really angry. She grabbed me by my shirt and told me if she ever saw it again that was the last straw. When I feel sad I don't cry because I was told don't cry its just for people who can'thandel thier emotions. Sometimes when no one is looking I cry but usually I try and hold my tears back. I tried to kill myself once b4 but my friend stopped me he lives like an hour away from my house now cuz he moved. I always usually stay in bed all day, thats like 96% of the time. I don't know who I should go to not my sister I don't trust her my parents uh no. And the....

the rest of my family lives in New York so the only way I talk to them is by phone. And again I'm home schooled so it is hard to know where somone is working from online and stuff so I can't really tell anyone of my online teachers.

Answer 1

I'm sorry for the things that have happened and that you are so sad.

It is very good that you want to get help.

I don't know your mom, but I think that she would help you get some help if she knew how serious it is for you.

I do understand if you can't tell your mom though.

Go to the link below to find people you can call where you live and be honest with them about how you're feeling.

Answer 2

You need help, honey, and staying in the house all day and not going to public school and staying in bed all the time is not helping at all.

You need medication (from a psychiatrist) and you need therapy (from a therapist who you can talk to about your dad's death). Check out my source down below. They should be able to recommend a dr., therapist, and help you figure out how to pay for it. You can also chat with people just like you and see what kind of things they do to feel better.

You need to cry. You're very sad. Crying will release some of your emotions and lift a little burden off your shoulders.

In the meantime: Get up and down from bed at scheduled times.
Make sure to eat. Empty tummies make things seem much worse.
Get out and walk around the block or at least walk to the mailbox.
Find some interesting books to read.
Find a friend on line you can chat with...what about your friend, does he have IM?
Make sure every room you enter has as much sunshine as possible, and turn on all the lights if you're going to stay in that room.
Get a hobby or a pet. Something to help you look forward to getting up in the morning.

You need to realize, honey, that suicide is not going to solve your problems. Yes, it will erase the pain you're in right now, but it will also erase the joy that you may have in your future years. If you can find the right med, you can get your emotions under control, practice healthy habits, your future is wide open. College, career, house, dog, kids, husband who brings you flowers...the whole 9 yards is open to you. Unless you kill yourself first. Promise me that you will get help before you do anything drastic...

I've been in your shoes for 20+ years. The bad times are bad, but the good times, I can work, I can arrange flowers, I can take care of my family and plan parties for graduation. My husband is wonderful and we go out together to buy stuff and hold hands in the store. The bad times have been horrible, and I've wanted to end it many times. But the good times make the bad worth it.

Debbie

Answer 3

home schooling may not be the best choice for you. it sounds like you need a reason to get out of bed in the morning. you really need to get out and meet some people. soon you'll make some friends and remember what it was like to have fun. your dad wouldn't want this for you. he would want you to be happy...he's the one that died, you still have a life to live. i lost my dad 8 months ago and it's hard not to roll around in the sadness of it but i know he would be so sad to know that was going on. i believe in an afterlife and i believe that he sees me and i want to make him happy. a good place to meet friends is church. they all have youth groups that do things together.

Answer 4

try to let things pass you by a little more than you do. tell your parents that you want to go out and meet people. if they refuse then you could find someone on line to talk to. it really helps to talk to someone with similar problems.

Answer 5

start with getting up as soon as you wake,sling on a tracksuit and go for a good run,swim etc but never lay in bed it ruins your life.